After watching my daughters 3 children on dec 10 2009 for 4 days my daughter says christmas eve is for her husband family only her brother and sister were there last year with me my children are all 40 to 48 years old. How can my daughters husband control her and see doesn't say that's my mother I'm so hurt ove are spendind holidays alone I can't understand what I did wrong please help me

Holidays for married children's families, should be arranged long before the actual holiday so there are no expectations and assumptions about who is going to be with which set of parents.

Why not suggest that next Christmas be spent with you. Or, Christmas Eve at one place, and Christmas Day at the other parents home.

Extend an invitation early to all your kids. I'd say that Christmas 2010 should be your turn.