SO... my boyfriend of a year and half broke up with me last Sunday. We are both in college and I go to school 3 hours away from him. We spend the summers and break together though and he comes down every other weekend and I go up. Anyway, this past weekend he said he didn't want to come down because he just wanted to spend time with his family and not be in the car for 6 hours. I was really selfish and we got into an argument because I wanted him to come. Anyway, we got over it (or forgot about it) and that weekend he stayed home and I stayed at school. He went out with the guys Saturday night and I didn't call or anything because I wanted him to have a good time. At about 3 am I called and said I was going to bed. He said OK, that he just got home, and that he was tired so he'd call me tomorrow. So, when I woke up Sunday there were 5 missed calls from him. I called him and he said, "we need to talk. I had a really good time with the guys last night and I don't think we should be together anymore."

He told me that he hasn't been happy for the past two months and that we've been arguing a lot. We had been arguing, but it was because school was stressful and everything else. But, whenever we saw each other, we didn't fight. We were so happy. I begged him to reconsider. He said he's already made up his mind.

The thing is, we have been friends for seven years, and been together for 2 years. He pursued for so long before I decided to be with him because I didn't want to ruin the friendship. He told me "If I had to think about the one right now no one else comes to mind." He told me he loved me before we were even together. The thing is, he honestly is the sweetest guy ever and he really isn't the type to just say things like that. He's really shy, I'm really outgoing, and we've always been different together because I bring him out of his shell. It's been like that since we've met.

Anyway, when he broke up with me he said he didn't want this relationship anymore. He said it didn't feel right anymore and that he just wanted to be alone. I begged him to think about it because he means so much to me. He said he already made his decision.

I really feel like he is the one. It's a feeling I can't describe and something I just can't let go. He has always told me I'm his soul mate, that I'm the one, how he can't wait to spend the rest of his life with me, how he can't go a day without talking to me because it makes him so miserable. He broke up with me once in February because he said he didn't know if he wanted a relationship anymore, but after I begged him to think about it, he called me after 3 days saying he was miserable and wanted me back. We got back together and he promised he would never break up with me. He gave me a promise ring at 6 months. We were each others firsts.

I called him Monday after the break up and we talked but nothing changed. I didn't call Tuesday or Wed. but I called THursday and told him I'd be home Friday so we should talk. He agreed. We went and played tennis on Friday then talked, but nothing changed. He said he wants to be alone, he doesn't want to have to answer to anybody, and he doesn't want to work at this anymore. I told him I loved him and I know he's the one and he said he doesn't think so anymore. I don't know how feelings change like that. Feeling that you've had for over 2 years, then in 2 months they're gone. I told him I loved him, he said "I know" I asked if we would ever get together again, he said "I don't see us ever getting back together" I asked about talking to him, and he said we can't talk because things will just go back to how they were and he doesn't want that.

2 days before he broke up with me though, he kept talking about how he couldn't wait to come next weekend and take me out and be sweet to me. Then on Sunday he said he was going to break up with me during the week but he knew I had tests. That's bs because if you really were planning that, you wouldn't be talking about next weekend. He said he had been trying to convince himself he still felt that way. I think had he not went out with the guys, he wouldn't have done it because all his friends are recently single. Anyway, after the talk on Friday, I called him Saturday and said he could come get some pants I had, and he brought me my stuff. We talked again, and again I pleaded with him to think about it. He said "I don't see things changing" He said, "I don't know what's going to happen but I don't see us getting back together anytime in the near future."

I know lately he's been really stressed out with switching jobs, finals, trying to get an internship and all that plus the arguing. Also, He works, goes to school, and sees me so he never had time for his friends and family. I told him I was so sorry for all of that and I want to give him more space. I really do. I want him to hang out with his friends and stuff. He just never told me he wanted to. He said it was too late. He said he doesn't want to work on it anymore.

I just don't understand. I don't see how someone goes from being friends with someone for 7 years, being with them for 2, then just NEVER speaking to them again. I don't get it. Everyone tells me just to give him time and space. They say don't call him or contact him at all. THey say let him know what it's like. But what if he NEVER calls me again? I can't do that. He's been such an important part of my life. I want him back. And don't get me wrong, I could move on even though it would suck, but I don't want to because everything is telling me he's the one for me. I just don't see why he's so against working it out. I asked if we could just take a break, he said "no because breaks mean we'll get back together and I don't want to get back together with you." These are not things he would normally say. I want him back. I know I can't make him want to be with me, but I just really don't get how you can go from you are my soul mate and I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with you to I'm done.

