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Cook87
Feb 2, 2010, 04:13 PM
Had sex with this girl... called her up a couple of days later and asked if she wanted to watch a movie with me at her place and she said OK... so I call her up to tell her ill be there in an hour and she says she`s watching something with a friend and I ask should I still come over and she was like not today??
What am I missing?

redhed35
Feb 2, 2010, 04:16 PM
Could I ask what age you are please?

Cook87
Feb 2, 2010, 04:18 PM
Im 22 why

Wondergirl
Feb 2, 2010, 04:19 PM
It sounds like there was no firm date and time. It's not a good idea to suddenly, when you're available, assume the other person is too. Obviously, she wasn't.

Try this: Make a date with her by calling her a week or even several days ahead and pinning down a specific time, place, and activity. "I'd love to take you ice fishing next Saturday morning. The fish start biting around 9.m., so how about if I pick you up at 8:30?"

See how that works? Then you'll have a plan, and no one is put on the spot.

J_9
Feb 2, 2010, 04:21 PM
Im 22 why

This is why...

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-sexuality/announcement-font-color-red-b-over-18s-only-font-b-b-u-read-before-posting-adult-sexuality-u-b.html

Cook87
Feb 2, 2010, 04:24 PM
I did I told her I'm getting off work ar 12am and that ill then come over and we can watch the movie but I got off work at 11pm and called her... then she told me that

redhed35
Feb 2, 2010, 04:24 PM
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/how-get-ex-girlfriend-back-437341.html

Your just out of a relationship,and perhaps in need of some comfort,and while I agree with wondergirls advice,perhaps she was just blowing you off,or not that into you.

Being so recently out of emotional turmoil,may make you come across as needy.

Cook87
Feb 2, 2010, 04:27 PM
This is why....

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-sexuality/announcement-font-color-red-b-over-18s-only-font-b-b-u-read-before-posting-adult-sexuality-u-b.html

OK got it I hope my question is not inapropriat

J_9
Feb 2, 2010, 04:30 PM
ok got it i hope my question is not inapropriat

Nope, not at all! :D

Cook87
Feb 2, 2010, 04:33 PM
It sounds like there was no firm date and time. It's not a good idea to suddenly, when you're available, assume the other person is too. Obviously, she wasn't.

Try this: Make a date with her by calling her a week or even several days ahead and pinning down a specific time, place, and activity. "I'd love to take you ice fishing next Saturday morning. The fish start biting around 9.m., so how about if I pick you up at 8:30?"

See how that works? Then you'll have a plan, and no one is put on the spot.

I did I told her I'm getting off work ar 12am and that ill then come over and we can watch the movie but I got off work at 11pm and called her... then she told me that

Wondergirl
Feb 2, 2010, 04:37 PM
i did i told her im getting off work ar 12am and that ill then come over and we can watch the movie but i got off work at 11pm and called her... then she told me that
You backed up the date a whole hour. She was still doing her evening stuff and not mentally ready for you to suddenly descend into her life ahead of when you had said you would come over.

If she seems cool after this, I suggest you forget about her and just hang out with friends for a while and be busy with everyday stuff, thereby getting over your ex first like redhed suggested.

CravenMorhead
Feb 2, 2010, 04:45 PM
I concur with wondergirl.

Never ascribe to malice what can be easily explained otherwise.

mistyjane
Feb 2, 2010, 05:00 PM
You had sex with this girl and for the first date you want to go to her house and watch a movie at 11 pm?.
If I was her I would think you just planning to sleep with me again.When you want a girl not to think you just want to have sex with her you need to date out of a place where it could end in sex.
Ask her out for a date at the restaurant or a walk...
This will make her feel more comfortable.

binx44
Feb 2, 2010, 05:08 PM
I agree that maybe after you and her talked she might of felt that you coming over so late was to have sex again and only that. I do think that maybe taking her out on a date somewheres instead of late night at her house might make her feel more comfortable. But then you never know. Me personally I wouldn't sleep with someone before I got to know them more but everyone is different and I am not here to judge. Have you talked to her since then? I know when I have a date it being moved ahead causes a bit of anxiety for me and it does make me want to call it off for the day. But once I get to know someone that all changes. Try taking it slow, you did just get out of a relationship. Does she know this. You might be coming off as needy but you may not be.. Sometimes things like that are hard to tell..

Cook87
Feb 2, 2010, 05:14 PM
You had sex with this girl and for the first date you want to go to her house and watch a movie at 11 pm?.........
If i was her i would think you just planning to sleep with me again.When you want a girl not to think you just want to have sex with her you need to date out of a place where it could end in sex.
Ask her out for a date at the restaurant or a walk...
This will make her feel more comfortable.

I didn't want to have sex with her...
Just wanted to chill
Should I text her or call or something

binx44
Feb 2, 2010, 05:19 PM
Ahh yes hun.. but she might not of known that that was not your intention... mixed signals maybe.. I will admit sometimes things are hard to tell

Cook87
Feb 2, 2010, 05:21 PM
ahh yes hun.. but she might not of known that that was not your intention... mixed signals maybe.. i will admit sometimes things are hard to tell

I work long hours and I'm only free late nights and she told me that she sleeps late anyway so I thought would be a nice idea... :-(

binx44
Feb 2, 2010, 05:23 PM
Well just talk to her again.. but don't call too often if she doesn't answer.. you could always see a late show.. or maybe go to a pub that is open late for a late night dinner

mistyjane
Feb 2, 2010, 05:34 PM
i work long hours and im only free late nights and she told me that she sleeps late anyway so i thought would be a nice idea..... :-(
OK you work and everything but you won't say you don't have any time when you're free in the day... Really I think it is important for you to choose a place in public and not too late.and yes don't bombard her with calls I suggest you send her a small text message.(in the morning!)

Wondergirl
Feb 2, 2010, 05:43 PM
i work long hours and im only free late nights and she told me that she sleeps late anyway so i thought would be a nice idea..... :-(
Could you arrange another movie date after you get off work, maybe pick up something to eat on your way over, sit and watch the movie with her, chat a bit, munch on the food, but otherwise behave yourself?

Cook87
Feb 2, 2010, 05:52 PM
Could you arrange another movie date after you get off work, maybe pick up something to eat on your way over, sit and watch the movie with her, chat a bit, munch on the food, but otherwise behave yourself?

Yes I could... but I don't know about her

mistyjane
Feb 2, 2010, 06:14 PM
I know I'm repeating myself but if you try to see her late at home even with some food and a great movie... Warning! This looks like something that will end up in love making...
If she slept with you this first time she may be afraid that you could think she's too easy so try to prouve her you don't feel this way and you think she's a girl you can date and not just have sex with... Restaurant is always a good idea...
You decide.

Wondergirl
Feb 2, 2010, 06:27 PM
Yes i could..... but i dont know about her
If she's willing to try again for a late night movie date, go for it. If she makes a move on you during the movie, gently push her away and tell her you want to get to know her now, find out who she is and what interests her. If she still won't leave you alone, pop the movie out of the DVD player, tell her good night, and go home.