Tapatio75
Oct 20, 2009, 09:13 PM
Hello
This is going to be a long story, and I've had advice from friends, coworkers and family, but I want to hear from someone that doesn't know me and might've been going through the same thing:
I met this girl a little over 2 years ago, we are in an internet forum, and we barely talked to each other at the time. When I finally met her in person at a party, it was love at first sight, I was thinking about her all the time, but I really didn't care since I found out later that she was dating one of the other guys. But they broke up because he treated her like crap or so I heard.
A few months went by, and we found something in common, an old TV series that I have, and she used to watch as a kid, so, I was going to make some copies for her, but since we didn't see each other since a second party 2 months earlier, I didn't give them to her, but she was always reminding me as a joke, and we started to talk more often. I'm too shy around girls, and that's why it took so long for us to break the ice. A couple months later, it was her birthday, and she invited me to it, so it was the right time to give her the dvds, (by the way, at the time we couldn't buy those dvds, they were vcr copies, now they remasterized them). It was like a double date, but only friends, 2 guys 2 girls. The next week she asked me out again, same thing 2 & 2.
So, I finally asked out when I bought a car, and she said yes, and that was the first of many times we went out. We were joking all the time, laughing, having a great time whenever we went out. I had a friend, and I was a friend to her, we could talk about anything that was bothering us, and I started to have feelings for her. I didn't know what to do, I wanted a friend, but my heart wanted something else, so I asked around and they said, go ahead, she seems interested. And I did, but I got the FRIEND ONLY thingy.
That hurt, since is hard for me to share my feelings, but we decided to be friends, I just wanted to tell her what was going on, since I didn't want to lose a good friend. A couple months later, well, I couldn't get over it, I had to hide my feelings every time we went out. But she changed, she was more friendly, she would touch me more often, call me or text me if I didn't do it, I invited her to a Cirque Du Solei show, and it was awesome, she was wearing new shoes, and it was kind of slippery so she almost fell once. There were some stairs to get and I offered my hand, she grabbed me, and it was the first time I've ever walk with a girl holding hands, (I've never had a GF), on the way out, she put her arm around mine, all the way to the parking lot. I was, oh my, I felt so special.
My feelings for her were stronger, before the show we went to a restaurant, and she let me drink from her glass, I don't drink beer, she does, but I didn't really like it. On the way to the show, I stopped for some gelato at a place that I like, she didn't want any, so I bought a small one for me, I told her it was good, and she asked for some of it, even though I had already licked it all, I mean I hope it doesn't sound too gross, because they tell me me is not usual, but we didn't care about it.
Took her home, and we always stay in my car for about 15 minutes talking, and a few days later, I was having a hard time because of it, I couldn't see her a friend anymore, so everybody told me to go ahead again, and I did, I asked her on a Monday, told her that I wanted to talk to her, and I did, but she said no again, and that was it, we decided not to see each other again, we would talk and chat, but no more dates or hanging out. I was losing my friend, and I did. She deleted me from myspace a couple months later, and I did it from the messengers, but I kept her number, same as her. One of the jokes I did to her was giving her a self-made coupon for french fries, but she never had the chance to redeem it.
6 months later, it was her birthday again, and I texted her, she answered, and as usual, we were joking. Nothing for a few weeks, and she sent me another text, or instant message (she didn't deleted me from her friends list and I didn't block her) me a couple of times but I wasn't around, in one of those she was like "hello, I'm here, not even hello for me?" but I didn't know if she was online. I didn't want to contact her, because I was having mixed feelings, love, hate, thinking that she only used me to have someone to take her out, but I realized that it was me asking her out, she never said, take me here take me there, she might've suggested it, but I was OK with it.
A couple more weeks, a month went by, no contact, so she did it more often, my friends kept telling me to go with the flow, take it easy and find out what she wanted. So I started to text her too once in a while, and then she asked me if the coupon was still valid, so I told yes, come and get them, and every time she was like "and my fries?" same as the DVDs. I went to a concert, and after all that time, I finally called her, so she could listen to the music. A few days later, I asked her out, and as always, she said yes. Went to a place called Red Robin, strange hamburgers, haha, so she could have her fries. She offered me to try her burger, and she had already eaten of it, and same as the gelato, we didn't care. That was two weeks ago, we went to a double feature movie, we talked, we made peace, and as usual, we had a great time. We really missed each other and we were glad that we were back in each others life.
I asked her out last Thursday, and she said yes right away, she used to say let me see if I can, I'll let you know, most of the time it was yes, or if it was on the spot, "wanna go see this movie?" yes was her answer all the time. We went to a hounted house, and she said get ready to feel my nails, hehe, before we went out, she said she was going to get hair do, then asked me what color for a manicure. At the hounted house, she held my arm in the beginning, but since we had to go in front of each other, well, she couldn' scratch me like she warned me, we went under a tunnel and she grabbed my hand. Before that, we got in a ferris wheel, the big one at Navy Pier in Chicago, that was something we planned before we stopped talking, I grabbed her hand when she got out. It was an awesome day.
And that's the story, sorry if it's too long, but I guess you would like some details. I really don't know what to do ir think, as I said, my buddies tell me to let her make her move, find out what she really wants after she was looking for me. They tell me to make a move and try to kiss her and see what happens, but I'm afraid to try it, and lose her again and maybe this time forever. And I'd rather have her friendship, but my feelings for her are as strong as they were, I love her and I can't show it because I can't read her mind.
