I have been trying to get pregnant only 3 months and no luck yet. But for some reason I'm starting to get scared that I can't get pregnant. Is that crazy? How long did it take you to get pregnant with your first child?

I know how you feel but I wouldn't worry too much you have only been trying 3 months. My husband and I have have been trying for 2 years. I am deathly afraid that I can't get pregnant or it is my husband. But like I said u have only been trying for 3 months don't think about it have fun with it. That's what everyone keeps telling me don't think about it or worry about it it will happen when it happens. Believe I am so sick :-X of hearing that but it is true what else can u do?

I already have a 2 year old son and me and my husband want to try for another baby. When we have sex we don't use condoms and weeks later my period comes? I want to have another baby so my son can have some company, I am going to see my doctor soon so I think he is going to refer me to a hospital so hopefully I will have some idea as to why I'm not getting pregnant. We have been trying for a good 5 months but still nothing can anyone give me some advice?

ameena,
I know what you mean, by saying that you have been having sex, and not pregnant. I am in the same boat as you. My husband and I have been trying since Apirl 2004, and I am not pregnant yet. I have 2 miscarriages. My doctors. Are trying really hard to figure out why I am having miscarriages, and why I can't get pregnant. My dr. told me that when I start my period that is day 1. Around days 10, 12, 14, 16 take an ovalation test to see if you are ovaltion. That should help. After I do that I have to go and have some blood work done. My dr. has said something about having dye put into my tubs, to make sure my eggs are not getting stuck in there. May just want to talk to your dr. about something like that, or a mild form of fertinty drugs. That about all the information I have now. If you want to talk more about this you can e-mail me at [email protected]. I hope that I have been some help to you. :)

I feel the same way, I have two children aged 5 and 7 who I fell pregnant with the first month of trying and now we are trying for a third child. I came off the pill on January 1st and we have tried throughout both cycles and no luck :(
I even bought ovulation predictor kits and had sex on all the right days but still nothing.. :mad: It is soooo depressing and I am worried that maybe my husband is smoking too much and that's why I can't get pregnant :confused: Or maybe its from being on the pill although I have had breaks during the last 5 years since my son was born.
I did not notice any egg-white fertile mucus during my cycles.. maybe that's another reason why I can't get pregnant. :confused:

Oh.. I hate this waiting game. :mad: I have such sympathy for all of you lovely ladies who have been trying for years to get pregnant. 2 months and I'm already out of my mind!! :eek:

If any of you are having trouble getting pregnant, my unprofessional advice would be to see your Dr. There are many simple things he/she can do to detect any fertility problems. I, of course, and speaking from experience. After 2 years of trying I finally got diagnosed with polycystic ovarian disease (PCOD aka PCOS) and scar tissue in my fallopian tubes. There are blood tests and a HSG test that your Dr. can perform. It may be well worth the trip to the Dr. Feel free to reply if you have any questions. I've been through so much with respect to fertility problems I feel like a pro!

Right now we are going through in vitro so, please, keep your fingers crossed as I should be implanted toward the end of the month! I need all the luck and prayers I can get. Thanks!

Hi, I am now 9.5 weeks pregnant. ;) So I think sometimes its just a matter of being patient & not always something wrong with us :p
Good luck everyone else! :)

Hey!.
I've been with my b/f for almost two years and for 9 months we haven't been using protection at all, I'm only young I just turned 18 and I don't want to get pregnant yet but I'm just scard that I'll won't get pregnant at all. Something else I'm worried about... every thing comes back out after we have sex, like all the and that, is that sorpose to do that? Some people get pregnant with the frist time having sex so why can't I :confused: what are the reasons you can't get pregnant??

Hi Kaydee,

You say that u don't want to get pregnant but are not using any protection and seem to be disappointed that you are not getting pregnant? If you really don't want to get pregnant, use some method of contraception which your doctor can help u with and then worry about any fertility problems when the time comes that u do want to conceive. I am sure there is nothing wrong with you and it is normal for fluids to come out of you after intercourse. After all, its gravity ;)

I think you need to decide whether you are trying to conceive or not! :rolleyes:

Take care :p

TROOPER12,
Aren't you an 18-year-old boy who wrote in complaining that your girlfriend won't give you head, but she'll do anything else and if she loved you she'd do what you say? I'm not sure your proselytizing about marriage and sexuality is really warranted here.
(Ladies, check out his post in the relationships section.)