Is he just never going to call me again? Is it really best for me not to call him? I want him in my life. I was going to be done with school in 6 months and then it wouldn't be long distance anymore. It would've been so much better. I told him I was committed to changing things and giving him more time for himself, but he wouldn't even consider it. I'm hurt. I don't get how it changed. I can't comprehend never speaking to him again. What do I do? I'm about to be home for Christmas break too and I can't help but think had we made it that far our relationship would have been recharged because we would be together. I know there are too many what-ifs, but I want another chance with him. I don't know if he's going to miss me. Sorry this is so long, but WHAT DO I DO>>>

War and Peace!

Long distance Relationships rarely work - and eve nworse in college - too opportunities if you know what I mean.

I would NEVER wish a LDR on anyone - they are just too hard!! Too hard. Especially college kids.

DON'T call him - not contact - no needy - no insecure. GO OUT AND HAVE FUN!!

DON'T EVER CHANGE FOR HIM!! ONLY FOR YOURSELF!

Seriously, leave him alone.

I know you are hurting, I know only too well. But you put way too much pressure on him by asking him to reconsider his decision + he sounds like the stubborn type who don't like to be easily dissuaded.

Give him some space, work on yourself.

The cat is right, Long Distance Relationships rarely work and this is a good example of that.

Begging him won't work!

In fact, nothing will, you need to move on now. I'm not saying it's impossible that he will come back, I am just saying that you need to move forward from this for now.. You will have some pain for a good while but you will get through it.

OKay #1 obivously, he wants other girls you are in college give him a chance to go out with the guys get laid and relize I really do want a realationship where I don't always end up 100 bucks for supper and someone that's knows me and cares about me and since you've been friends for so long just go back to that , surely theirs a chance he will fall back in love with you again there is a chance he may not> GOOD LUCK PARTY> AND GET LAID

I feel you have done all that you can. You cannot change someone's mind for them--if he needs to move on, you need to let him. :o

It sucks -- it really does. When you have felt he is the one and you did not see this coming -- it hurts more.

You need to concentrate on yourself and school.

Good Luck.

I just don't know how you never talk to someone ever again. Will he never call me ever again or will giving him time make a difference?

Giving him time and space may make a difference.

But pushing and pleading won't. I guarantee you that!

You can't force someone to be with you.
Leave him alone, back off and focus on yourself.

It is your best hope.

And if he forgets you that easy then it wasn't meant to be and he wasn't worth it after all!

It sounds as though he's pretty firm in his decision. I can't necessarily answer the how or the why but, as others have told you, you've got to cease all contact with him and move on with your life. Obsessing about him isn't healthy and won't do anything to change the situation. Get busy doing the things that interest you and build your life without focusing on him. It's possible that he may eventually have a change of heart but don't bank on it. You've got to make him miss you and wonder what you're up to. You don't need him and can be just as happy without him as with him and he's got to realize that.

THanks a lot for all of the advice. I know if I really have to I can move on and be happy. I don't doubt that, it's just I don't want to. At least not yet. He is/was my best friend and life was better because I could share it with him. He's just very stubborn. I just hope that giving him every amount of space possible will at least make him realize he misses me in his life because he and I were always different. It's hard... I'm still trying to live my life. People say it gets easier day by day, but I wonder if that's true for him too? I wonder if he thinks leading the independent crazy wild life will make him happy, but eventually it won't be all it's cracked up to be, because he's really not the "party type." Seriously. I'm not going to wait around for him, but I can't help but wonder if I really give him what he says he want if he'll try to come back, whether I still want him or not.

THanks a lot for all of the advice. I know if I really have to I can move on and be happy. I don't doubt that, it's just I don't want to. At least not yet. He is/was my best friend and life was better because I could share it with him. He's just very stubborn. I just hope that giving him every amount of space possible will at least make him realize he misses me in his life because he and I were always different. It's hard...I'm still trying to live my life. People say it gets easier day by day, but I wonder if that's true for him too? I wonder if he thinks leading the independent crazy wild life will make him happy, but eventually it won't be all it's cracked up to be, because he's really not the "party type." Seriously. I'm not going to wait around for him, but I can't help but wonder if I really give him what he says he want if he'll try to come back, whether I still want him or not.

