JRT_2
Jan 8, 2010, 10:50 AM
Ok, I'm 'in love' with this girl. There's a long & complicated story about it however. I'll start from the very beginning.
I was best friends with this boy in my year in school. We often talked to this female that he used to say he hated whenever she entered conversation with anyone from our group. So it was a huge surprise to me that one day they end up going out & tell no one until the day is over. He had never kissed someone before, but lied that he had, & it took them six months to even kiss. He was apparently "sweet" to her, but he always treated her like crap & she was so 'in love' with him that she didn't even realize it until they were completely over. I & my friends had a huge fallout with this boy & I end up arguing with the girl over it all & we never spoke for about 4 months. They then broke up after about 5-7 months one time & she was devastated. She was depressed every time anyone seen her. He then told her they reason he broke up with her was because it wasn't working out because in the last week they did nothing but argue constantly & they were usually always there to cheer each other up, but they were both feeling down & just couldn't so he ended it. I tried to be her friend during it all & we became close. The boy was apparently crying one day in class & punched the table because he thought she was over him & that she had moved on to me, but she hadn't. They got back not long after that & things appeared to be running smoothly for a while for them. Then he started acting all depressed around her & done nothing but talk about her badly behind her back to her best friend. Her best friend didn't exactly agree with it but she still listened to him. Later someone over heard all of this & told her & she wasn't happy. She wasn't angry though, she probably blamed herself for not being good enough. Anyway, after about 2 months of it going from bad to worse, the summer break comes up & they don't see each other all to often during that. He then dumped her while she was at her bestfriends birthday over IM. I wasn't around at the time as I was on holiday, but when I got back & I discovered it & she seemed terrible. She even considered suicide at one point if it wasn't for one of her now bestfriends, she would most likely be dead. She seemed terrible for weeks afterwards & the boy continued to be as nasty as possible to her. He constantly talked about her & he couldn't stand the sight of her. I grew closer to her as time went on, then I discovered she liked me. At first I thought it was a terrible idea, but then people kept trying to convince me to do it & even her ex said we would end up together soon enough. I thought about it for a while & when I finally decided I wanted to do something about it, she now liked someone else. I had never had a girlfriend before & thought that this could be good for both of us, I could help her get over him & we could make each other happy. I told her how I felt & she seemed rather annoyed at the whole us not liking each other at the same thing. I tried to be the same as before with her but it felt different, like better different. One Friday I walked her to the bus stop & things seemed automatically right between us. She missed about 7 buses because we sat & talked for a while. There was definitely a connection. Later that night, she told me she liked me & I was over the moon, but I was a bit too nervous to ask her out. Eventually, her friend who talked her out of suicide talked her into asking me out, but she then asked him if he could ask me. I asked if I could talk to her about it but she said that I was to talk to him. After about 30 minutes, I finally said yes. I couldn't see her anytime during that weekend because she had been grounded. I also wouldn't let her tell anyone about it, they knew she had a boyfriend, they just didn't know who. So we went to school & everyone found out & her ex didn't seem too happy, but he said all that nasty stuff about her & I thought there was no way he would have feelings for her & wouldn't be bothered too much. He was bothered though. Things between me & this girl got really good & I was completely convinced she was perfect. She's a rather flirty girl though, & I couldn't go out with her when she went out with her friends because I had to go somewhere else. Every time she went out I would phone her afterwards, but she would always complain how other people complained she was all over the boy she liked before we started going out. This hurt me a lot. Her best friend now liked this boy & she was usually unhappy after they were out. I was in a bad mood for a week due to family issues that I didn't tell her about & she didn't seem too happy with me. She told me one Friday that she couldn't go out with me any longer & we broke up then & there. When I went home I sat & cried with my phone in my hand for 15 minutes wondering if I should call her, I eventually did & she apologized & told me that stress got to her & she didn't know what to do. We got back together after that. I wasn't too happy for the rest of that weekend & she was grounded for other reasons. I told her on the Sunday that I felt as though I meant nothing to her, we had a short argument & we broke up, then got back together 3 times that day. Her & her ex had grew to become close friends through all of this somehow. When we went to school things seemed different, but I thought they would get better. She dumped me on the Tuesday & later that night I found out she realized she liked her ex not long before she ended it. I was furious. I tried to be her friend. We got back on the next Tuesday after she said to me that she didn't like him anymore, but she then found out that he had liked her. Things seemed OK, not perfect. I couldn't really see her outside school because she had previously made plans with her bestfriends. The next week I was scared she would end it again & that was the last thing I wanted. She seemed closer to her ex & I panicked in case she liked him again. I told her about this & she broke up with me that night because she felt like I was accusing her of liking him when I was just scared of it happening. We shared a kiss on the Thursday at a bus stop & she started crying because she still liked me & wanted to go back out with me but she felt too confused about the whole situation. She seemed to be a little too friendly with her ex again, she denied liking him though. The next Wednesday she admitted to liking him & I was angry again, but I didn't let it show. I wanted to see her next day but she didn't want to in case we kissed & she would feel like she was just leading me on. I told her there was no chance that we would kiss, we did though. We continued to kiss many times after that & would just kiss if we seen each other after school. Then school finished & she talked to her ex through IM & would rarely talk to me. They don't know that I know that they then kissed that they never wanted anyone to know about & that continued to ask him out & he repeatedly said no until he became annoyed.