So, trooper12 and packert115, you are the same person? And is my guess correct that when you used to post as Mike Porter you were banned? I hope I am wrong here. (The "is that clear" and the poor grammar kind of gave you away.)
Best of luck!

:) Hi,

I just wanted to say to all the people trying to get pregnant and worrying after three month if they are infertile, or if its normal to wait so long to conceive to just relax. The truth is that only a very small percentage of couples are infertile around 1 to 3 % It is well known that it takes most healthy couples at least one to two years to conceive a baby. The reason for this is that a woman is only fertile when she ovulates and she has a time of approximately 14 hours to fertilize the released egg. True there are lucky woman who get pregnant the first time of trying, but this is only because they got lucky in the time, unfortunately the rest of us have to work at it.

I have never for example used contraception, I´m a 26 six year old female and I feel that I am not yet financially secure to give my child the future and education e.c.t it deserves. I have however been married for seven years. The reason I haven´t conseived is because I know excatly when I release an egg, if you are trying to conceive but you have sex outside the fourteen hour period I am the proof that you can´t make a baby.

My husband and I are booth fertile and healthy, so back to my point if your not getting pregnant its usually to do with the timing, as any doctor will point out. A good method to help you conceive is Cycle Beads since they show you the exact days when you are likely to get pregnant. Cycle Beads are available to buy on line, they are the method I use so as not conceive .

Another Tip: A friend of mind who couldn't conceive visited the doctor, and he told her that she should not have sex with her husband throughout the month and that they should only have sex on the days when her egg was released, he also said that if her husband mastrubated a lot that this decreased his spem count.

Hope this helped

Hi,
For the older woman ou there who are worrying about conceiving since its taking so long with their third or fourth child I found this article.

http://msnbc.msn.com/id/4499301/

It’s unfair, but as we get older, our eggs develop quality-control issues. It gets harder — and takes longer — to get pregnant.

For women between 19 and 26, there’s a 50 percent chance of achieving pregnancy in one menstrual cycle, assuming they have intercourse at the time of ovulation.

For women in their late 30s, this falls to 30 percent. In other words, there’s a 70 percent chance each month that you won’t conceive.

Equally unfair, miscarriage rates rise with age. For 35-year-olds, the rate of pregnancies ending in live births is half that for women in their 20s. By age 45, it is down 95 percent.

Each egg and sperm cell contains half the chromosomes needed to make a complete embryo. These chromosomes are time-vulnerable. When asked to do their share in creating the embryo, they no longer do so satisfactorily. They break, collapse or go to the wrong place.

It’s those chromosomal abnormalities that cause most miscarriages — it’s natures way of stopping the development of a malformed fetus.

But you needn’t feel totally fertility-challenged. There are things you can do to make the most of every cycle:

Time intercourse properly
An egg is ready for fertilization during ovulation, or 14 days before your period. If your cycle is short, you may ovulate even if you are still bleeding. You should be having intercourse during ovulation.

Start early, not late
Because sperm can live for a week inside your cervix waiting to fertilize an egg, start trying to conceive before you ovulate. You can start trying on day 10, repeating every day or two. Once released, an egg can be fertilized for only 24 hours, so you won’t get pregnant if you have intercourse a day after ovulation.

See your gynecologist if your cycle is shorter than 21 or longer than 35 days. You may not be ovulating.

Take your temperature
If you’re not sure when you ovulate, you can figure it out by taking your basal body temperature (BBT) each morning with a special thermometer, available in drugstores. (Your BBT is the temperature of your body at rest.) When you ovulate, your body temperature rises almost half a degree. Alternatively, you can use an ovulation kit or mini-computer that tests for a pituitary hormone that rises during ovulation.