Your hurt badly, we can all see the hole in your soul. He is gone and not coming back, so you deserve a very good cry.

YES Tal--a good cry is needed and there will probably be a lot of crying ahead. It is all part of healing--even though it sucks.

So... my boyfriend of 2 years and friends for 8 dumped me 2 weeks ago. He was always talking about marrying me, how I'm his soulmate blablah and he really isn't the guy just to say those things. (I promise) He said he wanted to be alone, blah blah, and he didn't want a relationship. Well, 3 days ago I found out he was making out with some high school girl! And she's not even cute. (And I promise I'm not being a hater). What is this about how he wants to be alone, then he can't even wait 2 weeks before another girl? He's hanging out with a really bad crowd, and now apparently he likes high school girls. (He's about to graduate college). He's never been the player type, he's always been really shy. It seems like he's trying to be like the other guys. What's the deal with this?

He has changed. He is obviously not the shy guy you have known. He probably feels he has missed out on something and is trying to get it back. He will learn the hard way. Please under no circumstances wait for him to change back. Give him what he wants, and be glad he broke up before he cheated(?). In the meantime carry on with your life and leave him alone, that's what he wants. If he comes back don't be there as you can be happy without him. Take the opportunity to look around with fresh eyes and see what you can enjoy without him. It may be hard, but must be done.

He is young and is going through changes and has decided he (as tal points out) is missing out on something.

Sorry if this hurts but he probably wants to experiment a but and date other women. Tal is definitely right on this one, let him do what he wants and be glad it did not happen further down the road if you became married with kids.

Be glad also that he did the right thing by finishing with you and not cheating on you. That would be very hurtful.

I believe he has dealt with this in the right way. I know he gave you false hope of his eternal commitment to you, but men and women when they are at this age do not really know what they want. It is easy to become inspired by the concept of meeting a first love and for it to be the one true love that lasts forever. It does not always work out that way.

When he said he wanted to be alone was his way of letting you down without hurting you. He knew what he wanted to do but did not want to hurt you in the process.

Find a life without him, there are plenty of fish (including sharks) in the sea..

I agree with Geffersonairplane and talaniman; as for him making out with some girl, it sounds like (to me) that she knows nothing about what the two of you had and was fed a line by some guy looking for a rebound. It IS great that it happened after the two of you broke up. Nothing says you can't move on, because obviously he has.

Yep,

Let him play with his high school girls and be glad he let you out before he cheated.

He will get burnt. Whatever it is that he has with this girl is nothing and I can see a lot of pain ahead for him.

If that's his way of dealing with a break up then you should be glad you aren't with him anymore. Sure it hurts but it looks as though you are seeing the real side of this person now!

Like you said, he could be finally feeling his oats and wants to play around. I agree that someone who's at the age to be graduating from college is playing with fire fooling around with someone who's high school age. But evidently he's not relationship material right now. Count your blessings that he let you go now before things went any further and you got burned even more.

So it turns out... the new girl my ex is dating is not only 18, but also a stripper. Wow... I'm in college, I'm going to graduate soon, I have a lot going for me. And... he picks a stripper over me? One of my friends asked my ex if she was good looking and my ex said "not at all." Ok... so, why dump me, a pretty awesome girl who has been his best friend for 8 years and girlfriend for 2 years for an 18 year old, unattractive stripper? Um... can anyone give me reasons?

He might be trying to make you jealous?
Or this unattractive stripper might be an awesome person underneath, is he too shallow to look past what the stripper looks like?
Try to find out more about the situation, get your friends talking to him, tlak to him yourself... find out the likelihood of him making you jealous
Hope I helped

Quite simply, he may feel threatened. You're confident, educated, about to graduate soon. Perhaps he doesn't feel you need him as much anymore, and that scares him. He may well be suffering from low self-esteem.
This isn't to say, as Imation pointed out, that the exotic dancer isn't a wonderful person as well -- but eight years of history is certainly nothing to toss away lightly.
As comedian Richard Jeni once pointed out, men like strippers. They want the one thing every guy has... a dollar. :rolleyes: :)

Why worry about this complete jackazz?

Move on and date a lot - find a real guy. You're too god for him.

