View Full Version : What does it mean when a guy cuddles after sex?
theultimated0rk
Nov 14, 2009, 07:47 AM
Is it generally a good sign if a guy cuddles with you after sex instead of just rolling over and falling asleep? I've stayed at his house for two nights in a row. The first night we didn't have sex, though we were intimate (did other things) and he cuddled with me for a good portion of the night and would give me soft kisses every now and again. Then last night I stayed with him and we had sex, and he did the same thing.. cuddled with me and gave me soft kisses. I know some guys just do not like to cuddle, so would a guy cuddling after sex be a pretty big indication of liking me?
asking
Nov 14, 2009, 07:55 AM
Yes. He likes you or he likes cuddling with you at least. Contrary to myth, LOTS of guys like to cuddle. And why shouldn't they? It's human to want physical contact.
But don't over interpret. It does not mean he's in love (or that you are). Enjoy it.
How old are you, by the way?
theultimated0rk
Nov 14, 2009, 07:57 AM
I am 25 and he is 26.
redhed35
Nov 14, 2009, 08:54 AM
After sex some guys like to roll over and sleep,some like to talk,others like to cuddle,and some like to put there shoes on and leave...
I'm a women and I just want to sleep!
It would be an indiction that he likes you,but so is making you coffee! Love takes time.. take it easy and enjoy it for what it is right now,let things develop at a natural pace.
Jake2008
Nov 14, 2009, 09:00 AM
I know some guys just do not like to cuddle, so would a guy cuddling after sex be a pretty big indication of liking me?
It's probably a reasonable guess to say that he liked you before he had sex with you too. :)
Catsmine
Nov 14, 2009, 02:22 PM
Had to spread the love Jake, but do you really think so?
Ultimate, I like to cuddle but the stereotype says we're rare. Enjoy it.
mudweiser
Nov 14, 2009, 02:28 PM
Have we lost faith in men so much that we get worried when they show us affection?
Sarah
J_9
Nov 14, 2009, 02:36 PM
Is it generally a good sign if a guy cuddles with you after sex instead of just rolling over and falling asleep?
It means you stink, your sex was terrible and he wants nothing to do with you.
Sorry, had the sarcastic font installed yesterday.
Really, come on. What do you think the answer to that question is. Do you think that rolling over and going to sleep is a good sign?
Cuddles... rolling over? Hmm, which one makes me feel closer to my partner? Sorry, sarcastic font again.
theultimated0rk
Nov 14, 2009, 02:52 PM
Of course I wouldn't rather him just roll over and fall asleep. I just didn't know if cuddling was an indication of a guy liking you, or if they just do it just cause and it has no bearing as to whether they like you or not. I asked because I've known guys to just want to cuddle with girls just because they like it. So I didn't know if it was seen as being more intimate following sex and them wanting to be close to you.. or if it's just cause they like it.
J_9
Nov 14, 2009, 02:53 PM
I asked because I've known guys to just want to cuddle with girls just because they like it. So I didn't know if it was seen as being more intimate following sex and them wanting to be close to you.. or if it's just cause they like it.
It's all of the above. It all depends on the guy. To know for sure, you will have to ask him.
theultimated0rk
Nov 14, 2009, 02:54 PM
Have we lost faith in men so much that we get worried when they show us affection?
Sarah
It's not being worried. I actually love it. Just sometimes I need confirmation because I am unsure of their actions. :p
mudweiser
Nov 14, 2009, 02:55 PM
It's not being worried. I actually love it. Just sometimes I need confirmation because I am unsure of their actions. :p
Welcome to the world of men where women don't understand them and men don't understand you :D
Sarah
Cat1864
Nov 14, 2009, 04:16 PM
Why does anyone cuddle? It fulfills a need for affection as well as showing affection.
Why do you cuddle with him? You could roll over and go to sleep or get up and go home instead. Some women do.
If you wonder, ask him. If you don't ask, you will only allow your imagination out to play and that is a very good way to start questioning every little detail for hidden meanings.
theultimated0rk
Nov 14, 2009, 04:25 PM
Why does anyone cuddle? It fulfills a need for affection as well as showing affection.
Why do you cuddle with him? You could roll over and go to sleep or get up and go home instead. Some women do.
If you wonder, ask him. If you don't ask, you will only allow your imagination out to play and that is a very good way to start questioning every little detail for hidden meanings.
Well, I cuddled with him because I do like him and I generally cuddle with those I like. I also couldn't just get up and leave since I had asked him to pick me up since my parent's needed their car (I don't get my own car until this week), so it was pretty much up to him when he would take me home. I however ended up staying with him for the second night in a row, and he just took me home before he had to get ready for work the next day (in the afternoon). If I was trying to build into a relationship with someone, I definitely would not just get up and leave.
asking
Nov 14, 2009, 04:26 PM
I think it's too soon to be asking him already how he feels about you.
