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lizet_vazquez
Oct 30, 2009, 08:59 PM
:confused: I am super confused i dont know what to do. I am currently dating someone but ive met someone else who i have feelings for. I dont know what to do. The person im dating i like but not much i dont even know what i feel for him. Should i sty with him or leave him for the one i love?

Alty
Oct 30, 2009, 09:26 PM
First, don't write in turquoise, it's hard on the eyes and some of us are old.

Second;


the person I'm dating I like but not much

Not much going for you then, is there? Why are you staying with a guy that you like, but not much?


Should I sty with him or leave him for the one I love?

Love? How old are you? I'm going to guess 13, maybe 14, because of your writing and the way you posted. So, having said that, you don't know love yet, and won't for some time.

If you want to date someone else then break up with the first guy and move on to the second. It's unlikely that you'll end up with either of them for the long term anyway.

Good luck.

jaime90
Oct 30, 2009, 09:34 PM
I agree. First: if you're only 13 or 14 years old you will more than likely be disappointed in both relationships- and many future ones that you have- after all, you're jumping around from guy to guy trying to find true love while playing the dating game, messing with your emotions, and messing with the relationship you will have with your husband.

Secondly, do you even know what you're looking for when you say you just "like" your current boyfriend, and you "love" someone else? Did you love your boyfriend at one point in time? For the record: love isn't just a feeling- if it is to you, you shouldn't be dating around. Love is commitment, and, repeating what has been said before "love is a verb."

Relationships take work- maybe much more work than your current level of maturity can handle. Don't take it personally- 13/14 is too young to be searching for the love of a lifetime and spouse material- if you're just doing this to mess around, and you're not looking for love and marriage, then I would advise you don't date until you are.

talaniman
Oct 31, 2009, 07:39 AM
Break up with the guy you don't like so much, and date the guy you do. Only desperate people date people they don't like. That's no fun.

Fr_Chuck
Oct 31, 2009, 07:52 AM
Or date people guys for a while, when you are first dating you need to date a lot of people to find out more about them

sandalwood7
Oct 31, 2009, 12:11 PM
I think you know the answer... break up with the guy and be single. Next time try to takeit slower and don't get involved with someone that you don't like very much.

Staying with someone out of pity or guilt is disrespectful to that person. Stop living a lie. After all... Many relationships don't work out. That is part of gaining experience. Not every relationship is foreverbut at least be honest because the longer you stay the more of a hole you are digging for yourself.

Good luck making the right decision.