Let me guess - he's a bad boy, no college etc?

And any normal guy knows you do not date a stripper - ever. You might try and sleep with them... but they are loads of trouble - MANY guys trying gto sleep with them - usually on drugs - usually controlled by the owner of the club... the stripping can lead (and does a lot) to 'pay for' sex acts if you know what I mean. Some gal there.

Your ex is probably feeling intimidated. A pretty awesome and undoubtably attractive woman like you will probably intimidate many men.
You should not let his insecurities make you doubt yourself.


And any normal guy knows you do not date a stripper - ever. You might try and sleep with them....but they are loads of trouble - MANY guys tryin gto sleep with them - usually on drugs - usually controled by the owner of the club.....the stripping can lead (and does a lot) to 'pay for' sex acts if you know what I mean. Some gal there.

I sort of disagree with you on this Wildcat... You've painted an overly generalized picture here of the worst case scenarios. While these are true in a number of cases with the "career stripper", there are also ordinary women working the part-time and off-hours schedule that are very normal and awesome people.

so it turns out...the new girl my ex is dating is not only 18, but also a stripper. Wow...I'm in college, I'm going to graduate soon, I have a lot going for me. And....he picks a stripper over me? One of my friends asked my ex if she was good looking and my ex said "not at all." Ok...so, why dump me, a pretty awesome girl who has been his best friend for 8 years and gf for 2 years for an 18 year old, unattractive stripper? Um...can anyone give me reasons?
You must still be stinging form this break-up or else you would not be asking such a question. There is no answer to why he does what he does, and why would you care? Let go of the past, and look to the future. He wants a stripper let him have a stripper, its not your business anyway. Don't run yourself in circles any more worrying about him. No body here is a mind reader and neither are you so let it go and look forward to finding your own happiness.

And any normal guy knows you do not date a stripper - ever. You might try and sleep with them....but they are loads of trouble - MANY guys tryin gto sleep with them - usually on drugs - usually controled by the owner of the club.....the stripping can lead (and does a lot) to 'pay for' sex acts if you know what I mean. Some gal there.

For the most part, I'm in total agreement with this. I've known more strippers than I care to. Neighbors and friends of roommates, in years past. And yes, this is a very accurate assessment of most. Though I knew a few that were straight A students in college, and completely drug free. They are still people underneath. Either way though, I agree, you certainly don't date one unless you're the gambling type.
I personally don't date them. I don't even go to the clubs. :)

Actually... he's about to graduate in August and he has a 3.9 GPA. It's just his whole life all he's done is school and work and I guess he's trying to be like all the other guys which he's not. But yes, I am still stuck on it. It's been 3 weeks, and he started dating her like the day after he broke up with me. I know deep down I'm too good for him and that this girl has nothing on me, but it still hurts. He's not the guy I have known for the past 10 years. It's weird, and I just want him to snap out of it because I don't know how he can just throw it all away.

If he's under age 30 he probably still has a lot of changing to do.

I don't think you'd want him back at this point.

Who cares.
Your post made you look very very insecure!

Why do you even need to know these answers.

Just be thankful you aren't with a guy of this caliber anymore and worry about yourself.

And who are you to judge whether she is unattractive or not? Your not the one who has to find her attractive are you?

I agree, you probably have heaps more going for you and I'm sure are a lot more attractive but that doesn't mean anything in respect toh I'm anymore.

So how about using that attractiveness and everything you have going for you to worry about yourself and not him and find a good guy who respects all your good qualities.

It bolsters his shattered self esteem, my guess is especially in the bedroom dept, if not the actual bedroom... and when he has patched it back together, its very likely out da window with the shimmy shaker regardless of who she is -- saint or sinner. Then she'll be on here posting why didn't her "Pretty Woman" fantasy come true? Besides, naïve girls are easier to manipulate so maybe its more about that with her than anything else? Rebounds are so freudian sometimes LOL.

But Skell and others here makes a valid point... that its over and who he is with is essentially none of your beeswax now.

UT,

I do understand why you are upset. Try your best to just let him go, even if you have to tell yourself for now. As someone has said here, strippers are people too and oh how I feel for those girls, there is no amount of money, someone could roll up in a ball, that would make me dance for them. But you just never know what tomorrow will bring, so it's never good to judge. There before the grace of God, go I. I do feel for those girls and believe it or not, some of them are good girls, or were at one time, and life and what it does to some people, just lands them in places they never thought they would ever be.

