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mikouse
Sep 6, 2009, 04:04 PM
I was going to ask can my girlfrend that's almost 7 months pregnant just pack her stuff and move to pennslvania she taking my kid away from me pretty much

mikouse
Sep 6, 2009, 04:05 PM
What question

stevetcg
Sep 8, 2009, 11:07 AM
Its not your kid until it is born and paternity is proven. So yes, she can just pack up and move.

Sorry.

Edited to add: that is not to say that she cannot be compelled to move back by the court after paternity has been established, providing she does not establish residency in her new location to satisfy jurisdiction.

mikouse
Sep 13, 2009, 04:45 PM
I've been in a relationship over a year now my girl is pregnant we will be having a boy in 2 months, so she moved out of state back to her parents. I never really treated her bad but she says I talked down and belittled her. I have never been in a situation like this. I do miss her, and not to be there for my baby is just killing me. Thinking about it, I don't know if I should follow them, and see what happens or would it be the right thing to do, or try to talk to her. I just don't know, she is very different then the girls I have had in the past. She says she will do it on her own with out me, and doesn't want to work things out, I guess I just don't know what to do at this point

britEl
Sep 13, 2009, 06:18 PM
How old are you and your ex (?) girlfriend? I would try talking to her before taking drastic measures. You are the father of this child so you do have the right to be in your child's life, but you need to talk to your ex(?) and maybe even discuss this further with her parents, and yours if you haven't already. This is a big deal and you should be trying to talk to the people you want answers from.

mikouse
Sep 14, 2009, 12:47 AM
I just turned 30 and she turned 26 that is my plan also to see what they have to say

amicon
Sep 14, 2009, 01:05 AM
Good luck and hope you find a solution that works for you all.

redhed35
Sep 14, 2009, 01:40 AM
My advice,follow her,get down on your knees and beg forgiveness...

Tell her you love her,and you'll do what it takes to make things better..

Her hormones are all over the place,she needs support and kindness..

Stand up to the plate now and go take care of things..

Gemini54
Sep 14, 2009, 01:49 AM
This is your child, you should be fighting for him. Your GF says that she wants to do it on her own, but that's because she doesn't know what is involved.

Get in contact with her, talk to her and offer her your love and support. This is your child, you have an opportunity to get it right and to be involved in his growth and development.

Have an honest think about what you were like in your relationship with her, and if she's right, that you did talk down and belittle her - then change it. You may not want to have an ongoing relationship with your GF, but you need to have an ongoing relationship with your child.

This is your chance to grow up. Be responsible. Do it.

zippit
Sep 14, 2009, 01:52 AM
Frankly I don't feel like your being honest about your treatment of this girl.
A pregnant female running out of state and telling you "i will do it on my own?"
A smell denial

mikouse
Sep 14, 2009, 03:09 PM
Don't get me wrong I no its my fault I just wish there was a way to fix it

talaniman
Sep 14, 2009, 03:34 PM
I think you stay where you are, and talk to her, and her parents, and start sending money for whatever she needs, and then YOU go and take care of the legal means to get child support for your child.

You can fix nothing until you put forth the effort to make it known your intentions to be a responsible, and willing parent to your child, which includes medical bills.

I think that would go a long way in fixing your situation. Being gainfully employed would also help ALL of you, and solve a few problems.

Her parents will take care of your g/f, but you must take care of your baby.

talaniman
Sep 14, 2009, 03:36 PM
She can go where ever she wants. Until you have establish paternity, which you can only do after the birth, you have no rights, only obligations.

Hope you have a job. It takes a judge to give you any say in the matter.

mikouse
Sep 14, 2009, 03:56 PM
Financial I will I don't have a problem with that I do agree that it is my responsibility no matter what happens

talaniman
Sep 15, 2009, 10:19 AM
Whatever happens, the needs of the child come first. The rest can be ironed out between adults, IN TIME, but nobody argues with a good DAD, as a matter of fact, you will find support for doing the right thing, the right way, even if you and the lady never get back together. Your still tied together by your child, and must work together to be apart of the raising of that child.

Even the courts are willing to work with a guy, if they know he is willing to do whatever it takes for their children.

You just have to put them first, and not let them be a party to any squabbling between the adults.

mikouse
Oct 13, 2009, 04:38 PM
I live in ca and need to move to pa for my kid I have a suspended license for multiple dui but I am going to get a ristrected license in 5 months or so will I b able to pick up my son on a ristrected license in pa to spend time with him on the weekends.And another question would be or would it be better to transfer all my school and probation to pa I don't have formal pro all charges got dropt to mistminnors would it be worth doing that if I don't no anyone there can they issue me some kindove work permit or something so I could get a job out there. Thanks for your answeres

JudyKayTee
Oct 13, 2009, 05:06 PM
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/criminal-law/how-transfer-probation-115783.html.

Your restricted license allows you to drive back and forth to work in PA so, no, you can't pick up, drop off and visit with your "kid" with that license.

The work permit question is answered in the probation link.

JudyKayTee
Oct 13, 2009, 05:08 PM
Your two threads tell two different stories. At this time you CAN'T follow her because you are on probation.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-law/what-can-do-should-do-405656.html

JudyKayTee
Oct 13, 2009, 05:09 PM
All of your threads should be combined - and I have asked a moderator to do so.

Please stop opening new threads with the same question and somewhat different info.

ScottGem
Oct 13, 2009, 05:29 PM
Your threads have been merged. Please keep to one thread.

jmjoseph
Oct 13, 2009, 05:34 PM
dont get me wrong i no its my fault i just wish there was a way to fix it

You have most people here feeling sorry for you. I would like to know what it is that you did to make her leave in the first place, please?

Are your legal trouble primarily from DUI's. Are you an alcoholic? Are you in recovery? In treatment?A 12 step program like AA?

A judge definitely looks at such things.

mikouse
Oct 13, 2009, 11:15 PM
You back in the past I did deal a lot with alcohol but not any more and my probation said I can transfer and my lawyer said it doesn't have much to do with my dui in this case they said follow your son she never was an angel but that's not the point we all get in trouble at some point some more then others .but on the right track now for almost a year