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merissam
Sep 16, 2009, 07:30 PM
Hello im 12 going on 13.and im going out with this awesome boy whos perfect for me!He loves me with all of my heart and would die without me.He even said he would..Anyways..When i hangout with my guy friends.he get SUPER jelous.and He said lemme guess what you did today..you hungout with those guysagain and he said he was gonna beat them up..i didnt even do anything with them.i just hungout with them.And on the other hand he can hangout with his girls as friends and i dont flip out on him?I dont know.I love him with all of my heart but if i can't hangout with guys but he ca..i dont think thats fair.and when i tell him that me gets all deppressed and then pissed..He said if i ever broke up with him he would have to die.he loves me sooo much and i do to but thats a major thing that i dont like about him.
Alty
Sep 16, 2009, 07:45 PM
He loves me with all of my heart
What? First of all, he has to love you with all his heart, not yours.
Second, he's 13, you're 12, if he's going to die without you then he should write his will now. You two won't end up together, you're young, too young to even date, but way too young to find your life mate. At your age you have no idea what real love is, trust me, I remember, I was your age once too, and no, even if you're really mature for your age, you're still not old enough to really know love.
He's showing his immaturity when he get's all upset because you "hang out" with other guys.
Have you given him a reason not to trust you? If not, then I can tell you right now you'll last a very short time. No trust, no relationship, that's just the way it is.
Good luck.
Gemini54
Sep 16, 2009, 09:34 PM
Next time he brings it up let him know you're not his possession, he doesn't own you. If he doesn't trust you then he needs to get another GF. If he won't let you hang out with the guys but he hangs out with the girls then I'd tell him to walk.
Life's too short for jealous BF's, even if they love you soooo much.
merissam
Sep 18, 2009, 02:35 PM
What? First of all, he has to love you with all his heart, not yours.
Second, he's 13, you're 12, if he's going to die without you then he should write his will now. You two won't end up together, you're young, too young to even date, but way too young to find your life mate. At your age you have no idea what real love is, trust me, I remember, I was your age once too, and no, even if you're really mature for your age, you're still not old enough to really know love.
He's showing his immaturity when he get's all upset because you "hang out" with other guys.
Have you given him a reason not to trust you? If not, then I can tell you right now you'll last a very short time. No trust, no relationship, that's just the way it is.
Good luck.
We are both 12?
loverboy_RON
Sep 18, 2009, 03:00 PM
OK so this is da deal... ur guy sounds like me but I have one condition with my girlfriend... she can hangout with guys whom she trusts and guys who wnt pass on her mobile number to ada guys if she fites with them over something... u know what your boyfriend wants for you to love him s much s he loves u.. he said he will die if you left him, can you do da same? Its easy to say I love you but its harder to demonstrate everyday... try 2 listen to him and his needs s well.. its not everyday your in love... he hangs out with gals because he knows he is not going to cheat on you because da only gal on his mind is u... can you say da same about yourself.. da only solution is 2 forget about evry1 else for a while.. m not taking his side.. m explaining to you that you may never mind anyone else who will love s much s he does...
Alty
Sep 18, 2009, 03:01 PM
ok so dis is da deal...ur guy sounds jst like me but i have one condition wid my gf....she can hangout wid guys whom she trusts n guys who wnt pass on her mobile number to ada guys if she fites wid them over something....u knw wat ur bf wants 4 u to love him s much s he loves u..he said he will die if u left him, can u do da same? its easy to say i love u but its harder to demonstrate everyday....try 2 listen 2 him and his needs s well..its not everyday ur in love...he hangs out wid gals cos he knows he is not gonna cheat on u cos da only gal on his mind is u...can u say da same about urself..? da only solution is 2 4get abt evry1 else for a while..m not taking his side..m explaining 2 u dat u may never mind anyone else who will love s much s he does...
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jadetilley
Mar 21, 2011, 07:02 AM
Its probably abit late for my reply now however,
I have the same problem I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 15. We both love each other loads. He is overprotective sometimes a little too much other times its cute. He acts like my father sometimes telling me who I can and can't hang around with. He's made me delete the 'boys' he doesn't approve of on Facebook, he checks my phone and has to know my passwords for everything, its probably because he doesn't trust me. Well we've been together for 7months and its been one hell of a rollercoaster ride, we have both made so many mistakes and broken up more than you would believe. Everyone tells me your young and it won't last, its not love it's a crush and just that ****. Well we have proved them all wrong I'm pretty sure I love him, I trust him with everything. Your boyfriend doesn't want you to talk to other boys probably because he's just jelous you've got to let him know you love him, and won't leave him for anything, let him know he's special and the other boys are nothing compared, be the role model to him stop hanging around with boys and spend time with him, or invite him to hang around with the boys and he will see its not so bad after all, and nothing shadeys happening. Prove the disbelived wrong.