But enough about the stripper, enough about him. Its you time! Ask yourself, if you feel so upset at the fact that she is a stripper, then why would you want him back now, at this time. To be honest, she could be a princess, and it probably would hurt you just as much.

It's time to focus on you and things that are going to make you happy. Leave him behind with the choices he has made.

I do feel for those girls and believe it or not, some of them are good girls, or were at one time, and life and what it does to some people, just lands them in places they never thought they would ever be.

I'm in agreement with this. Almost all of them come from fairly extreme backgrounds. Whether it was a completely dysfunctional family, or many years in a private religious school in which they felt they had no room to breath.
Either way, she is likely either very needy deep down, or far more likely, near completely disconnected from her emotions.
He probably finds a relationship easier with her, either because he feels deeply depended upon, or again more likely, he neither feels compelled to deal with the myriad "trivialities" engendered in a true relationship.

It sounds as if a "night out with the guys" opened his eyes to the fact that there are a ton of ladies out there and he wants to play the field. I imagine that his guy friends had a huge influence on his decision and that you aren't going to change his mind because he wants to date other girls and/or have sex with lots of them. C'est la vie, its college and every man and/or woman is entitled to drunken stupidity and booty calls. If that's the way he wants it then you are only hurting yourself by wanting someone who wishes to be free of a relationship to stay in one. Be thankful he told you the truth, and broke it off instead of going behind your back.

He's just very stubborn. People say it gets easier day by day, but I wonder if that's true for him too? I wonder if he thinks leading the independent crazy wild life will make him happy, but eventually it won't be all it's cracked up to be, because he's really not the "party type." Seriously. I'm not going to wait around for him, but I can't help but wonder if I really give him what he says he want if he'll try to come back, whether I still want him or not.


Sounds like my ex, she is the stubborn type. I'll bet you £1 million she (my ex) is doing everything possible to try and prove that her choice to give me up was a good one. She wants to live the crazy wild life... Truth is though, I believe that most men and women do. I did when I was in my early 20's but yes, you are right, it was nothing it was cracked up to be but was just part of my growing up and learning. It does get easier by the day but like a wise fellow on her told me, you will have many ups and downs.. You need to allow yourself some good time to grieve.

This is some good advice for you to follow in addition to all the other good advice from others you have already received:-

He will probably be in your head 24-7 (it might seem) for quite some time to come. This is a huge loss for you! What you must do now to help yourself heal from this loss is to:

1.) Maintain NO CONTACT -- NO LETTERS, E-MAILS, PHONE CALLS, TEXTS, NOTHING!

2.) Keep yourself busy, go to the gym, take up an old hobby, spend time with friends and relatives, whatever.. Try to avoid alcohol where possible (it won't help)

3.)Try not to dwell on the past too much, focus on what you can do for yourself to improve you, as a person. Try not to think about what he is doing, who he is with e.t.c. concentrate on you..!

4.) If he has a myspace account, do not look at it EVER. You will just read into things and end up going over things in your head.

It is hard, I know and it will take time but it does get better with time and who knows, one day I expect you will thank him for what he did (in your head) because you will understand that he was probably not right for you.

I wish you well in your journey of recovery! Take Care!

Geoff..

He is a flirt
Forget him,


Being a girl of 22,this is my sincere advice to u
Leave him and concentrate on your carrier ,boys will come in your way and chose the best

I have been through all this ,be careful

Best of luck

So... thanks for all the previous advice. It's been really hard. I found out he did actually cheat on me with the other girl, but he didn't want to tell me about it. Finally he did though. It's been 2 months since he broke up with me and it is easier than before but it's hard because he was the one guy who I thought would NEVER cheat. I've known him for 8 years before our year and a half together and he was never like that. I'm just sad because I've lost so much respect for him. He cheated on me, but it's like he is doing anything in his power to erase me from his life when I did nothing wrong to him. Are all guys really like that? I guess I'm just scared they are. But, what are some things I can do to speed up the moving on process and not worry about him? What has worked best for you guys? I'm home for the holidays right now too, not at school, so... it's like that's what I think about. How long has it taken you guys to get over long relationships because I can't keep feeling this bad for very long.

