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SuperDry18
Nov 24, 2009, 08:10 PM
How the hell do you get over someone?

When every single text or phone call you receive on your phone you were wishing it was THEM.
Whenever you hear their name your heart sinks
Whenever you think about them your heart sinks
Whenever your phone vibrates your heart sinks
Whenever you see them the hole in your heart gets bigger
When whenever you're online you're constantly checking their Facebook..
When you're in work, you're thinking about them
When you're in college you're imagining them just walking in the room (even if they don't even go to college)
When you're ANYWHERE in fact, you're imagining them walking into the room...
The only person you want to talk about is them...
The only person who can make you happier is them...
The slightest bit of hope you get if you manage to get a 'good conversation' in with them you think it can all go back to how it was, even if they just want to be friends.
You think about the first night/day you met them and how amazed you were with each other
You think of how perfect it was when you first started which each other
You think how they're friends loved you and how they usually hated their friends exs!
You think how annoying that they got on with your parents and you got on with theirs
You think how annoying it was spending all that money to go and see them
You think why didn't I treat them better
What have I done to make the relationship not work
Why couldn't I have been better..
Why couldn't I have made more of an effort
Why am I so bothered? It wasn't working... so why does my heart ache so bad?
And why do you lose your pride when you're trying your best to get them back?
Why does it make you look desperate?
What made them change their mind...
What went wrong?
The thought of them getting with someone else and treating them the same as they did to me when it was perfect makes me feel physically weak and sick.
I'll never find anyone like them again...
What's the point in relationships?
What's the point in the heart ache?
Why is everyone(including me) feel the need to want to be with someone?
Why is it so lonely just being alone?
Why can't exes be friends? Or do you think they can be?

BIG - I want to know!


HOW
Do you get over all these questions and feelings?!

rosemcs
Nov 24, 2009, 11:23 PM
How do you get over these feelings?

Honestly, you may have these feelings again in your future relationships. Many people ask themselves these questions after each breakup. It is very common.

The difference between yourself and others that go on with life is that they:
Recognize a pattern and educate themselves with information (there are many great books) on relationships and how to deal with communication issues,
Realize not to take it personally,
Find it a good time to get into a good career,
Notice how other people have greater suffering (even physical in the hospital-there is a whole other world out there and they live right in your neighborhood. Does anyone on your block need an errand done for them? You would be very surprised),
Eventually enjoy being free and grateful for all you had in your life before this person came along.

With enough time apart from the emotional attachment to the other person, you can begin to feel very relieved that you are no longer a "victim" of your own emotions.