You say my wife has to meet the requirements but can it be someone ex a uncle, aunt, friend.. how much do they need to make to sponcer me ? How long would it take if lets say my record was clean I have one petty theft which was a mistaminer and I did have a domestic violence but the charges where droped and the DA never picked it up..

Her tax return must reflect income of $19K for family of 2, additional is $4,675 per person, except in Hawaii and Alaska which are higher.

You should have your previous record expunged even you were not charged but arrest record could damage your immigration case. Contact experienced defense attorney...