I have loving boyfriend but I can't seem to see that, we have a five months old baby, everything is smooth, but I don't trust him and I always think the worst of him. I don't know if I am being selfish because sometimes I get jealous when he goes to see his friends and I want him to be with me al the time. I think I am insecure. He buys me gifts and spoil me a lot but still I don't see all that as love. I need held because I don't know what is the problem with me and am afraid I am going to loose him if my behaviour don't change.
We always fight about nothing and sometimes I start the fight just to get his full attention and after that I don't feel well and regret al I have done and said. I say nasty things to him just to see if he really loves me. Honestly I love the guy but I don't know what I want more. AM I pyscho or what. Am I real bad, please help me.

My advice is to talk to your boyfriend about how you feel, both of you buck up and take care of the baby. That is the priority here.

What you are doing is a little immature. If you have a baby, that should be your main priority and you should both be with it. Not just one of you. It sounds like you are a little obsessive with gettign his attention when all you are going to do his scare him off and then you will be all alone with the baby. I don't think you want or need that.

Focus on the baby, and remember the key to happiness is to be happy with YOUR own life, having a boyfriend should only add to the happiness. It seems like you have it the other way around

I think your healing from giving life, and your getting way to over the line of good behavior. See your doctor, and see what can be done about this, before you destroy your child's happy home.

Hello P,

First off , everyone else is correct! The baby is top priority!

Second, you just gave birth 5 months ago, so you are very hormonal, which explains a lot.

Third, negative attention is better than no attention at all. That could be why you are trying to get a rise out of him.

Take a step back and breath.. This too shall pass. Right now you are a new Mother, so my advice to you is to concentrate on the baby. Compose yourself around your boyfriend. Good luck.