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Gravak
Dec 22, 2009, 09:55 AM
Around 5 month back I started being friends with 2 people, both of which were brother and sister, we started hanging out more and me and the girl got to be (and still are) quite close friends, we text all the time and chat on the phone for hours sometimes. Until recently I'd not thought of her as anything but friends until I had a conversation with her brother about it out of the blue.

He basically told me what had happened with her ex and how it split their family for the duration of the relationship etc. a few other issues to I'd rather not post on here as well. And he asked me if I'd thought of her that way, which initially I had because she's a good looking girl, but never thought of her 'in that way' if you get me

Now the problem is, with her brother being disabled she does a lot for him (which isn't the problem) but her and her brother are really close and spend a lot of time together, now she knows now that I 'like' her because her brother told her one night, we talked about it and she made it clear she wasn't looking for anything at the moment due to the afformentioned relationship, but if something happened further down the line then so be it.

Since her brother told her the dynamic has sort of changed between us, not in the sense of texting etc, but when we're out and about she's a lot more handsy, and a bit 'closer' (not sure to express it :S) especially if we go out on a weekend when she's had a bit to drink, and there's awkward moments (usually involving something her brother or sister says) the last time though she said she loved me which was particularly 'strong' because (personally) I don't take them words lightly...

What's going on? I'm completely confused, is she just testing the water? Doing it sub-consciously or is it just the drink talking and does she actually not really
Mean it?

Any help is much appreciated and thank you in advance :)

Romefalls19
Dec 22, 2009, 10:29 AM
I never take "i love you" with alcohol with more than a grain of salt. I wouldn't think anything of it, keep being friends and just stay on that route.

amicon
Dec 22, 2009, 10:39 AM
I think you should go by what she told you-she doesn't want a relationship right now. And she shouldn't, not until she is over her breakup.
Just enjoy being friends for now.

Devorameira
Dec 22, 2009, 11:33 AM
I think it's just the alcohol talking, otherwise she wouldn't have told you she didn't want a relationship.

Just be friends and try to avoid being around her when either one of you is drinking, otherwise you may do something you both regret later.

slapshot_oi
Dec 22, 2009, 02:30 PM
There's this one girl I see every now and again at a bar; I proposed to with an onion ring and then I puked out her car window.

If she's been drinking, don't get your hopes up, just laugh it off and try to keep the mood light.