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gia23
Oct 24, 2009, 05:43 PM
I was out one night with the girls and decided to go to a restaurant after the club. After the dinner this guy came up to me and start talking to me he ask were I'm from and then sang one song from where I'm from and also said that his ex are from the same place too. He took my number he said where he work and ask us to come by sometimes. I never heard from him and didn't give enough thought about it.

8 months later I ended up going to bar that he works at and saw him. I decided to stop him and asked if he was the guy that I met at a restaurant one night he smiled and awknolegde that it was him. He sat in between me and my girlfriend and we talk to for two hours. My girlfriend told me that he likes me since he stayed for conversation and even drink when directors of high end bar don't usually do it. He told me to come back.

The second week I was there for a birthday party and when he saw me he came right away and chatted me about how how his days was and how I bought a lot of people in his place. I ended up introducing him to my girlfriend and she said she heard a lot of good things about him he said "oh yeah i hope its good things" and smiled. He talks to only me and when my girl try to talk to us he excuse himself and went back to work. In the end of the night he came before he leaves and ask me when is the next time I'm coming by because if the bar is not that busy he wanted to come with me to go out I said il come back next week. He made sure he has my number and said bye.

The third week the place turned to be busy than usual. I met couple of guys that keeps talking to me. When I saw him I said hello and he talked to me for couple of minutes and said he will come by to my table in a bit. He never came I have guys came over and talked to me and my friend and sat in our table and I saw him looked but never came by. When I went to the bar he bought my drink and told me that I'm seem so busy and then he disappear? I saw him outside later and we talk for a bit he did say I should come by more often but he never mention that we supposed to go out that night? He did excuse himself and went back to work? I'm confuse? Did I just assume that he liked me? I understand that he manage a highend bar where meeting beautiful woman are so easy so I'm wondering if I got the wrong signals? Can somebody tell me if I should make some moves? I mean I don't mind doing it I just want to make sure that we have a mutual feelings before I even do it. He also still didn't call. He is a very soft spoken guy I don't think he is a shy guy either. Please help I need some advice... I'm planning not to go to that venue for like 3 weeks just I wouldn't look like I'm desperate.

redhed35
Oct 25, 2009, 04:19 AM
Look, he has your number,unless he is calling you and asking you out on a date there is no confusion... he does not want to date you.

That does not mean he does not enjoy talking to you,just that he is not really in to you.

I would go back if you wanted too.. have a good time and enjoy the company without expectations...

If he wants you,he will ask,in the mean time,get busy with your life,date,have fun and don't be confused,if he is not calling,he does not want you...

Remember,how long does it take to send a text?
30 seconds?

Is he so busy he can't give you 30 secs out of his day?

Move on.

amicon
Oct 25, 2009, 04:33 AM
If a man s really into you, he'll be in touch and make definite arrangements for a date-so even though this guy probably thinks you're a nice person,he's not willing to take it any further.

talaniman
Oct 25, 2009, 11:07 AM
If he hasn't called you for a date then its best to figure he isn't that into you, or he wants you to chase him (never a good idea).

His signals aren't mixed, his actions are not matching his words.