Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 3 years now and many things have happened to us. First, she had found pictures of me and another girl dancing and there her insecurity grew. Second, she got an abortion because we decided we weren't ready. Third, she got pregnant again and we decided to have it but it was and ectopic pregnancy and we lost it. The surgery was pretty bad. Fourth we found out that we have HPV and now that we live together we don't have sex that often. She wants it but I don't feel like it. I think I'm deppressed. I think is the fact that she blames me for everything that went wrong with us. And honestly, I feel guilty for that. Is it that?

Only your doctor can diagnose you so make an appointment to have the depression issues looked into. Having an abortion and than a second unsuccessful pregnancy is bound to leave both of you with scars so maybe you both need counselling-I would suggest using a contraceptive in the future to aviod unplanned pregnacies.

You have both been through a tramatic time,I would think that it is normal to feel disinterested in sex.

I would however urge you to talk to your girlfriend about this.

Keeping these feelings to yourself will only damage the relationship in the long run,if not already.

If you both have not received councilling I strongly suggest you do and also to talk to your docor.

There are many, many reasons for decreased libido.

Depression, anxiety, stress are all well known libido killers. Much of the time problems in the bedroom are tied to issues outside the bedroom.