So I've been dating this one guy for around three months now. Before this, we were best friends for two years, so we knew everything about each other and it was very easy to transition into being girlfriend and boyfriend. We got serious fast, and were pretty sure that we would last for years.

Recently, I've been under a lot of emotional stress from school, and have been feeling very insecure about the fact that he has friends that are girls that he talks to a lot. The jealous feelings were accumulating, and when I finally decided to tell him that I wished that he would just not mention them so much in front of me, he agreed but got weird afterward..
He was distant, and didn't seem very much into our relationship. This lasted for about a week, and finally I couldn't take it anymore and I said that we needed to take time to reconsider our relationship. He seemed very upset, and I knew then that he really did still have feelings for me.

I called him later on and he agreed that it would be best if we took time off. The thing is, I'm not even sure if he still wants to try, even though he still cares for me, I'm not sure if he wants a relationship. I asked him, and he said he'd wait around, but I'm terrified that by the end of it, he won't want to continue our relationship. I'm getting mixed signals, and it's confusing me.

I love him very much, and I want us to work out, but I'm not sure how to feel. Please help!

Quoting "Dear Abby":
If it's really love , it will wait.
If it's not, who cares!

Instead of worrying about this you should do what you asked him to do, and take advantage of this time you have seperatly. DON'T WORRY ABOUT HIM! The only person you have to worry about is you-as long as you are doing things right, that's all you have to worry about. Let him clear his own mind and come to his own conclusion about the relationship. Clear your mind and wait for him to get back to you. If you think it's worth another try, make your wishes known. If he wants to break it off, then that's what will happen. (two people can't have a relationship if one wants to leave.) Be open-minded and come up with your own feelings. If you are planning on telling him you want to leave, and he comes to you saying he wants to stay- don't compromise your feelings for him. Stick with what you say, and don't worry about him. Don't call him or ask him, or spend all your time wondering. Focus on your own opinion about the relationship.

His names not Jeff is it?

his names not Jeff is it?

This is neither relevant or helpful to the poster.


As for the OP:

You knew this guy for 2 years prior dating him, which is helpful.

Why did the jealousy creep up? You knew how he was already. Did he ever "cheat" on previous girlfriends? Has he given you motive to not trust him [jealousy can make things ugly].

Do you have guy friends? How does he feel about that? Would you cut off your guy friends for him?

I can see why he's acting the way he is. My suggestion to you is to suck it up and tell him even though him having many friends whom are girls makes you a tad jealous it doesn't mean he needs to stop being friends with them.

Let him know how you feel and talk it through.

If you can't even talk through this then I highly doubt this relationship will work at all.

Be clear about how you feel. Talk about it for cripes sakes you're a couple, if you can't talk to him well then may as well end it right now before you two start getting all these mixed signals and end up more hurt than ever.