I really can't believe this is happening to me! You see I am in love with this guy that I have been friends with for three years now, and we realized we have more than just 'friend' feelings for each other. We started dating about three months ago and things were pretty much perfect. Perfect until the day he introduced me to his best friend. Well one night his best friend calls me and asked me if I wanted to go bowling with him. Asuming that my boyfriend was coming along and not wanting ot be rude I accepted. We met at the bowling alley around 9:15ish and to my surprise my boyfriend wasn't there, but I decided to bowl anyway I mean no harm done it's just bowling... Or so I thought. I found myself laughing and talking and... Falling for him. About a week later he calls me again and we talk from 8:00 pm to 2:40 am in the morning, and in that conversation he told me that he thought we had a strong connection and thatt he loved me! I love my boyfriend but I love this other guy too. What can I do? Please help me ASAP!

How old are you?

If you can get wooed away by this guy so easily, then you don't really love your boyfriend in the first place.

Figure out what you want before you take the next step. Don't lead both guys on.

You do not love either of these boys. Love is a lot more than just talking on the phone and "liking"someone "more than a friend." Love is extremely intense- it involves commitment, trust, lots of time, and even willingness to give up your life for another person... You do not LOVE these boys, you FEEL like you love these boys. Love is not a feeling, it is a choice, and you cannot be truly in love with 2 boys at once. Same with this guy who says he loves you- he does not love you either, you two hardly know each other.

I would put the brakes on dating until you know what love really is- you're throwing the word around like it applies to "more than a friend" feelings. You need to cool your jets, and stop...

What kind of friend is he? He is your bf's best friend?

What an ashame?

If it were a test, you failed. How do you know that if they are friends that the boy you like so much isn't aware that you are spending extra time with this other boy. Be very careful not to get a name for yourself. You will really want to reel yourself in get some space and clarity in regards to this situation. Slow down here

You only just met boy #2, after dating boy #1, and I find it odd that you don't find it odd that this relative stranger would ask you out bowling.

I don't believe you thought it was innocent, I think it is what it is. You made arrangements to meet up with this guy.

When you 'realized' that Boy#1 wasn't there, why didn't you call him. Did your boyfriend know that you were bowling with him- like as in a date?

Also, a few weeks pass and you have a conversation with him over the phone that lasts over six hours, where he reveals he loves you... yeah...

I would say your boyfriend has a two-faced best friend, a cheating girlfriend, and has no idea what's going on.

You do not sound mature enough to date either one of them.

I hope your boyfriend can do better.

Honestly, love is so not the question here.
Crushes are probably the hardest things to get over because their so intense, probably the intensest feelings of infatuation. You have been friends with your boyfriend for such a long time you guys have so much in common, just because guy #2 comes in and you have feelings for him you can't throw all of that away. There is no real substance for you to call it "love". You need to pick one. You are basically cheating on your boyfriend and if you loved him you would have known better than to go with his boyfriend. Its going to be hard but get over it.

Agree w the above. Whether you're married, dating, etc. There will ALWAYS be guys there that will grab your attention, and you can't fall for every single one of them... I highly doubt that anyone goes through a serious relationship, without being pursued by other guys, or without doubting the relationship, and wondering what else is out there. If you love the guy, you will stay with him, even if that hot guy just checked you out- or one of your guy friends talked to you for 3 hours straight... You still need to choose to love whoever you are currently with.

I agree. You can't keep getting distracted and giving all the guys who go for you an opportunity, you have to show commitment. Maybe your not ready for it yet, might just want to go back to being friends with guy #1 but you might loose a really good thing. The guys that come later like guy #2 aren't usually in it for the long run. Think about it, with out emotion controlling your decision. Whatever choice you make will be hard but stick to it and it will bs for the best. Which one will hurt the most? When your bestfriend/bf finds out and you loose him or this new guy?

The fact that your going behind your boyfriends back to see another says a lot of bad things about you. So does not telling your boyfriend. Very bad all around.

You will have hell to pay.

How childish!