When I was 16 I started dating this girl who was older then me, it was a long distance relationship and we didn't get so see each other often, after 3 years of trying to make that work we split up. She ended up moving across the country and I started dating someone else. I've been dating my current girlfriend for about 1 1/2 years now and things are great but I keep having my doubts. There are a few things that we don't really see eye to eye on and I don't think we ever will. Also, shallow as it seams, she is the only woman I've slept with and I'm curious about other girls. Anyway, recently I have been thinking a lot about my ex, and found out she is moving back to my state.

What should I do? I know what would make me happiest, but it would completely crush my current girlfriend, I still care about her and its not like I'm miserable right now.

Sounds like you shouldn't be in a relationship.

It's not fair to your current GF if you feel like this when clearly you want to be out in the big wide world sowing your wild seeds.

Do yourself a favor - the current GF will be a lot more crushed when you eventually get sick of it all and cheat on her.

1) If you have so many doubts about your current girlfriend, you need to try to work them out. If you can't, then you shouldn't be with her. So stop dragging out the inevitable break up.

2) You're already on the rebound before you even break up. You're thinking about the next relationship before you're done with the first one.

3) Do yourself a favor and be single for a while to sort out your own issues before jumping into a new relationship.

Just because the ex is coming back to your state, it doesn't mean you should look her up. Leave her alone, and deal with what you have now.

As for your current girlfriend, there will be many things about her that you may not understand, or like, and curiosity, and attractions to others is natural, and normal.

The trick is to be honest with yourself about how you feel, and if you want to explore, at least have the good sense to be honest with her and let her go gently as possible before you start messing around.

She may be hurt over the break up, but that can't be helped, and she sure would be a lot more hurt over your cheating, wouldn't she?

Figure yourself out, and do the right thing.