That's pretty much all that has happened so far. I'm just looking for tips on what I should do. Thanks if you spend your time reading any of this & attempt to help me.
I was best friends with this boy in my year in school. We often talked to this female that he used to say he hated whenever she entered conversation with anyone from our group. So it was a huge surprise to me that one day they end up going out & tell no one until the day is over. He had never kissed someone before, but lied that he had, & it took them six months to even kiss. He was apparently "sweet" to her, but he always treated her like crap & she was so 'in love' with him that she didn't even realize it until they were completely over. I & my friends had a huge fallout with this boy & I end up arguing with the girl over it all & we never spoke for about 4 months. They then broke up after about 5-7 months one time & she was devastated. She was depressed every time anyone seen her. He then told her they reason he broke up with her was because it wasn't working out because in the last week they did nothing but argue constantly & they were usually always there to cheer each other up, but they were both feeling down & just couldn't so he ended it. I tried to be her friend during it all & we became close. The boy was apparently crying one day in class & punched the table because he thought she was over him & that she had moved on to me, but she hadn't. They got back not long after that & things appeared to be running smoothly for a while for them. Then he started acting all depressed around her & done nothing but talk about her badly behind her back to her best friend. Her best friend didn't exactly agree with it but she still listened to him. Later someone over heard all of this & told her & she wasn't happy. She wasn't angry though, she probably blamed herself for not being good enough. Anyway, after about 2 months of it going from bad to worse, the summer break comes up & they don't see each other all to often during that. He then dumped her while she was at her bestfriends birthday over IM. I wasn't around at the time as I was on holiday, but when I got back & I discovered it & she seemed terrible. She even considered suicide at one point if it wasn't for one of her now bestfriends, she would most likely be dead. She seemed terrible for weeks afterwards & the boy continued to be as nasty as possible to her. He constantly talked about her & he couldn't stand the sight of her. I grew closer to her as time went on, then I discovered she liked me. At first I thought it was a terrible idea, but then people kept trying to convince me to do it & even her ex said we would end up together soon enough. I thought about it for a while & when I finally decided I wanted to do something about it, she now liked someone else. I had never had a girlfriend before & thought that this could be good for both of us, I could help her get over him & we could make each other happy. I told her how I felt & she seemed rather annoyed at the whole us not liking each other at the same thing. I tried to be the same as before with her but it felt different, like better different. One Friday I walked her to the bus stop & things seemed automatically right between us. She missed about 7 buses because we sat & talked for a while. There was definitely a connection. Later that night, she told me she liked me & I was over the moon, but I was a bit too nervous to ask her out. Eventually, her friend who talked her out of suicide talked her into asking me out, but she then asked him if he could ask me. I asked if I could talk to her about it but she said that I was to talk to him. After about 30 minutes, I finally said yes. I couldn't see her anytime during that weekend because she had been grounded. I also wouldn't let her tell anyone about it, they knew she had a boyfriend, they just didn't know who. So we went to school & everyone found out & her ex didn't seem too happy, but he said all that nasty stuff about her & I thought there was no way he would have feelings for her & wouldn't be bothered too much. He was bothered though. Things between me & this girl got really good & I was completely convinced she was perfect. She's a rather flirty girl though, & I couldn't go out with her when she went out with her friends because I had to go somewhere else. Every time she went out I would phone her afterwards, but she would always complain how other people complained she was all over the boy she liked before we started going out. This hurt me a lot. Her best friend now liked this boy & she was usually unhappy after they were out. I was in a bad mood for a week due to family issues that I didn't tell her about & she didn't seem too happy with me. She told me one Friday that she couldn't go out with me any longer & we broke up then & there. When I went home I sat & cried with my phone in my hand for 15 minutes wondering if I should call her, I eventually did & she apologized & told me that stress got to her & she didn't know what to do. We got back together after that. I wasn't too happy for the rest of that weekend & she was grounded for other reasons. I told her on the Sunday that I felt as though I meant nothing to her, we had a short argument & we broke up, then got back together 3 times that day. Her & her ex had grew to become close friends through all of this somehow. When we went to school things seemed different, but I thought they would get better. She dumped me on the Tuesday & later that night I found out she realized she liked her ex not long before she ended it. I was furious. I tried to be her friend. We got back on the next Tuesday after she said to me that she didn't like him anymore, but she then found out that he had liked her. Things seemed OK, not perfect. I couldn't really see her outside school because she had previously made plans with her bestfriends. The next week I was scared she would end it again & that was the last thing I wanted. She seemed closer to her ex & I panicked in case she liked him again. I told her about this & she broke up with me that night because she felt like I was accusing her of liking him when I was just scared of it happening. We shared a kiss on the Thursday at a bus stop & she started crying because she still liked me & wanted to go back out with me but she felt too confused about the whole situation. She seemed to be a little too friendly with her ex again, she denied liking him though. The next Wednesday she admitted to liking him & I was angry again, but I didn't let it show. I wanted to see her next day but she didn't want to in case we kissed & she would feel like she was just leading me on. I told her there was no chance that we would kiss, we did though. We continued to kiss many times after that & would just kiss if we seen each other after school. Then school finished & she talked to her ex through IM & would rarely talk to me. They don't know that I know that they then kissed that they never wanted anyone to know about & that continued to ask him out & he repeatedly said no until he became annoyed.
That's pretty much all that has happened so far. I'm just looking for tips on what I should do. Thanks if you spend your time reading any of this & attempt to help me.