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angel bell
Dec 9, 2009, 06:42 AM
My mom is constantly telling me what I can and canot do I'm just wondering if ahe can still do that or if I have a chioce for her to stop.

Perito
Dec 9, 2009, 06:44 AM
It depends on the country you are in. In some countries, parental control continues until age 21. In other countries, it ends at 18. There are some states and counties that let people at 16 make certain decisions, but their parents can make others. If you're in the U.S.A. chances are, your Mom can tell you what to do.

I suggest you listen to her. She may not be as dumb as you think.

redhed35
Dec 9, 2009, 06:57 AM
You could always see if there is a compromise in the situation..

To be fair,she has looked after you this far,she is most likely trying to protect you..

I know it does not make it easier,but as I said,try and find a compromise you can both work with.

JudyKayTee
Dec 9, 2009, 07:00 AM
You can emancipate yourself, depending on your State, once you can PROVE to the Court that you have a place to live independently, can support yourself, have an education. At 16 and under your mother's roof you have to obey her rules, no matter how much you disagree with those same rules.

How is this related to this: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/corporate-law/can-18-year-old-sign-them-self-out-placement-423544.html

jodyswife
Dec 9, 2009, 08:13 PM
Her house her rules, even when I was 20-something and living with my parents I had to be home at a certain time. It's a matter of respect.
Maybe you can try talking to her and showing her that you can handle more freedom she might ease up.

rosemcs
Dec 14, 2009, 12:18 AM
Well, most everyone I know that is friends with their mom in their adult life, will still have their mom try and give them advice on what is best. It may never end, it's just that when you move away and grow older, you understand why a mom can worry so much.

You can only try and have a mature talk with her and say, "mom, if I do this b/c you asked, then can I be allowed to do this ....that I like?" She may be more receptive to that response than a teen that just complains and whines. I'm not saying that you are like this, but if I had to pick how to give freedom to one of my children, it would be the one who could ask for it in a mature way.

JudyKayTee
Dec 14, 2009, 08:17 AM
Well, most everyone I know that is friends with their mom in their adult life, will still have their mom try and give them advice on what is best. It may never end, it's just that when you move away and grow older, you understand why a mom can worry so much.

You can only try and have a mature talk with her and say, "mom, if I do this b/c you asked, then can I be allowed to do this ....that I like?" She may be more receptive to that response than a teen that just complains and whines. I'm not saying that you are like this, but if I had to pick how to give freedom to one of my children, it would be the one who could ask for it in a mature way.


Did you read the other thread that I posted? The OP is somehow in the custody of a "State" agency.

rosemcs
Dec 14, 2009, 02:40 PM
I answered the question as it was asked. The post asked about the mom, not a state agency. One can agree that as a mom, it would be easier to give a kid freedom if they asked for it in a mature way. I am not going to guess what other situation this person is in. I answer from the bottom of my heart as stated in the question.

If the person is not asking about their mom, then it can apply to anyone or agency that cares for the youth.

lshanaa
Nov 23, 2010, 12:43 PM
LOL.. they can control you until they decide to stop it. Their your parents.. u can get emancipated so you're on your own but unless you have abusive parents that's a bad idea.. there are no laws about telling people what to do.. I mean you should listen to your parents they do what's best for you.