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kplush
Oct 30, 2009, 10:56 AM
My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years now. And he always starts to talk to me on Facebook and or skype while is out of town but then just stops talking mid conversation.. then I get a text in some odd hour of the night saying sorry the internet stopped working.. I love you so so much, I'm really sorry, I'm sorry about the whole communicaton mess, and I promise to make it up to you.. then I see him in person and everything is going great.. and he goes away again and this always happens.. and on days I don't see him he'll get on Facebook before texting me.. am I crazy or is there something going on? He's not cheating.. but am I overwhelming him or something? We honestly don't talk a lot except for usually at night.. but the conversation is almost always cut short.. and he says me more whenever I say I love you.. but then randomly throughout the say just sends I love yous... what's going on in his head?

oh and he's always like I'm sorry I'm not trying to ignore you it's the internet..

jordyadele
Oct 30, 2009, 11:06 AM
Nobody knows what's going on in his head except him. I think a good way to start fixing this communication mess is to talk about it! Find some time to start this conversation. If you are at all concerned the only way to get answers is to talk about it. Talk on the phone so that the internet won't interrupt him. Make sure to ask honest questions. It will show that you trust him and are really hoping for the best in your relationship.

kplush
Nov 14, 2009, 08:39 PM
My boyfriend of 2 and a half years said we would hang out tonight last night.. have a date night.. I told him I was having a bad day eariler and he was like like I'm sorry what's wrong babe? And I said long story.. I can tell you tonight.. and he said OK baby.. but it's 10:40 and yet he still hasn't called or anything UGH what to do?

Fr_Chuck
Nov 14, 2009, 08:52 PM
HUM?? Call him, and I guess why did you not talk to him when he wanted to hear, he may be feeling unwanted or rejected slightly

jmjoseph
Nov 14, 2009, 08:55 PM
My bf of 2 and a half years said we would hang out tonight last night.. have a date night.. i told him i was having a bad day eariler and he was like like i'm sorry what's wrong babe? and i said long story.. i can tell you tonight.. and he said ok baby.. but it's 10:40 and yet he still hasn't called or anything UGH what to do?

Two and a half years, and you ask US? Why can't you ask HIM that question?

kplush
Nov 14, 2009, 08:59 PM
Well.. I called and got no response.. and I've texted... so... um.. yeah

kplush
Nov 14, 2009, 09:50 PM
How do I not let things get to me? I am not insecure, however I do over analyze every situation. Always think the worst. However that is not always the situation. How do I not over analyze everything if that is what I've always done?

paxe
Nov 14, 2009, 10:53 PM
Simple, think about something else. In order to think about something else, you need something more important (school, volunteering, family, friends, taking care of yourself). Get yourself busy and you'll even stop thinking about it.

Mistique
Nov 14, 2009, 11:11 PM
I have no idea what just happened... I posted and my post went to another thread that was not related... so I guess I am wasting space right now! I am really sorry I had to take out my previous response!

kplush
Nov 19, 2009, 11:59 AM
I'm 21 and have never drunk but have had sex.. my boyfriend has and I've been there when he has drank. I want to get tipsy tonight, not sure on drunk.. what to expect?

itried
Nov 19, 2009, 12:04 PM
You're going to experience a lot of strange feelings. You may hallucinate and see neon leprechauns and pastel monkeys. It's going to be pretty weird but you'll get used to it. Also, look out for dragons. Elves and gnomes are pretty sarcastic but once you get to know them you'll see that they have great personalities. Every now and then you may come across a belligerent donkey that speaks in riddles. Ignore him. He's an a$$. No pun intended.

The important thing is to enjoy yourself. Have fun!

kplush
Nov 19, 2009, 12:14 PM
Haha thanks :)

I wish
Nov 19, 2009, 12:25 PM
Since it's your first time, I would say:

1) Drink responsibly

2) NO DRIVING

3) Have fun!

talaniman
Nov 19, 2009, 01:00 PM
The more a newbie drinks, the stupider they get. Don't overdo it though.

jmw0713
Nov 19, 2009, 01:24 PM
Don't puke! Drink 2 drinks and see how you feel. You maybe rocked after one!