I have been trying to get pregnant only 3 months and no luck yet. But for some reason I'm starting to get scared that I can't get pregnant. Is that crazy? How long did it take you to get pregnant with your first child?It's been a while until I found your post, but have you and your husband seen a Fertility Specialist?
Most men get a little embarrassed, but if yours loves you and also wants children he will take it upon himself to get tested too. There is so much progress made in this field that there should be a chance for you to achieve your goal with a little work and determination. Good luck, and keep us posted.




Overview

Fertility issues are any factors affecting the ability to conceive (become pregnant). Infertility is the inability to create or sustain a pregnancy after one year of consecutive attempts. This includes recurrent miscarriage and can apply to both women and men.

Fertility treatments include medications (e.g., ovulations drugs such as human menopausal gonadotrophin), assisted reproductive technology (e.g., in vitro fertilization), artificial insemination, intrauterine insemination, surrogacy and even adoption.

You can join this site too... as a patient.



http://obgyn.healthcentersonline.com/quizzes/obgynfertilityquiz.cfm

The above is an infertility quiz.


http://obgyn.healthcentersonline.com/fertilityissues/
Also some articles and issues you can read. This is where the quote came from..

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/16/16_11_7.gif (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001_ZN) http://www.rmanj.com/?OVRAW=infertility%20treatment&OVKEY=infertility%20treatment&OVMTC=content
The above is an introduction the Reproductive Medicine Association in California, but probably have sites elsewhere that you may want to check out.
Sorry about the 'bold' type, but I can't get rid of it...

Hey Kaydee

I Understand where you are coming from I am 17 and I have been trying everything to get pregnant and there is noway that its happing and he has done it inside me so many time and it is really normal for to come out of you when a guy dose it inside you it always comes out yes that is what makes you get pregnant but I'm starting to think that isn't good enough to get me pregnant but I have been trying for about 10 months now and I can't get anything but remember it could be your b/f too it isn't always us girls guys have a part in this too so if I where you I would go to the Doctors and ask them to look at you and have your b/f go to the doctors and make sure it isn't him don't put all the blame on yourself kk hunn if this don't help I'm sorry that's all I can tell you for now because I'm still trying to find out why I can't and what's wrong with me at the same time when I find out more I will let you know OK

:)

Me and my partner were trying for 15 months and only now am I pregnant. Keep your chin up you will get there

I have been trying to get pregnant only 3 months and no luck yet. But for some reason I'm starting to get scared that I can't get pregnant. Is that crazy? How long did it take you to get pregnant with your first child?
My first 3 were instant! I am trying so hard right now I think age has taken the tole on me... but I feel the same my kids are 15-4-3... not that long ago I've never "trid hard'

I have been trying to get pregnant only 3 months and no luck yet. But for some reason I'm starting to get scared that I can't get pregnant. Is that crazy? How long did it take you to get pregnant with your first child?
Sometimes it is just something as simple as getting your tubes cleaned out. As soon as I had this procedure done, I was expecting the next month...

I'm 20 years old and I've been trying to have a child for the last year and a half. I have no idea what (or if!) I'm doing wrong. I've done nothing but worry over the last 6 months that it's me that can't conceive but recently I've been thinking that maybe it's my boyfriend. I was reading that alcohol and drugs have an effect on him so my concern goes out to him now. Not saying that he a complete druggie... we was on hard drugs a year ago but he quit them now... all he does is smoke pot... but I guess that would stiff have some effect on the problem. Anyway, If you guys have any comments or opinions or just some advice to help me It'd be much appreciated! I have a doctors appointment coming up to see what's going on inside so hopefully it'll be some good news!
Thanks!

This is an old thread. The worrying is probably what's wrong along with the drug use on your bf's part.

Great idea to bring a child into this world when you "was" doing hard drugs, and your boyfriend just "smokes pot." Grow up a little first sweetheart.

This thread was started 2yrs ago... I don't think the op is even subscribed any longer

Yea I know how you feel. I've been only trying for 6 months. But my fiancé and I smoke week and cigarettes. BUT I did this stuff last year and I got pregnant by a kid who did a bunch of other drugs. But any ways, as I been trying lately, I was also stressed. My fiancé would go to Delaware all week and come home whenever. He wouldn't be reliable when it came to making plans. But lately he's been working here, and coming home every night. So this is where I'm getting at... don't stress, and don't always look up to be on the dot to try and conceive. It'll suck even more when you do exactly what you're suippose to and not get pregnant.

