Hello everyone..
Title says all..

Well first I would like to say.. please no rude comments I just need help..

My mom has a boyfriend and his son is my boyfriend.. he's 25 years old.
My mom is totally fine with me and him we all live together.. He sleeps with me..
And he took away my virginity..
I don't know what to do.. is what I'm doing bad?.

I love him so much..
He makes me feel so happy I feel safe with him and my mom let's us have sex..
But I don't know..
He says whem I'm 18 he wants to marry me..
But I don't know..

What can I do?.

Please be honest but not rude..

Uhm this is technically illegal and way wrong? How is your mother OK with this and how is this in any way normal? Is this even a real question?

You are the minor in the house
What your mom is doing and allowing is very bad.She is being very short sited in your future.

This is a real question..
If it wasn't real I wouldn't of even posted this.. : (

All of you are dysfunctional, and neither parent is protecting you. Of course whatever tribe, or culture you with, may have different rules for this type of thing, but in America, the 3 adults would be in jail, and you would be in foster care, because what your doing is illegal here all across the country.

First of all forget being short sited and all of that. This is wrong on so many levels first and foremost its all ILLEGAL.

I highly suggest you cut this out and enjoy your youth, you're 14th enjoy those years to whatever life brings you. You and your boyfriend are on total different levels of maturity mentally and emotionally.

is what I'm doing bad?.
Why did you ask this?

Please be honest but not rude..
Why would you expect us to be rude?

Yipes!

For one, I urge you to find out the age of consent for your state if in the US.

Age of Consent - by State (http://www.webistry.net/jan/consent.html)

Also look at "The law" link.

All it would take is one person to file a complaint and, I believe there could be serious consequences.

Charges against boyfriend
Charges against mother
You in foster care.

You need to be aware of the laws and you should cut it out until the law allows you to be boyfriend/girlfriend.

Im not buying it,the gig is up.

This can't be for real , surely a parent wouldn't allow this to happen :eek:

If it is it's a sad world we live in!!

I really hope this isn't real. If it is though, you need to talk to your school counselor. Your mother, her boyfriend, and your "bf" all deserve to rot in prison if this is for real. And you deserve someplace safe to live where you can learn what love really is.

Um this definitely cannot be real.

Who in their right mind would even allow this to happen?

When my mom was about 14, rumor is my grandmother let her 20 something boyfriend move in with them. This is my grandmother who had her first child at 14 or 15 years old and encouraged my aunts to purposely get pregnant to trap men into relationships. I hope my grandmother is the exception, but who knows what other crazy people are out there. I hope this is just someone's sick idea of a joke.


Don't worry, no one in my family believes my grandmother is in her right mind. She's crazy.

If in fact this is true,yes it is wrong.

The adults in your life should be there to protect you and keep you from anyone who would harm you.

In your case all of the adults are depriving you of a normal youth by allowing you to behave as if you were an adult.

I question your mothers sanity and that of the boyfriend and the boyfriends father.

They are not thinking of your best interest and it is WRONG on so many levels.

Where is your father and what does he have to say about this horrible lifestyle?

I suggest you talk to an adult who is smart enough to know right from wrong and see if you can't find a more fitting home to live in.

One day you will come to regret that your teen years were stolen from you by this 25 yr.old and your mother ,you will probably come to see her as the horrible person that she is.

I feel very sorry for you ,you are in a bad place and you sound like the only one with sense ,at least you are questioning if this is right or wrong.

Hello Ayu,

When I read your thread, I about fell out of my chair! What is this world coming to?

First off, I commend you for coming on here to ask us this hard and uncomfortable question. No one in here wants to make you feel bad. I think that all of us are in shock!

I totally agree with Artlady. Shame on your Mother for allowing this to happen! I can't even fathom if this were my child! You have to understand that this relationship is wrong! He is a 25 year old. You are 14. That is just wrong on so many levels. My advice to you is to break it off! You are too young to even understand that kind of love. Where is your Father through all of this?

I really hope this isn't true!! However my co-worker is 25 and he had a relationship with a 16 year old girl! He told me the girls parents let him sleep in her room and they knew they were having sex and they were fine with it! So I guess this girls thread could be for real- which is a real shame if it is.

Yes Artlady you're right- he's the biggest loser. In so many ways!

I don't have a father...

The first thing we need to know is where, as in which country, do you live? There are different rules in different countries.

I think the biggest problem people have is that you sleep together. If you really care about each other so much, why can't you leave the sex out? There's no reason to rush a relationship with him.

i dont have a father...

At some point in your life you had a father.Is he deceased?

All in all its just downright wrong! What kind of 25 year old creep would be with a 14 year old? Definitely a pedophile!

Obvious troll is obvious

You can be friends, but leave the sex out of it nor matter what. The more I think about it, the more I can't understand why that's part of the relationship.

He's 25, he should know better. Your mom should also know better. Since they are both irresponsible, we're going to teach you to be the responsible one. If you want to be mature for your age, then take some responsibility. Keep the sex out nor matter what.

If this story is true, then your "boyfriend" is a pedophile and your parents aren't fit to raise fish.

This is illegal, immoral and downright sick!

You're 14, he's 25. You can't possibly have anything in common, so you have to ask yourself, why does he want you around? The logical answer is sex.

You need help, more then we can offer.

Obvious troll is obvious

It sounds absurd but I have heard of worse on this site and in life.
It seems outrageous that a Mother would allow this type of behavior but then again there are some horrible parents in this world,who have no business procreating!

I think it is better to err on the side of caution and assume this is a possibility.
Perhaps we can get this young lady to contact an intelligent adult who will help her to find an environment where she is safe.

What can i do?..


IF THIS IS IN FACT A REAL SITUATION!

I am not going to tell you what you can do, I will tell you what you should do, and what you need to do!

Call the police immediately. This is a situation for law enforcement to deal with, NONE of us can offer the kind of help you need.

You are in a completely dysfunctional household and this can only get worse. This is extremely close to a "Charles Manson" type of situation where you are taught to think this behavior is both acceptable and normal. You have been raped, plain and simple, and your mother and her boyfriend are both accessories to this. I can only assume you are American judging by the way you act. Also you realize you are able to be married at 18, which is a clear law in America of the age of a minor to becoming an adult.

Point in hand however, I doubt you would post something like this without knowing it is obviously wrong. You clearly know it is wrong as you preemptively tell us not to be rude. I suspect you wouldn't post this unless there was a motive behind it. So I guess my question to you is this: What do you want us to help you with? Are you asking us to condone your relationship or are you asking for a way out of this?

Honestly, I had to refresh this page twice because I couldn't believe what I was reading! I don't understand why your mother would think this is okay. It is just bizarre. I think just the fact that you brought this up shows that you know that there is something wrong or abnormal about your situation. It sounds like you don't really want to marry your boyfriend either... you should just get out of it now and get help. You might like it now but your situation will probably get ugly. It is not normal for a 25 year old to like a 14 year old.