Watch out for shots and drinks that taste good!

amicon
Nov 19, 2009, 01:33 PM
For every alcoholic drink you have,have a glass of something non-alcoholic. And don't overdo it.

Cat1864
Nov 19, 2009, 02:08 PM
FOOD!! No drinking on an empty stomach. PERIOD.

Also, remember that it take a lot less alcohol to affect a female than it does a male. Keep in mind the alcohol content of what you are drinking. Mixed drinks like Daiquiris are deceptive about the amount of alcohol they contain.

More than likely you will get a warm feeling fairly quickly. Make sure that you are with people you trust to keep you from over-indulging. Give them permission to stop you if you start showing signs of being unsteady.

BlackVY
Nov 19, 2009, 03:21 PM
Have a glass of water every hour is possible... even a little... stay hydrated so you don't get too drunk and don't have a hangover in the morning...

Rockursock
Nov 19, 2009, 03:25 PM
Im surprised it took you so long to drink, what did you do on your 21st? Anyway I really enjoy drinking, be careful and take it easy for a while, but eventually you learn how to drink like a pro.

jmjoseph
Nov 19, 2009, 03:38 PM
Eat first. Something with some substance to it. Meat and cheese works good. Make sure that you drink plenty of water before, during, and after, you drink. I agree with cat, go with people that you trust. Make sure that you have a sober, reliable, driver. Just go in and experiment, don't try to get drunk. Just have a couple of drinks, and see how it goes.

If you are satisfied with your life how it is now, then why are you trying alcohol in the first place? You've gone this far without drinking, why start now? I hope you aren't getting any pressure from your boyfriend.

Some people don't handle alcohol very well, so take it slow. And be careful don't get hurt, or embarrass yourself.

Good luck on your night.

slapshot_oi
Nov 19, 2009, 03:42 PM
Remember: hair of the dog doesn't work.

One of the drunkest nights of the year is next Wednesday night, I can't wait.

Cat1864
Nov 19, 2009, 03:51 PM
It is also acceptable to take a sip and say "yuck". Then go back to non-alcoholic drinks. Don't try to force yourself to like something you don't.

I will be honest. There are extremely few alcoholic beverages that I can stand the taste of. To each his/her own. :)

Fr_Chuck
Nov 19, 2009, 08:43 PM
And read the 1000's of posts here that start with "I was drinking" and.
?And the list goes on and on and it is normally always bad things

kplush
Dec 15, 2009, 11:56 AM
So, I have been dating my boyfriend for about two years now.. We're both in college, and in love. I understand he is busy with finals, and packing for break. However, he hasn't called or texted. I have gotten about 2 texts per day. And I know he is busy, however, why is it so hard to dedicate 10 minutes to a phone with your girlfriend? He goes out a parties or takes naps all day long, and plays games with friends, but won't dedicate time to talk to me.. I get an I love you, and I'm sorry. Whenever I try to express how I'm feeling.. Am I just being to clingy? I'm not texting him all the time, just a goodmorning, mid afternoon, and goodnight text. Me and my friend his roomates girlfriend, are going to pick them up on Thrusday for break. She asked me to tag along, and I said yes, and didn't even consult with him, I told him I was coming down, and yet he said nothing.. Confused...

amicon
Dec 15, 2009, 12:02 PM
How long has this been going on for?
Why not call him and ask him what's going on?

MsMewiththat
Dec 15, 2009, 12:06 PM
When you see him have a heart to heart and find out where he is at with this. It sounds like he very well may be attempting to either distance himselffromthe relationship or the potential heart break if things don't go as planned. I think it is very important that you be honest with him and have that discussion and really hear what he has to say. Best of luck to you