[QUOTE=rach0513] I know how you feel but I wouldn't worry too much you have only been trying 3 months. My husband and I have have been trying for 2 years. I am deathly afraid that I can't get pregnant or it is my husband. But like I said u have only been trying for 3 months don't think about it have fun with it. That's what everyone keeps telling me don't think about it or worry about it it will happen when it happens. Believe I am so sick :-X of hearing that but it is true what else can u d

Hi,
I understand how you feel. It took my husband and I 7 months to get pregnant and along that journey I often felt like it would never happen. It took a friend of mine 13 months to get pregnant with her first child. View it as a process that takes time. I think it is important to be realistic about it and to keep positive. The probability is that you will be pregnant within 12 months. Remember this and edit those negative thoughts out.

Hi,
I understand how you feel. It took my husband and I 7 months to get pregnant and along that journey I often felt like it would never happen. It took a friend of mine 13 months to get pregnant with her first child. View it as a process that takes time. I think it is important to be realistic about it and to keep positive. The probability is that you will be pregnant within 12 months. Remember this and edit those negative thoughts out.

Hun this is three years old. Chances are this person may not even be an active member anymore.

I have been trying to get pregnant only 3 months and no luck yet. But for some reason I'm starting to get scared that I can't get pregnant. Is that crazy? How long did it take you to get pregnant with your first child?
I have the same problem I've been trying to get pregnant over one year I'm so worried

I've been trying to get pregnant now for 2 years and I have only got pregnant once but lost it and I'm still trying and still every month I get my period I really don't know what to do its really getting me down and I'm worried ill never beable to have a child what should I do if anyone can help me please do so thank you :)

Dear Saidas,

My husband and I tried for 2 full years before we got pregnant with our first child. He is 2 now, and we have been trying for about a year and a half to get pregnant again with no luck. We are both young, we had our first child in our middle 20's, and I am now on my late 20's, so the age thing doesn't really apply to us. I don't know why it takes us so long.

We also have other friends, the same age and everything, who also got pregnant after 2 years of trying. Maybe it's just harder to conceive now, with all the chemicals and stuff. I think you still have plenty of time before you start to panic.

Me and my partner av been trying for a baby for 3 years now and still I isn't got pregnant (scary) I feel left out because all of my sister's av a least 3 kids each & id like to av my own child. Myself and my Bf don't even use condoms as he likes it you know what men are like lol.. I really hope I can av kids well if not id adopt a child and class Her/Him As My Own .
Can anyone give me some advice?
Thank's !

Try not to worry too much. Three months may seem so long to you because you really want this and its not happening as fast as you would like it to. My husband and I were in the same boat. I would have put money on it that there was something wrong with me. We were trying for 7 months and finally when I least expected it I found out I was pregnant! Now I am 9 weeks 6 days.

I have been trying to get pregnant only 3 months and no luck yet. But for some reason I'm starting to get scared that I can't get pregnant. Is that crazy? How long did it take you to get pregnant with your first child?
Hi I'm madeleine there's lots of things you can try I've started taking a tablet called pregnacare recently, I've been trying for over 3 years now! So hang in there sweety and don't try to hard! But you could also try folic acid, don't be scared there's lots of different things out there. Take care and good luck.

I know how you feel & I know how hard it can be. My husband & I have been trying to for a year & a half. My sister in law just got pregnant. It hurts to be around someone so close to you who is pregnant & seems to enjoy letting the entire world know & always talking about it & constantly reminding EVERYONE. She didn't want to have kids in the first place. Its hard being around someone who gets pregnant so easily & didn't want it in the first place but its something you got to deal with:(. But I hope it happens for you. I won't tell you to stop worrying & not think about it because Ive been told countless times to do that & its easier said than done. I will wish you luck & hope you have better luck than I am having.

