luluhoney
Feb 5, 2010, 03:58 PM
I really need advice,I cannot stress how much my daughter has gone threw with her abusive partner and I think she's becoming ill and needs help,she's been with her partner for 3 yrs on and off and they have a daughter that's nearly 2,my daughter has always been depressed and had problems,but when she met her partner he made her feel good,within a month she fell pregnant of meeting this guy,and I actually liked him for the first year.until the baby was born that's when the problems started,she left him 3 times as she said he was controlling,abusive and hit her when drunk! He was always pleading for her back and she always did.throughout all these 3 yrs to keep things short he,hit her,stole her rent money,put her down and isolated her from everyone,I wouldent say he was a cheat because he wanted to be with her every single moment [if not working] and make sure she wasent seeing anyone,they had a break and both of them slept with someone else,she told him and he made out it was far more worse.he punched her in the face and stole her money,I won't lie,my daughter can be a very nasty person if she has had a drink and I mean a monster!! The last split they had they were trying for a baby but he left her for having a go at him when she had a drink and she was very nasty,she told him she was pregnant and he said he was coming back but then changed his mind because she was talking to an old friend even though she was female,a few mounths went by and me and her father really thought this was it,it took me 4 weeks to pick her up and she decided to have an abortion,in this time of split,he got with someone else and got her pregnant in which he made out he was happy and rubbed it in because my daughter also got with someone else too.she had the abortion and seemed happy with her boyfriend,until the ex came back as things did not work out with his REBOUND as they call it, and she split up with her boyfriend and got back with him,I just don't understand,why is she doing this to herself,she had the abortion also.does she need help? She is quite abusive herself and I think she has low self esteem,please help,I don't know how to get her out of this misery,although she is a brilliant mum,I'm worried she will fall back in the dark hole again .