I meet a guy at work and have been seeing him for 7 months he has a girlfriend and 2 kids and also shares a home with her. He is miserable with his girlfriend and says he is not in love with her anymore he left her and we started seeing each other exclusively until he broke it off with me and went back to his girlfriend this has happened 3 times and now he is officially back at home with his girlfriend and 2 kids but he still wants to see me and be with me why is he doing this? Does he really care for me? Does he really love his girlfriend?

He's doing this because he's a two-timing jerk. Sorry for being harsh but how much longer do you want to be this cheater's bit on the side?
My advice is walk,no run away from this,find your selfrespect,rebuild your life and forget you ever knew him.

He has two kids with her? He should stay with her whether he loves her or not

He's unsure about himself, his family, his kids, his girlfriend and you. Such person should be avoided at all cause. Think logically, you'll know this doesn't sound right.

If you want to keep playing along with his games, then go ahead. Be his booty call when his girlfriend is giving him a hard time.

Otherwise, stand up for yourself and have some self-respect. Find someone that isn't a cheater and treats his girlfriend with respect, as opposed to two-timing.

He is a liar and a cheat. His personal life, and relationship is no concern of yours. How would you like it if you were at home,with two kids, and your children's father was putting his penis inside of another woman?

Go find out why you are letting yourself be used like a sex toy.Have some self respect.

No, he doesn't care for you. You provide a service to him. Just like the dry cleaner, and cook at his favorite restaurant.

You both should be ashamed of what you are doing.

I do not think that you are a bad person, but what you are doing is bad, and should be stopped.

The world is full of guys that don't already have a family, go find one of your own.

Good luck to you.

Had to spread the rep, I agree with everyone. Leave him alone and let him figure out what it is he wants. Right now he is just using you

Don't you want a man that is not afraid to show the world how much he loves you? Don't you want someone who is "all in" a relationship?

You deserve a relationship with someone who is IN the relationship... someone who sees you as the only woman that could ever make him happy... the ONE.

You're worth so much more than a lying, cheating, two-timing jerk. Don't be the sugary, colorful sprinkles on his stale relationship cake.

He is using you, playing with your emotions, and lying to his girlfriend. Don't let him hurt you anymore. Get rid of this guy!

Why are you allowing this fellow to keep using you to cheat on his baby mama?

he is miserable with his girlfriend and says he is not in love with her anymore
That's the oldest excuse in the book, but it must work pretty good since that's the first thing out of a cheaters mouth.

he left her and we started seeing each other exclusively until he broke it off with me and went back to his girlfriend
This is almost funny, if it weren't so pathetic. Your exclusive with a cheater.

this has happened 3 times and now he is officially back at home with his girlfriend and 2 kids
He has bounced back and forth between the two of you 3 times in 7 months?? Why do either of you allow it. Exclusive or not, your sharing this guy, and taking turns, so he is playing you both.

but he still wants to see me and be with me why is he doing this?
Simply because you and her let him and he doesn't care if you feel like a fool, you do feel like a fool don't you?

does he really care for me?
All guys care about their exclusive booty call. What more could he ask for?


Does he really love his girlfriend?

Of course he does! That's why he has to go home, and take care of his other booty call, after all kids and a house are hard to walk away from. He will keep doing what he is doing until one of you wakes up and refuses to be used any more.

She has babies, a house, and kids, and a part time man, what do you have?

Sorry to rain on your parade, but you're being lied to, and used, because if he hated his girlfriend, why does he keep going back to her?

When he has enough of your crap he can leave. When he has had enough of her crap, he can leave. He has a win-win situation, why mess that up?

Honestly speaking, you are nothing more to him than an out. When the pressures of reality get to him (you know, being a father and a live in boyfriend), he can escape, and he uses you for a place to stay, a bed to lay, and a body to use. You allow him to make you his doormat, he has no respect for you, his family, his girl, or even himself. Get out now while you have some self respect (if there is any left).

It does come down to dignity, and self respect. I see none here though.

Gurlll leave that man alone. He isn't no good! He just want to have his cake and eat it too. 3 times is too manY. Too manY men out there to be chasin after one. He obviouslY don't have anY respect for you because if he did he wouldn't be doing this to you... ole two timin skizzer!

Sorry but I have to agree with everyone that it seems he just wants to have his cake and eat it too..

there is a saying that springs to mind.. I'm fairly sure it has cake.. eating it.. oh and x 2