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Nov 25, 2009, 02:04 AM
So I like this girl, she's only 3 months older than I am, who's got nearly everything I like in a girl. She's awesome and I like her and I can't stop thinking about her and I'm pretty sure you've heard the story already... so I only met her 3 months ago (3's my lucky number this year or something :D) and I quickly made it into her friend group, I get along with her and her friends, and we already have our own personal "thing" that we joke about and its just great :) only problem is... she has a boyfriend about 2 or 3 years older than her (we're in 10th grade he's in 12th... ) who's a real ing but she seems to be head over heels for him :mad: they been together for almost 6 months now...
So I tell my friends and they all tell me to steal her from him but my heavy conscience doesn't want to let me follow through with it... I really don't want to stay in the "friend zone" and I'm totally hoping they break up before I become her "Dude she cries to about her relationships whos never gonna be with her" I'm friends with her boyfriend's friends and have an easy way of getting into his group to check out his flaws (those that aren't incredibly OBVIOUS that is) and I don't really see him have any enemies aside from myself who could support me on this...
Me and her talk {In person or IM [I hate the phone (Its realtime conversation and I can't correct things with physical gestures if I mess up xD) ]} a lot so I can learn things about her real quick. Like me, she's a videogame addict (we have kind of a competition thing going on I love it:D) so its easy to ask her out to an arcade to get to know her better, and just tell her her friends could tag along if she wants them to as a security method to avoid suspicion. That usually works out well since I can get a lot of tips on what she likes, doesn't like, what makes her laugh etc. not only from my own actions but from her friend's.
There's also other girls who I could get relationships with way easier than this girl. But I'm afraid that I'll end up hurting one of them with an abrupt breakup in case the one I'm after suddenly becomes available. (Heavy conscience again... I hate it but can't do anything about it... )
This is probably irrelevant but her boyfriend's been pushing her to have sex with him (Which I hate because I don't want her losing her virginity to that .) and she has been refusing so far. Her friends don't help as they are encouraging her to say yes (Normally joking but those thoughts tend to run deep late at night) that worries me since they might support him over me if I told them I wanted to be with her.
So thinking on it my options are:
A-Taking the fast approach and stealing her from under her boyfriend, probably getting her friend's disapproval and my own feelings of guilt in the process but ensuring no "friend zone".
B-Taking the slow approach in which I get to know her really well no hard feelings with her BF and win over her friends in the process but risk being stuck in the "friend zone".
C-Taking the experience approach and dating other girls to get dating experience, not getting to know the original girl as well and her friends might be indiferent or think I'm some sort of a man-whore xD.
Feels great to get this off my chest, I'd love your personal take on this and according to you guys (who are probably a lot older and have more experience) which of the above options is best. Of course, if you got another way of doing things I'd love to hear it.
So I tell my friends and they all tell me to steal her from him but my heavy conscience doesn't want to let me follow through with it... I really don't want to stay in the "friend zone" and I'm totally hoping they break up before I become her "Dude she cries to about her relationships whos never gonna be with her" I'm friends with her boyfriend's friends and have an easy way of getting into his group to check out his flaws (those that aren't incredibly OBVIOUS that is) and I don't really see him have any enemies aside from myself who could support me on this...
Me and her talk {In person or IM [I hate the phone (Its realtime conversation and I can't correct things with physical gestures if I mess up xD) ]} a lot so I can learn things about her real quick. Like me, she's a videogame addict (we have kind of a competition thing going on I love it:D) so its easy to ask her out to an arcade to get to know her better, and just tell her her friends could tag along if she wants them to as a security method to avoid suspicion. That usually works out well since I can get a lot of tips on what she likes, doesn't like, what makes her laugh etc. not only from my own actions but from her friend's.
There's also other girls who I could get relationships with way easier than this girl. But I'm afraid that I'll end up hurting one of them with an abrupt breakup in case the one I'm after suddenly becomes available. (Heavy conscience again... I hate it but can't do anything about it... )
This is probably irrelevant but her boyfriend's been pushing her to have sex with him (Which I hate because I don't want her losing her virginity to that .) and she has been refusing so far. Her friends don't help as they are encouraging her to say yes (Normally joking but those thoughts tend to run deep late at night) that worries me since they might support him over me if I told them I wanted to be with her.
So thinking on it my options are:
A-Taking the fast approach and stealing her from under her boyfriend, probably getting her friend's disapproval and my own feelings of guilt in the process but ensuring no "friend zone".
B-Taking the slow approach in which I get to know her really well no hard feelings with her BF and win over her friends in the process but risk being stuck in the "friend zone".
C-Taking the experience approach and dating other girls to get dating experience, not getting to know the original girl as well and her friends might be indiferent or think I'm some sort of a man-whore xD.
Feels great to get this off my chest, I'd love your personal take on this and according to you guys (who are probably a lot older and have more experience) which of the above options is best. Of course, if you got another way of doing things I'd love to hear it.