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Lynne14
Nov 19, 2009, 08:10 PM
I have been involved with this man for four years-- Long story short, I went to his apartment one day to surprise him and another woman was unlocking his front door. I confronted this woman, and oh by the way, I know her and she is also married. My boyfriend is not married and I am not married. She tells me that she has been seeing him for a while. Of course, the boyfriend tells me he will end this, however, it is not over. She is very much in his life. The boyfirend gets very hateful when I bring this up and you would think I was the one that did somehting wrong.

Who is this guy? He doesn't not and has not shown any signs of any sorrow or remorse. Is he a sociopath? I don't understand how he can keep lying and telling me he loves me and I am the one he is in love with but yet he is still involved with another woman at the same time. What is the deal? Has anyone experienced this before?

rockie100
Nov 19, 2009, 08:29 PM
Ending this relationship is really the only right answer. This man would have no problem doing this to you. Well, he has been doing this to you. Being married holds no meaning in his world. And the love he has for you is superficial. You have been deceived. In time you will find a man of substance, that deserves your attention.

I wish
Nov 19, 2009, 08:29 PM
I can't even tell who's the "other women".

The trust is broken.

No trust = No relationship

Rid yourself of this cheater.

BlackVY
Nov 19, 2009, 08:38 PM
Sorry, it doesn't sound like he loves you at all.

Who knows who he is. You don't, the other woman doesn't, I don't even think he knows who he is...

And to make matters worse, he doesn't feel bad for what he did and tries to make you feel bad about it and gets angry at you? That's just wrong...

Slam the door in his face. You can do better...

amicon
Nov 19, 2009, 11:56 PM
I hope you have the sense and selfrespect to dump this loser. Don't hang around till woman number 3 shows up.

Devorameira
Nov 20, 2009, 05:42 AM
RUN RUN RUN AWAY FROM THAT GUY! Girl, you deserve a man that's devoted and loyal to you - you don't need a man who breaks your heart and may give you a sexually transmitted disease from his conquests. I don't know if he's a sociopath or not, but he's not a "normal" boyfriend.

talaniman
Nov 20, 2009, 09:26 AM
Now that you have found out he is a cheater, and a liar, its up to you to protect yourself.

Who is the bigger fool? The one who lies, and cheats? Or the one who believes their lies, and accepts their cheating?

justcurious55
Nov 20, 2009, 09:42 AM
Some people just have issues. Unfortunately, he's not the first guy to have ever sat there telling two or more women how much he loves them, and only them. You think this guy is bad? One of my aunts was engaged to this guy who had told her this whole sad story about how his wife had died of cancer. Then it later turned into well, she didn't die yet, but she's been in a coma for years. Then one day, somehow she ended up getting to his voice mail and hearing a message from his wife, who turned out to be alive and well. This guy had actually come to stay with our family numerous times! He led everyone on for more than a year. So take the others advice. Run. And stay far, far away from this guy.