To whom this may concern
I was wonder if I could get pregnant again do to me having an abortion five years ago and I just had my iud tooking out and it seen like I can't get pregnant:( :(

Hi have a 3 year old son... been with my current boyfriend for 3 years and never used contriception and still not pregnant , he smokes a lot is that the reason ? I am really frustrated as my son is becoming one of those only child brats (lol) and he needs a sibling what's wrong with me I am at my wits end? Xx

I have been having unprotected sex with my boyfriend for over a year now and I have never fallen pregnant I am worried that I can't have babies and that I am too old to conceive. I am also worried that his smoking is damaging his sperm. Are there any home fertility tests that a woman can take??

I am Diabectic and I can't get pregnant! Me and my boifriend tried on and off for a year and a half buh nuttin... and then October 16 I went on the depo shot and I got off iton the 16 of January 2009 ten we been tryinq till this day wats wrong wit me??

Hi I know exactly how you feel hun, me and my boyfriend started trying for a baby 2 months ago nearly and I can't help either that dreaded feeling of will it ever happen but I am sure it will, I think that because we want it to happen and it does not happen when I want it to like now!! But it is just a matter of being patient and biding our time, good look hunny x

Hi everyone I'm 17.. I'm having irregular periods and having discharge everydayy I'm worried I cannot get pregnant? Can anyone help me? x :(

I was told that I would never have kids without the help of fertility pills or invitro, and I have a 2 year old and one on the way and I had a miscarriage a few months before I got pregnant. You just have to have some patience. Take your time and enjoy the baby making process. 3 months is not a long enough time frame for trying. Some people are just Really fertile and others it just takes some time.

I was wondering why its taking me so long to get pregnant. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years and have never used condoms. I've had 2 miscariages and for some reason I never can stay pregnant. It also doesn't help that I've had gonarea then clamidia but they were both taken care of as soon as I found out ( it was before me & my boyfriend got together).. and I guess I also have hpv, my last 3 paps have came back abnormal and I had to get cells frozen off 1 time last year and ill have to go back again soon. I'm just so frustrated I feel like there's no hope for me. I've done everything I can and yet it hasn't happened. Maybe there scar tissue I need to get removed? I don't know what to do anymore I just need some advice! Is anyone in the same boat as me? :(

I am've been married for 3 years, and now we're ready to start trying. Six months into our marriage my husband was diagnosed with kidney failure and I ended up giving him my kidney since we found we were compatible. The dr. said I had to wait 1 year after the transplant to start trying. I am ready now! I've been 3 months trying, and still nothing. I am so worried that maybe the rejections meds he takes could have lowered his sperm count (they told us that would be a side effect) or that maybe I am just not getting pregnant because of me! It sucks to live int his waiting suspense... When I got my period this month I was so depressed )=

I can't wait to have that positive test!

This thread was started in 2004.

I been with this my b/f for most going to be to 2 yeears in auguest sice 3 weeks we start going ut we had sex since then i been having sex why can't i come out pregnant?? Im scary

Girl do not worry. There are many women who have some issues how to get pregnant. I had then too. I have read that there are many connections between your optimistic subconscious mind so I would try to keep happy at first place. As second advice do not keep thinking too much about getting pregnant. I know good website as a source - <a href="http://getpregnant101.org/">http://getpregnant101.org</a>. I hope that it will help you to solve your fertility problems.

Hey, I thought for ages that I couldn't get pregnant! I had a really gut feeling about it! Then in mid march I found out that I was pregnant and it wasn't planned! I found about around 3 weeks ago I'm having a little boy and everythings going great... if your really concerned about it go to the doctors for some advice, I'm sure they would be able to reassure you :)

I am 20... I have been with my fiancé for almost a year we have never used condoms before... I am trying to get pregnant but it has not happened yet I'm kind scared I can't get pregnant. In my previous relationship I tried to get pregnant also I was in that relastionship for two years but it never happened. It kind worries me now that I have been trying to get pregnant for about three years now and nothing has happened... please give me some advise( email me at... [email protected])

I have scoliosis and I was trying to get pregnant for 3 months now and it doesn't seem to workk..

