zaini_a13
Sep 13, 2009, 01:25 PM
salam bhai,
how are you?I don't want to tell my name. Even if you reply to me on air,you should not disclose my email or name because my husband also watches this show.
we can't talk on air due to some personal issues but you can reply to my query even on air or by sending email but please do reply.
I am really tensed.I got married 20 years back and now I have mashALLAH 4 daughters.
due to some financial difficulty and to earn money my father had to come to Dubai to earn a living.when he came to Dubai I shifted to my mothers house along with my 4 daughters.it was such a difficult time that my relatives were paying even for the food that we ate.
thanks to ALLAH,that from the past two years my husband got set in his job but still I continued living in my mothers house.
last year my husband underwent angioplasty. I didn't come to Dubai,to be with him,as my children would be left all alone. And neither did my husband showed any wish that I should come here to be with him.during this time,whenever I contacted him through phone or message ,he started ignoring me.
this year when he came in June to meet us,his behavior was a bit weird. My daughter just checked his mobile randomly and found some messages like "i love u" and " i miss u",to some girls. I just joked to my husband that do you have any understanding there or stuff,but he declined saying "no,it can never happen".literally he sweared on our children that there is nothing like this.
during that,I contacted that girl from my husbands mobile through message,and I got to know that she was living with my husband in his house in Dubai! they both were not in "nikkah". And the other girl,to whom he messaged,was his secretary,in whom he takes a lot of interest. When I showed the proof,the messages,to my husband he accepted the fact that,yes she was living with him in his house. But then he sweared on our children that he will break all contacts with that girl and he also apologized for what he did.and then again he went to dubai.
but after going to Dubai,my husband and that lady came in contact once again.
and when I was confirmed that they are still living together,I told my husband and came to Dubai alone.
the lady who used to live with him,he sent her out from his house but still helped her get a job. Whereas the other secretary is still working in his office.
during this he had also started drinking thus I had to shift to Dubai with my 4 daughters.
even after we had shifted,he took his office secretary for a drive then my daughters questioned him and he declined all stuff again and also falsely sweared on them once again.
I gave him the pledge of Ramadan that he wouldn't drink but now he doesn't listen to me when I ask him to restrain from girls and drinking.
what should I do now?
should I let him drink and go towards girls?
because he goes to these dance clubs and is indulged in all sorts of such ill practices.
now I am stuck here. My husband is going further away from me day by day.
if he kept on drinking like this it would have a very bad affect on his health.but if we stop him then he is going to drink with other girls,outside the house,secretly.
now should I accompany him when he drinks or should I let him go and drink with other girls outside?
I have 4 young daughters and I want to save my house.
please I require your help.
how are you?I don't want to tell my name. Even if you reply to me on air,you should not disclose my email or name because my husband also watches this show.
we can't talk on air due to some personal issues but you can reply to my query even on air or by sending email but please do reply.
I am really tensed.I got married 20 years back and now I have mashALLAH 4 daughters.
due to some financial difficulty and to earn money my father had to come to Dubai to earn a living.when he came to Dubai I shifted to my mothers house along with my 4 daughters.it was such a difficult time that my relatives were paying even for the food that we ate.
thanks to ALLAH,that from the past two years my husband got set in his job but still I continued living in my mothers house.
last year my husband underwent angioplasty. I didn't come to Dubai,to be with him,as my children would be left all alone. And neither did my husband showed any wish that I should come here to be with him.during this time,whenever I contacted him through phone or message ,he started ignoring me.
this year when he came in June to meet us,his behavior was a bit weird. My daughter just checked his mobile randomly and found some messages like "i love u" and " i miss u",to some girls. I just joked to my husband that do you have any understanding there or stuff,but he declined saying "no,it can never happen".literally he sweared on our children that there is nothing like this.
during that,I contacted that girl from my husbands mobile through message,and I got to know that she was living with my husband in his house in Dubai! they both were not in "nikkah". And the other girl,to whom he messaged,was his secretary,in whom he takes a lot of interest. When I showed the proof,the messages,to my husband he accepted the fact that,yes she was living with him in his house. But then he sweared on our children that he will break all contacts with that girl and he also apologized for what he did.and then again he went to dubai.
but after going to Dubai,my husband and that lady came in contact once again.
and when I was confirmed that they are still living together,I told my husband and came to Dubai alone.
the lady who used to live with him,he sent her out from his house but still helped her get a job. Whereas the other secretary is still working in his office.
during this he had also started drinking thus I had to shift to Dubai with my 4 daughters.
even after we had shifted,he took his office secretary for a drive then my daughters questioned him and he declined all stuff again and also falsely sweared on them once again.
I gave him the pledge of Ramadan that he wouldn't drink but now he doesn't listen to me when I ask him to restrain from girls and drinking.
what should I do now?
should I let him drink and go towards girls?
because he goes to these dance clubs and is indulged in all sorts of such ill practices.
now I am stuck here. My husband is going further away from me day by day.
if he kept on drinking like this it would have a very bad affect on his health.but if we stop him then he is going to drink with other girls,outside the house,secretly.
now should I accompany him when he drinks or should I let him go and drink with other girls outside?
I have 4 young daughters and I want to save my house.
please I require your help.