Ok here goes...

I am a 26 yr old male and my girlfriend is 27. I have an associates degree in computers and work for the school board in my local town. She has a masters and is a teacher. She owns a house, and I rent with a friend. Believe me this is all relevant.

Now, we start dating officially about 2 months ago after knowing each other for about 4. Starts with a lot of dating with friends and stuff like that. When we are together, we joke around a lot, watch movies, cook, blah blah. Recently however it seems that she is incapable of having a conversation without a smart- remark or something that puts me down.

Examples...

1. I leave her house this morning and I forget to turn off the garage light.
She calls and tells me I always leave the lights on everywhere in her house. She over exaggerates A LOT.

2. A co worker and I are heading to lunch and he mentions a place to go eat even though I had my own lunch and I say jokingly to him "are you paying"?
She is on the phone and says, yea I bet you want him to pay, just like you, you are so tight.
She has never paid for anything so far in our relationship except for one trip to the grocery store and she was paid back for it.

3. She likes to say things like, "you don't know what you are talking about, you don't have a masters degree".
It was all fun and cute at the beginning but this is getting aggravating especially since she is the one with 0 common sense.

Basically when it comes down to it, she tries to make me feel stupid/guilty and I don't know why. We fight and argue and it's always me apologizing and never her. Basically as long as I say I am sorry and do what she wants when she wants then she is fine. The second I tell her what I am not liking about this , she proceeds to act like a 10 yr old and not answer my calls and then tells her best friend to text me to tell me to call her lol...

She comes from a family with money and she is used to dating rich preppy guys. I put my foot down a lot and she knows she will not run over me, but these jokes and this over exaggeration is getting on my last nerve. I tell her she needs to compromise and she thinks there is nothing wrong. I'd like to work things out with her, but she is so unpredictable, I really think she may be bi polar or something else but I am not going to say anything like that to her. Although the other day I told her she needed to see a psychiatrist and she didn't like that at all!


Anyway , as it stands right now, I told her we need to sit down and talk about this if she wants this relationship to continue. Her friend sent me a message not to long ago saying everything is fine and that WE BOTH need to compromise and I say "I already am, its her who needs the work."

It's like she acts like she is too good for me. She will say things like, "you don't even have a house you live with someone." As if that is relevant at all to anything? She has admitted that she is selfish and that she is spoiled, but its like she makes no attempt to try to get over it. She just expects me to deal with it, but I can't. I wasn't raised that way and I don't think I need to "put up" with anything.

Thanks in advance

Sounds to me like you two just aren't compatible. You've only been dating for two months and she's already acting like this?

You're just on different pages- I would consider breaking up with her- especially because it sounds like she's not willing/going to change.

Most people don't change so this is who she is. If you don't like the person she is just end it.

I am definitely considering it and dammit I have been here so many times and I am so not looking forward to it.

When the cute wears off, and your always annoyed, then its time to make a decision based on facts, and not just your feelings, or your fears.

You guys don't click very well at all from what you have written. So what's the point? Are you having fun yet?

I just told her that we need to back off from each other a little bit. We are together way to often way too soon. If the same behavior continues, then I'll end it. No this isn't fun, especially because I thought so highly of her and us as a couple.

I just told her that we need to back off from each other a little bit. We are together way to often way too soon. If the same behavior continues, then I'll end it. No this isn't fun, especially because I thought so highly of her and us as a couple.

Trust me when I tell you it will get worse before it gets better. The 1st 6 months are supposed to be incredible where each person in the relationship is on their best behavior. That's why they call it the "honeymoon period". Sounds to me like you two never even had that. Tell her you want to go on break.:rolleyes:

She is verbally and emotionally abusive. Not much different than if you were beating the $hit out of her every night. I'd click my heels and run away from this one. It's not going to get any better and, as you say, you don't need to put up with it.

If you can't take the heat, get out of the kitchen. Don't force yourself to stay in a relationship. And don't stay in the relationship expecting to change her. That would be setting yourself up for disappointment.

You've only been together for a few months. In the early stages of a relationship, you're still getting to know each other. She didn't act like this out of nowhere. It was in her all this time. She just didn't feel comfortable letting it out until now.

Now that you see who she really is, do you still want to continue? You can't except her to change. It's whether you can accept her personality.

I will admit that I wonder what her side of the story would be if she were telling it because from what you have written she has no redeeming qualities. However, I think it boils down to the same advice: Let her go.

There is not one thing in your post that would lead me to believe that there is anything in this relationship other than frustration and pain.

You appear to have nothing in common. I am not sure you like her. I think you like/love the idea of being in a relationship, but I get the feeling it would be a better relationship without her in it. You want her to change. You want to change her. You seem to feel like you are making all the sacrifices in the relationship. You seem to feel that she hasn't done anything to make the relationship work.

It almost seems like you want to live out the Romantic Comedy where the poor boy teaches the rich girl about 'real' life and 'love' and then realizes that the girl in the next cubicle is the one he wanted all along.

Why are you even contemplating staying in this relationship for another minute? Why not let her live her own life and you do the same? Find a woman who is more suited to your needs instead of one you feel compelled to change into the woman you want. Remember that she can't do anything to you that you don't allow her to do.