I don't know what's going on but it seems everyone's against me in this town I live in and no one likes me at all. I have absolutely no friends anymore for no reason! I'm seriously alone, haven't been this alone since I was in middle school/9th grade till I dropped out from being teased and being called ugly all the time. Now I obesessed over the way I look cause in my warped mind think that if I look original and look like I put time into my image people will find me interesting or something. But it seems to do the opposite. Also I dye and cut my hair all kinds of crazy ways and have all sorts of piercings and I think I started getting into that whole image cause no one can really call you ugly.. but just "different". Plus that's what the guys I like look like yet... they go for the plane,prissy girls! Nothing makes sense. I just want some real friends to have fun with. What are some tips on how I could possibly make someone like me?:eek:

Btw I do have a very outgoing,obnoxious personality,I talk a lot, sing a lot, and am all over the place. Its just the way I am and I like it and don't want to change my personality to please others.

Xoxo

The first thing you would have to do is stop obsessing over yourself and start looking past your own skin at other people. I'd tell you more, but you said you don't want to change.

Hi, itsamor!

If you were to change the way some things about you are, would you think that would be a bad thing if it would help you to make new, good and lasting friends?

Thanks!

I can change small things like stop being so blunt and sarcastic and other things... some people don't get my goofy jokes. I also need to clear my rep cause people say I'm a slut,use people for drugs, junkie, attention whore,annoying,fake,anorexic.. all kinds of crazy crap no one thought until I dated my ex. He started and ruined my rep cause I was with him. So the whole town assumes what he does. I DO. Not true at all!

I can change small things like stop being so blunt and sarcastic and other things...some people dont get my goofy jokes. I also need to clear my rep cause people say im a slut,use people for drugs, junkie, attention whore,annoying,fake,anorexic..all kinds of crazy crap no one thought untill i dated my ex. He started and ruined my rep cause i was with him. So the whole town assumes what he does. I DO. not true at all!
You can change big things too, but it's good to start small and work up. Please list three things you would be willing to change.

Hi again, itsamor!

How do you know that people are saying things about you as you describe, please?

Thanks!

Try to Become straight edge so they have no reason to call me junkie. I take pills cause I need them to sleep. Which is just xanax and seroquel. Everyone in towns a pothead but I'm going to prove to them they're lame and need to lay off cause its making them stupid. Stop going to random partys with people I don't know cause its dangerous... and yeah it's a way to meet people but I think I need to meet people who don't live to get ed up.

Try to Become straight edge so they have no reason to call me junkie. I take pills cause i need them to sleep. which is just xanax and seroquel. Everyone in towns a pothead but im going to prove to them they're lame and need to lay off cause its making them stupid. Stop going to random partys with people i dont know cause its dangerous.... and yeah its a way to meet people but i think i need to meet people who dont live to get ed up.
Good start. Clean up your language too maybe? How old are you? Is your avatar you?

Hi again, itsamor!

How do you know that people are saying things about you as you describe, please?

Thanks!

My old best friend james tells me the gossip so do others. They like to stir so of course they tell me what everyoness saying. Plus I hear them whisper when I'm in the room like baby's. I pretty much have ears all over town. Everyone knows each other.

Good start. Clean up your language too maybe? How old are you? Is your avatar you?

I don't talk that bad and yes it's me... don't tell me I look like a clown already heard it

Oh I'm 19

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Hi again, itsamor!

How do you know that people are saying things about you as you describe, please?

Thanks!

My old best friend james tells me the gossip so do others. They like to stir so of course they tell me what everyoness saying. Plus I hear them whisper when I'm in the room like baby's. I pretty much have ears all over town. Everyone knows each other.


what everyoness saying. Does that include the parents and other adults in the town?

Thanks!

I don't talk that bad and yes it's me...don't tell me i look like a clown already heard it
Well, it rolled right off your tongue, like that's normal.

Maybe NOT looking like a clown would help your cause. Would you be willing to change?

Do you have a job, please?

Thanks!

I work at a pawn shop and have modeled before but nothing steady or nothing that pays well. The pawn shop is under the table no where else will hire me cause my image... thats why got to rely on alternative jobs and altern life. I don't want to look like a plain jane though. Not going to happen! "I wanna stay young untill i die" -7 seconds. Story of my life.

What is the population of the town in which you live? Also, is it the same town where you work, please?

Thanks!

I have no clue the population and yes I work here Im planning on moving to downtown LA but I don't have the money =[

I dont want to look like a plain jane though. Not gonna happen! "I wanna stay young untill i die" -7 seconds. story of my life.
Nope, no Plain Jane, but not young-looking either.

No I loook young everyone thinks I'm 16 or something

No i loook young everyone thinks im 16 or something
Probably because of your behavior and attitude and that you do all the wrong make-up things that 16 y/os do.

I have no clue the population and yes i work here Im planning on moving to downtown LA but i dont have the money =[

Please make a guess as to the size of the town? 200, 300, under 1,000 people, 5,000 or more..

Thanks!

I have no clue the population and yes i work here Im planning on moving to downtown LA but i dont have the money =[
Are you in California now? Can you name the town or city? Or at least one you live near?

