katlego31
Sep 17, 2009, 04:07 AM
Hi all
I have been with my husband for 10 yrs , 7 yrs married. He never was stable in the jobs he worked for and I was always there for him. The last time he lost his job was 4 yrs ago and ever since things have been tough as I was expecting our 2nd child but I managed to pull things together. Two years ago we started fighting a lot and everyday it kept on getting worse. I got irritated by it and I started doing things on my own not informing if of everything which lead to a break down in communication. The other time I was talking to the other male friend of mine on the phone and he said he was my boyfriend and after that he kept on saying I was having an affair and that's not true. Things are not getting any better and a couples of weeks ago we had a fight and he hit me and threw my phone on the wall so now its not working anymore and instead of him apologising he said I provoked him by talking back at him. I can't stand this anymore, I'm not even in love with him anymore. Our sex life is dead, I don't have any feelings for him anymore. When he is visiting his parents house I wish he can never come back and just leave me and my kids alone. I have decided to file for a divorse and now he is threatening me that I won't take my kids with me because I'm the one who wants the divorce not him. We have a mortgage that I pay every month and he also said that house will remain with the kids all I have to do is take my bags and leave him and the kids alone. I'm so scared of losing my kids and again I don't want to stay unhappy in home that doesn't have love.if I where to stay it would be because of my children but I have need to be happy. I'm I being selfish if I think of my own happiness?? How can I want to raise my kids with the man I'm not longer in love with? Can anyone tell me what do I stand to loose when I'm the one who is filling for a divorse?? We are married in community of propety.
I have been with my husband for 10 yrs , 7 yrs married. He never was stable in the jobs he worked for and I was always there for him. The last time he lost his job was 4 yrs ago and ever since things have been tough as I was expecting our 2nd child but I managed to pull things together. Two years ago we started fighting a lot and everyday it kept on getting worse. I got irritated by it and I started doing things on my own not informing if of everything which lead to a break down in communication. The other time I was talking to the other male friend of mine on the phone and he said he was my boyfriend and after that he kept on saying I was having an affair and that's not true. Things are not getting any better and a couples of weeks ago we had a fight and he hit me and threw my phone on the wall so now its not working anymore and instead of him apologising he said I provoked him by talking back at him. I can't stand this anymore, I'm not even in love with him anymore. Our sex life is dead, I don't have any feelings for him anymore. When he is visiting his parents house I wish he can never come back and just leave me and my kids alone. I have decided to file for a divorse and now he is threatening me that I won't take my kids with me because I'm the one who wants the divorce not him. We have a mortgage that I pay every month and he also said that house will remain with the kids all I have to do is take my bags and leave him and the kids alone. I'm so scared of losing my kids and again I don't want to stay unhappy in home that doesn't have love.if I where to stay it would be because of my children but I have need to be happy. I'm I being selfish if I think of my own happiness?? How can I want to raise my kids with the man I'm not longer in love with? Can anyone tell me what do I stand to loose when I'm the one who is filling for a divorse?? We are married in community of propety.