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lorarena
Dec 13, 2009, 06:08 PM
I have been dating someone for about 4 months now and we were friends for about 8 and we are pretty close we kiss a lot and hug a lot and it seems we are very attracted to each other. We have had sex but it has never actually had an orgasm and most of the time he can't even keep an erection. There has been many times that we sleep in the same bed and he doesn't even try to have sex with me. I am confused. I am starting to feel that he is not attracted to me. I am afraid to address the situation but I am frustrated I really do enjoy sex. Is just not that into me?

bidingmytime
Dec 13, 2009, 07:32 PM
Does he watch a lot of porn? That could be it. Some guys actually get used to it and prefer it over sex.

sabrewolfe
Dec 13, 2009, 07:32 PM
It's possible he isn't, the best way to find out is to talk to him about it.

talaniman
Dec 13, 2009, 07:51 PM
A guy who can't keep an erection is hardly one to be asking for a lot of sex. Stop assuming its you, and talk to him about his erectile dyfunction, as its most likely can be helped with a simple check up.

If you weren't taking it so personally you would recognize its not about you, or the way he feels about you, but him.

You'll never know unless you talk, and seek solutions, and see a doctor.

Fr_Chuck
Dec 13, 2009, 08:11 PM
And what often happens, he has a problem once, then he starts to worry the next time and his worry makes his performance even worst, after a couple of failed attempts he stops trying since he does not want to admit "he" has a problem.