Over 1,00 in the state the town a couple hundred but I spread through out the entire state and tri states

Dc Maryland right now

over 1,00 in the state the town a couple hundred but i spread through out the entire state and tri states
Let's try that in English, please.

I'll wait until you answer the question that Wondergirl just asked you...

S.o.l if you can't comprehend what was trying to say , sorry.
Why does it frickin matter how many people live here in the first place? I don't think anyone knows. I don't work for the government =]

S.o.l if you can't comprehend what was trying to say , sorry.
Why does it frickin matter how many people live here in the first place? i don't think anyone knows. I dont work for the government =]
Why L.A.

S.o.l if you can't comprehend what was trying to say , sorry.
Why does it frickin matter how many people live here in the first place? i don't think anyone knows. I dont work for the government =]

If you live in a small town, it's kind of like going to a small school or church. People will generally always remember you for the way that you were...

When I return to the church where I grew up, I'm still remembered, by quite a few people, as the child and teenager that I was at the time, even though I've grown way beyond the way that I was then...

It can be a good thing to move on beyond where we grew up!

Thanks!

It's where everytings at.. yea a lot of competition. But the people there are more like me. At least the ones I met over other websites. Just a change of pace. Maybe newyork first... but la's what I really want. I have to live in a city.

Yea I want to be someone new. No one knows anything about start my own rep. and a good one at that

Is Los Angeles closer to where you're at now?

Thanks!

You mentioned something earlier about liking to sing. Do you also dance?

Thanks!

Yea I sing, I want to start a band which will be a lot easier to be heard in LA and modeling too.

Oh and dancings fun

Repeat: Is Los Angeles closer to where you're at now?

Thanks!

Nope.. it's longggggggggggggg drive from DC
I can't even afford a plane ticket. I have rich family too but they won't help me out of course.

Hey you are apretty girl underneath all that hiding,what is it that you are hiding from?
You said that your image make people assume the worst of you and that you style yourself this way to fit in with the types of partners you like!
So how about styling yourself on what it is that you like! Love yourself and then maybe you will find that people will want to know the REAL YOU also.
The sarchasm and bluntness towards people will just put them off, life is too short, there is always a time for those kinds of attitudes! However these attitudes used around or with your friends are damaging- and actually these are your own defense mechanism so that people don't get to know who you really are!
So with that all said, if you want to have friends- try being YOU and start taking these walls down that you have built around yourself and let people in,
There is a bit I there about loving yourself!! It is true that until you are at a happy place with yourself it difficult to maintain any kind of friendships- if you don't know who you are how can any possible friends know who you are too. And for me personally I like to know who and what my frinds are all about.
This is all just my opinion of course.
Goodluck

Hi again, itsamor!

I have some comments to make about styling oneself to fit into society so that a person might be better able to "get ahead". I've had many "looks" in my life that some people might find to be a bit extreme. But, I'd better wait to elaborate about those things until I've had enough rest. I also need to get some rest so that I'm able to get up and play for church in the morning.

Good night!

Thanks!

Well I like looking different and that shouldt have a thing to do about people liking me or not

If you like looking different then that is cool if you are happy with the response you get from other people! Its just that society will judge on first impressios, maybe not how it should be but just how it is.
You said earlier that you dressed like this because you wanted to fit in with other people that's why I brought it up!
People can't get to know you if you won't let them and from what you have wrote it seems that you are still trying to find out who you are.
I personally do try not to judge anyone I anyway and I have all types f friends with different beliefs and backgrounds,but there is one thing we all have in common, we all want to make/spend the time being friends just as ourselves,
You have to be happy in your own skin-whatever skin that is, and when you are happy then other people can see that.
I was a very troubled child- I rebelled in many wasys did all the piercings and tattoos and all kindsa stuff, but from my expierience now it was because I didn't fit in and I tried to be whatever other people wanted me to be-I Wasn't HAPPY.
I am all grown up! Ha ha,I still love the tattoos and the piercings they are a form f art and they are part of me, but I know who I am now and I don't think that the world id against me anymore,
I'm not sure this helps but just waned to share this with you.
Sometimes when we think we are alone we just don't see the people that are out there waiting for us!

Hi,
From your description of yourself, you sound like there is a creative person just waiting to find some direction. I'm in school and I like to take my break near the drama department. There are some really colorful characters. They are very expressive, emotional and "dramatic". I watch as they perform for each other and passers by. Have you thought about something like this? You would be with like minded people and you would develop acting skills. You mention feeling that you are obnoxious etc. Well, you would learn skills to control your "inner actress" and better understand how to bring out these expressive, passionate sides of your personality in a way that would work to your advantage. "Life is a stage" after all.

You sound wonderful to me. You just need to find your niche. You are a singer? Take a class. You never know where it will lead and you'll make lots of friends... just like you. You feel scattered? School is perfect for this. Teachers know how to help students get on the right path. They will give you great options and mentor you.

Don't get discouraged. Seek out groups where you feel understood and appreciated. You will make your greatest contribution there.

Good luck! :)