ginger45
Nov 5, 2009, 07:05 PM
We live in Columbia Illinois. On September 25 (7 weeks tomorrow) DCFS dropped our six year grandson off at our home-he came with only the clothing on his back-nothing else.
My daughter signed a handwritten piece of paper stating that our grandson was to stay with us 3 to 6 weeks and then go into his birth fathers custody.
Our grandson does not know his birth-they were never married when grandson was two years old they split up and even though he was court ordered to pay child support he never did nor has he ever attempted to see his children.
My husband and I are ones that called DCFS and made a police report when in a moment of sanity our daughter told us the abuse happening to our oldest grandson by his stepfather. Once the report was made our daughter has not spoken to us since-she has cut off all communication to us and the rest of her family-only defending her husband. DCFS found nothing to support the reported child abuse-the states attorney did and is pressing charges. DCFS only removed our oldest grandson because our daughter and her husband told them they did not want him so they willing gave grandson to DCFS (therefore the state does not have custody according them they are only the middle people helping with grandsons transition)
My daughter and her husband or sick-mental issues-drug abuse-cruel-controlling-and they are mad at us for calling the police and DCFS.
We have contacted the birth father who now has two other children by different women-the youngest one is 6 weeks old- we have introduced our grandson to him and trying to get the birth father to step up to the plate. The birth father said he wants custody-but does not want to hire an attorney because of the $13,000 he owes in back child support-(he get paid under the table).
Here is one of the many problems we are dealing with and can not seem to get any help. No papers were signed giving us guardianship-no medical insurance-nothing. Our daughter will not even speak to us-she wants no contact to with us or her son-but she does not want our grandson with us. My husband and I are the only stable-loving-relationship that our grandson has ever known and we will do anything to make sure that he is taken care-loved-protected and secure. The birth father said he wants him but has done nothing-provided nothing and the only reason he is even in contact with grandson is because we keep calling him.
We have contacted an attorney who said that DCFS really dropped the ball and we are in a bad situation and does not know what he could do to help. We have called DCFS-provided them papers that only need a signature from daughter giving us temporary guardianship-they have done nothing with the papers-we called caseworkers supervisor and have gotten no where her only question was wanting to know if grandson is with his birth father.
My husband and I are driving 200 miles a week so our grandson can stay in his school and have access to his younger brother-we are taking him to counseling-purchased clothing-shoes-toys-school needs-going to work late and leaving work early-we can provide medical insurance (but need guardianship)
Can anyone help us? No attorney wants to touch it (but they will take a retainer fee and look into it plus we don't have thousands of dollars for a retainer to begin with). DCFS is doing nothing. Our daughter will not talk to us. The birth father is pretty useless. We are the only ones that seem to care about our grandson and the three of us are just hanging here.
My daughter signed a handwritten piece of paper stating that our grandson was to stay with us 3 to 6 weeks and then go into his birth fathers custody.
Our grandson does not know his birth-they were never married when grandson was two years old they split up and even though he was court ordered to pay child support he never did nor has he ever attempted to see his children.
My husband and I are ones that called DCFS and made a police report when in a moment of sanity our daughter told us the abuse happening to our oldest grandson by his stepfather. Once the report was made our daughter has not spoken to us since-she has cut off all communication to us and the rest of her family-only defending her husband. DCFS found nothing to support the reported child abuse-the states attorney did and is pressing charges. DCFS only removed our oldest grandson because our daughter and her husband told them they did not want him so they willing gave grandson to DCFS (therefore the state does not have custody according them they are only the middle people helping with grandsons transition)
My daughter and her husband or sick-mental issues-drug abuse-cruel-controlling-and they are mad at us for calling the police and DCFS.
We have contacted the birth father who now has two other children by different women-the youngest one is 6 weeks old- we have introduced our grandson to him and trying to get the birth father to step up to the plate. The birth father said he wants custody-but does not want to hire an attorney because of the $13,000 he owes in back child support-(he get paid under the table).
Here is one of the many problems we are dealing with and can not seem to get any help. No papers were signed giving us guardianship-no medical insurance-nothing. Our daughter will not even speak to us-she wants no contact to with us or her son-but she does not want our grandson with us. My husband and I are the only stable-loving-relationship that our grandson has ever known and we will do anything to make sure that he is taken care-loved-protected and secure. The birth father said he wants him but has done nothing-provided nothing and the only reason he is even in contact with grandson is because we keep calling him.
We have contacted an attorney who said that DCFS really dropped the ball and we are in a bad situation and does not know what he could do to help. We have called DCFS-provided them papers that only need a signature from daughter giving us temporary guardianship-they have done nothing with the papers-we called caseworkers supervisor and have gotten no where her only question was wanting to know if grandson is with his birth father.
My husband and I are driving 200 miles a week so our grandson can stay in his school and have access to his younger brother-we are taking him to counseling-purchased clothing-shoes-toys-school needs-going to work late and leaving work early-we can provide medical insurance (but need guardianship)
Can anyone help us? No attorney wants to touch it (but they will take a retainer fee and look into it plus we don't have thousands of dollars for a retainer to begin with). DCFS is doing nothing. Our daughter will not talk to us. The birth father is pretty useless. We are the only ones that seem to care about our grandson and the three of us are just hanging here.