so it turns out...the new girl my ex is dating is not only 18, but also a stripper. Wow...I'm in college, I'm going to graduate soon, I have a lot going for me. And....he picks a stripper over me? One of my friends asked my ex if she was good looking and my ex said "not at all." Ok...so, why dump me, a pretty awesome girl who has been his best friend for 8 years and gf for 2 years for an 18 year old, unattractive stripper? Um...can anyone give me reasons?
Looks are not everything. Some guys go through a stage because its about sex or a throphy girlfriend he can show off with. Arm candy. He may be considering a time to explore things in his youth and needs to figure things out for himself. When he realizes what a good thing he had, it will be too late. He may not be in love with you and its best you know this instead of wasting more time with him and find someone that really loves you.
By the way, strippers make good money in big cities with up-scale clubs and some have degress, some are very classy women so don't be so quick to be hooty-snooty. Men don't like up tight women.

Get busy doing the things you like to do and meet new people and go to places you have never been to. The busier you get the less time you'll have to mope around and think of the past.

Think of all the possibilties for the year 2007 and where it can take you.

Hey everyone! So I've been coming on here and reading posts and stuff and it's really helped me so much. I wanted to first say, time really does make things better. For those who have recently broken up, I promise you will not ALWAYS feel the way you feel right now even though you don't see it changing. Anyway, here's the bad news and what I need some help on.

I've been doing so good with the no contact thing. I've posted about the breakup before but brief recap... my boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me this past November after he cheated on me. He pretty much told me he never really loved me and he's glad he cheated because it "finally gave him a way out because he felt stuck." He was so mean to me when we broke up and had no respect for me at all even as a person. He started date really young girls within the week and took them to my friends' houses. He was such a great guy when we were together, or at least that's what I thought. Then when we broke up, he got into partying a lot, drugs, and once he told me he drank alone in his room every night. I should've implemented NC a lot sooner than I did, but since he was my first everything, I was trying really hard to hold onto something that wasn't there anymore.

Finally though, I started no contact and it's been amazing. I've been really concentrating on school, volunteering, working out, and hanging out with friends. Actually, I've made more friends since we've been broken up than I did when we were together, and I love that. Anyway... there has been no contact AT ALL from either side for a little over two months. He's done some things I think to try to get me to contact him, like post pics of him pretty much humping girls in bikinis on our mutual friends sites because he knew I'd see them. But... I stayed strong and didn't. Who cares, he can do what he wants right?

But... last night, I went out for a friend's birthday and had too much to drink and I called him. UGH!! I'm so stupid and soooo mad at myself for that. It makes me look soooo dumb. I know this and I can't believe I was so stupid. He didn't answer, which is probably better, but it still hurts to know that after no speaking for 2 months he didn't answer. Anyway, I left a message saying I was calling to see how school was going and how your family's doing. Granted, that's all it said I feel like I'm right where I started. I've never been so disappointed in myself because I was doing so good. Also, normally when I go out, even if I do drink, I don't want to call him. I don't know what happened.

Have any of you ever slipped after so long of NC? How did you bounce back? Does it take as long as the first time you initiated it? :mad:

It doesn't sound like there was any real harm done since he didn't answer and your message was fairly benign. Just don't do it anymore. No more contact, don't even think about him. Go on doing the things you've been doing. I think you'll be all right.

Hey UTaustinash, I just made a similar post as I have also slipped with the no contact thing. So I know how you feel. I am too still searching for the answer but can share with you of how I cope it. Every time I slipped, I would tell myself that it's OK to fall, as long as we know how to stand up again.

You're a strong girl and am sure you know what to do.

Dust yourself off, forgive yourself and get back on the path.

I slipped in the first 2 months a few times but not too much. The last four months I have been really good with NC and now there is absolutely no chance at all I would contact the ex. She wants to contact me, she has my e-mail address and home address. Not even getting drunk would make me do it. Don't be hard on yourself, you made a mistake but I don't think you have done much harm and it does not make you look dumb at all. He is dumb for doing what he did to you and he sounds like a real ***t to me anyway from what you have described. Almost everyone slips and it is only human.. Okay, there was alcohol that fueled it but just put it behind you now and continue on your path as tal above suggested. From what you say, I think you have done very well!!

Maybe try deleting his number from your phone. If he wants to contact you he will find a way...