I am 19 & I've been trying with my fiancé for almost 7 months.Nothing has happened yet. I have had p.i.d and Im scared that I can't get pregnant. I have tried everything including ovulation test. We've had sex on my ovulation day and still nothing. Im so nervous. I don't understand what I am doing wrong. Ive even sat with my legs up and a pillow under me and made sure nothing came out and that didn't even work. :(. Ive tried everything. Help please

I'm 21 and been with my partner a yr now and its only the last 4-5 months we've been trying for one and nothing were literally having sex everday and several times a day and he is v sexually active once or twice I've missed aperiod but when taken I pregnancy test no luck its kind of getting me down.. as every single one of my friends have kids and more are recently getting pregnant without trying just happens and some of them don't even want them.. I want to start my family now as I want a big family and don't want to be older than 30 having my kids I don't no what else to do I've gone to the doc and hospital but they say there is nothing wrong with me. My partner has a big family and all his siblings have loads of kids so I'm thikin its not him but perhaps I could be wrong... I have my fingers crossed and please god by my 22 in a few months ill be successful :) but good luck I no what your going through and your not alone :)

im 21 and been with my partner a yr now and its only the last 4-5 months weve been tryin for one and nothin were literally havin sex everday and several times a day and he is v sexually active once or twice iv missed aperiod but when taken i pregnancy test no luck its kinda gettin me down.. as every single one of my friends have kids and more are recently getting pregnant without trying just happens and some of them dont even want them.. i want to start my family now as i want a big family and dnt wanna b older than 30 havin my kids i dnt no what else to do iv gone to the doc and hospital but they say there is nothin wrong with me. my partner has a big family and all his siblings have loads of kids so im thikin its not him but perhaps i could b wrong.... i have my fingers crossed and please god by my 22 in a few months ill b sucessfull :) but good luck i no what your goin through and ur not alone :)

Try not to be too worried just yet. It can take quite a bit of time for some couples to become pregnant. Most will do so within the first year of trying, but some will naturally take a bit longer. Learn about your cycle and determine when you are most likely fertile so that you can concentrate more of your efforts around that time. Daily sex, while not usually a problem for most couples, is not necessary if it is feeling too much like a chore at times. Every other day, or 2-3 days, with perhaps a few more tries when you think you are getting close to ovulation will cover the bases timing wise.

If after a year of trying without success, you may want to consider some initial testing for both you and your partner. Just because you may have regular periods and he comes from a large family, does not mean there can't be some things that may need to be addressed so that you can be successful.

In the meantime, try not to focus too much on getting pregnant and enjoy your time together. Be sure that both of you are making lifestyle choices that can be helpful... quitting or cutting way back on smoking for example if that is involved, eating well, taking a prenatal vitamin for you with at least 400 mcg of folic acid in it, some regular exercise, and anything else you can think of that would be healthy changes.

On 17 of oct me and my boyfriend had sex he nutted in me and days after . I been throwing up and sick then on nov 9 imiss it then on the 10 it came on in little drops then it started coming on heavy later that day. I don't know what going on and no I am not nasty I'm done with school and have a good job pay . I hope I am we both really want a baby please tell me if I can be pregnant still I know some people get one last peroid when there pregnant I hope god bless me with one. Also I hope he do the same for you.

I have same problem with me that I am trying to get pregnant for last 5 months but still no result.:(
So *** help me out.

Me and my partner been trying since June last year and I am now starting to think I can't get pregnant

Me and my Finace have been trying for a baby since may 2010,I used to be on the pill I am 21 years old and was on my pill since 16 and came off it beginning of may 2010. I am worried as its been so long and no signs of a pregnancy test being positive. And when we do have sex its seems the fluids are coming straight back out and none staying in. HELP ME!

[B]I have to kids already my princess in 4 an son is 3... from my first merrage,, so now I'm married an been trying to for baby number 3... an been trying for 7 months.. what's going on help I went to the dr already an my pap was good what now... [/B Michelle mendoza...

I have same problem with me that I am trying to get pregnent for last 5 months but still no result.:(
So *** help me out.

Do u have any other kids...