I am in a relationship with someone who is married. I have been asking him about the divorce he "says" he is getting, and he never gives me a good answer so now I'm asking whoever can help me out on this. He has only been married a couple months so I know he can get an annulment. How long does an annulment/divorce take? He is allowed to be in a relationship with someone else during the divorce right? Does it cost a lot of money to get an annulment/divorce? I ask if he can be divorced within a couple of months and he says that's impossible. Is that true? I really need help on these questions so if anyone can help me out I would really appreciate it.

You're kidding, right?

Caughtup, it's stupid to get involved with a married man. As a woman, you should take into consideration the wife's feelings. Keep in mind that some married men will say anything to get you to sleep with them. They will also try to convince you that they're trying to get a divorce from their wives, but they don't leave their wives. I think you should have some respect for yourself and stay away from this married man. There's so many single guys out there. Find yourself someone who is single and doesn't have any excess baggage.

It is lying to you, he could walk out today and file for divorce if he wanted to.

And after you get done sleeping with him and he goes home, what does he tell her, sorry I was late working? Out playing golf?

Just call his wife and ask her when the divorce can happen, it will happen a lot faster.

The first legal step to a divorce is a separation agreement. If he is truly getting a divorce, there should be some documentation, if he has nothing to hide, then he shouldn't have a problem showing it to you.

I will however also agree with the others, this guy sounds like a flake.

It sounds like he's playing you. Find a single man, there are millions of them.

First of all, you've confused some moral issues with legal ones. The fact that he "says" he is getting a divorce but "never gives you a good answer" is, in my opinion, a red flag. But's that's a personal and moral issue. As far as whether he can get an annulment and how long it takes, that's a legal issue. As far as being "allowed" to be in a "relationship" during the divorce is another personal/moral issue, not a legal one. Any cost that would be involved in the actual divorce/annulment process would amount to lawyer and court fees. Of course, the total economic impact is more widespread when considering such accompanying legal issues as alimony, division of assets, child support if applicable, etc. To give you my own personal advice on this issue, I'd say forget about this one and find yourself a decent, upstanding man who's truly available to you without having to be sneaky or adulterous. But again, that's a personal issue, not a legal one.

Note if he getting a divorce his wife would be aware of it, give her a call and ask her, tell her he told you he was getting the divorce and you wanted to know how it was going.