What do you think?
Thanks so much
This is going to be a long story, and I've had advice from friends, coworkers and family, but I want to hear from someone that doesn't know me and might've been going through the same thing:
I met this girl a little over 2 years ago, we are in an internet forum, and we barely talked to each other at the time. When I finally met her in person at a party, it was love at first sight, I was thinking about her all the time, but I really didn't care since I found out later that she was dating one of the other guys. But they broke up because he treated her like crap or so I heard.
A few months went by, and we found something in common, an old TV series that I have, and she used to watch as a kid, so, I was going to make some copies for her, but since we didn't see each other since a second party 2 months earlier, I didn't give them to her, but she was always reminding me as a joke, and we started to talk more often. I'm too shy around girls, and that's why it took so long for us to break the ice. A couple months later, it was her birthday, and she invited me to it, so it was the right time to give her the dvds, (by the way, at the time we couldn't buy those dvds, they were vcr copies, now they remasterized them). It was like a double date, but only friends, 2 guys 2 girls. The next week she asked me out again, same thing 2 & 2.
So, I finally asked out when I bought a car, and she said yes, and that was the first of many times we went out. We were joking all the time, laughing, having a great time whenever we went out. I had a friend, and I was a friend to her, we could talk about anything that was bothering us, and I started to have feelings for her. I didn't know what to do, I wanted a friend, but my heart wanted something else, so I asked around and they said, go ahead, she seems interested. And I did, but I got the FRIEND ONLY thingy.
That hurt, since is hard for me to share my feelings, but we decided to be friends, I just wanted to tell her what was going on, since I didn't want to lose a good friend. A couple months later, well, I couldn't get over it, I had to hide my feelings every time we went out. But she changed, she was more friendly, she would touch me more often, call me or text me if I didn't do it, I invited her to a Cirque Du Solei show, and it was awesome, she was wearing new shoes, and it was kind of slippery so she almost fell once. There were some stairs to get and I offered my hand, she grabbed me, and it was the first time I've ever walk with a girl holding hands, (I've never had a GF), on the way out, she put her arm around mine, all the way to the parking lot. I was, oh my, I felt so special.
My feelings for her were stronger, before the show we went to a restaurant, and she let me drink from her glass, I don't drink beer, she does, but I didn't really like it. On the way to the show, I stopped for some gelato at a place that I like, she didn't want any, so I bought a small one for me, I told her it was good, and she asked for some of it, even though I had already licked it all, I mean I hope it doesn't sound too gross, because they tell me me is not usual, but we didn't care about it.
Took her home, and we always stay in my car for about 15 minutes talking, and a few days later, I was having a hard time because of it, I couldn't see her a friend anymore, so everybody told me to go ahead again, and I did, I asked her on a Monday, told her that I wanted to talk to her, and I did, but she said no again, and that was it, we decided not to see each other again, we would talk and chat, but no more dates or hanging out. I was losing my friend, and I did. She deleted me from myspace a couple months later, and I did it from the messengers, but I kept her number, same as her. One of the jokes I did to her was giving her a self-made coupon for french fries, but she never had the chance to redeem it.
6 months later, it was her birthday again, and I texted her, she answered, and as usual, we were joking. Nothing for a few weeks, and she sent me another text, or instant message (she didn't deleted me from her friends list and I didn't block her) me a couple of times but I wasn't around, in one of those she was like "hello, I'm here, not even hello for me?" but I didn't know if she was online. I didn't want to contact her, because I was having mixed feelings, love, hate, thinking that she only used me to have someone to take her out, but I realized that it was me asking her out, she never said, take me here take me there, she might've suggested it, but I was OK with it.
A couple more weeks, a month went by, no contact, so she did it more often, my friends kept telling me to go with the flow, take it easy and find out what she wanted. So I started to text her too once in a while, and then she asked me if the coupon was still valid, so I told yes, come and get them, and every time she was like "and my fries?" same as the DVDs. I went to a concert, and after all that time, I finally called her, so she could listen to the music. A few days later, I asked her out, and as always, she said yes. Went to a place called Red Robin, strange hamburgers, haha, so she could have her fries. She offered me to try her burger, and she had already eaten of it, and same as the gelato, we didn't care. That was two weeks ago, we went to a double feature movie, we talked, we made peace, and as usual, we had a great time. We really missed each other and we were glad that we were back in each others life.
I asked her out last Thursday, and she said yes right away, she used to say let me see if I can, I'll let you know, most of the time it was yes, or if it was on the spot, "wanna go see this movie?" yes was her answer all the time. We went to a hounted house, and she said get ready to feel my nails, hehe, before we went out, she said she was going to get hair do, then asked me what color for a manicure. At the hounted house, she held my arm in the beginning, but since we had to go in front of each other, well, she couldn' scratch me like she warned me, we went under a tunnel and she grabbed my hand. Before that, we got in a ferris wheel, the big one at Navy Pier in Chicago, that was something we planned before we stopped talking, I grabbed her hand when she got out. It was an awesome day.
And that's the story, sorry if it's too long, but I guess you would like some details. I really don't know what to do ir think, as I said, my buddies tell me to let her make her move, find out what she really wants after she was looking for me. They tell me to make a move and try to kiss her and see what happens, but I'm afraid to try it, and lose her again and maybe this time forever. And I'd rather have her friendship, but my feelings for her are as strong as they were, I love her and I can't show it because I can't read her mind.
What do you think?
Thanks so much