In fact, I think a lot of us spend too much time wondering how a partner feels about us. Ask yourself, How do you feel about him?
theultimated0rk
Nov 14, 2009, 04:32 PM
I wasn't asking so much about how he feels about me. More so I like to get reassurance that things are moving in the right direction. I think they are, but I do have a tendency to read into things sometimes. I know it's too soon to know exactly how he feels about me or how I feel about him. I do know that I really enjoy being around him and spending time with him, and just getting to know him, as well as being intimate with him.
mudweiser
Nov 14, 2009, 04:41 PM
I wasn't asking so much about how he feels about me. More so I like to get reassurance that things are moving in the right direction. I think they are, but I do have a tendency to read into things sometimes. I know it's too soon to know exactly how he feels about me or how I feel about him. I do know that I really enjoy being around him and spending time with him, and just getting to know him, as well as being intimate with him.
Ahh don't do that!
Enjoy the time don't go all be a crazy caroline [from that 70's show].
Really. Enjoy your time, don't even think about getting those books that say:
-What he does but what it REALLY means
-His words in translated into woman
-What a man REALLY says thinks or does.
Lol really. Enjoy your time, he's cuddling with you not slapping you around :)
Sarah
jmjoseph
Nov 14, 2009, 04:52 PM
I like to cuddle after sex. AFTER I eat some Leggo waffles, though. Ice cream if we have it.
He likes you. Just enjoy your time together. Be glad you found a good one.
Some guys ( not me ) think that the definition of eternity is the time between him coming, and her leaving.
Sorry, I had to throw that one in there.
That was for J_9
J_9
Nov 14, 2009, 04:55 PM
LOL At you JM!! You have your sarcasm font on too I see!
Synnen
Nov 15, 2009, 10:30 AM
Actually... how old are you?
asking
Nov 15, 2009, 11:49 AM
I already asked that. They are 25 and 26. All is well!
Jake2008
Nov 15, 2009, 01:25 PM
I know it's too soon to know exactly how he feels about me or how I feel about him.
Hate to be the snuggle crusher here, but if the only thing you ARE sure of is that you know you don't know him well enough, then why are you sleeping with him?
Maybe its better to put the horse back in front of the cart, and control yourself a little, and try to find a meaningful relationship without the sex, before you jump in the sack again.
Just a thought, sometimes it works if you're interested in a long term relationship.
I realize my opinion is old fashioned, but with your insecurities, perhaps you need to establish a relationship first. That way you will be a lot more sure of how he feels about you.
Shouldn't sex be the icing on the cake? Or ice cream on the waffle?
theultimated0rk
Nov 15, 2009, 04:45 PM
I know I shouldn't of had sex with him that soon. It's something I wish I hadn't done now that I look back on it, but what's done is done, and I'll just try to hold off on doing that until we know each other better or are in a relationship together. I mean, I feel like I do know him pretty good, but not as well as I should. I do know that I like him, though those feelings aren't super overpowering or anything just yet. The last thing I want is for us to turn into a FWB type ordeal. I just hope he doesn't think that of me despite how much time we've spent together and me sleeping over, etc. I would hope it's going more in the direction of a relationship than FWB, though it's hard to tell sometimes.
lilysmama2009
Nov 15, 2009, 07:03 PM
I think that if a guys cuddles with you then most likely he likes you. At first anyway. Ive been with my fiancé for 2 years now and we have a baby girl. When we first got together he wanted to cuddle all the time and even when we didn't have sex he just liked being near me. And it was a good feeling. I believe it's a good sign when a guy feels the need to cuddle. Hey it was for me anyway. Just see how things go. Now we don't cuddle so much, usually because were both so tired all the time. But good luck girl, I really hope he's a winner for you.;)
smoothy
Nov 16, 2009, 07:03 AM
Don't try to read too much into it... other than it shows the guy is a cuddler. Not all guys are. Its not a great indication on its own that he loves you any more than his having sex with you does.
Guys can easily have sex with anyone they find attractive, and if they are a cuddler, then cuddle as well.
What it does indicate is that he actually is a cuddler... and if that's important to you, then its something to add to his positives list.
Just trying to be honest and realistic here.
Bonita--
Nov 17, 2009, 02:59 PM
I think just because a guy cuddles with you after sex, doesn't mean he likes you. Maybe he's just an affectionate guy, maybe he does it with every girl he has sex with.
Take things slow, stop having sex with him, and if he asks for sex again tell him you feel guilty about having sex so fast the first time. If he pressures you for sex after that, then I think you'll know what his intentions are.
SVImager
Nov 17, 2009, 11:27 PM
"What does it mean when a guy cuddles after sex?"
It is call "Spooning".
Haha... My wife and I just saw this movie "Ghost of Girlfriends Past" and that is what they called it.
Now, my wife and I are having fun with using this term.