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enigma101
Sep 2, 2009, 02:01 PM
I’m 32 years of age and I’m saving myself for marriage. My friends think I’m crazy, and they keep telling me that no one will every wait for me. The reason I’ve decided to wait is because of my religious beliefs, and because I only want to be with one person. However, I’m beginning to wonder if my friends are right? Am I fooling myself into thinking that there might be a small chance I’ll meet mister right? Or should I get with the program and forget about saving myself.

Thanks for you input…

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redhed35
Sep 2, 2009, 02:19 PM
If you decide to listen to your friends and have sex just to get it over with,will they be able to go back in time and change the event if you decide oh no what have I done?

Stick to your principles, I think its commendable.

You're a fully grown woman who can decide for herself who,when and if you are going to have sex,its none of their business.

WallyHelps
Sep 2, 2009, 02:21 PM
I accidentally clicked on your question, and I don't generally chime in on relationship issues, but something inside me wants to give you my two cents worth.

I can guarantee you that if you succumb to temptation, you'll feel terrible guilt that is just not worth the momentary pleasure. Having sex with a guy will not make him "Mr. Right", nor will it make you "Ms. Right" to him. Your first time probably won't be all that great anyhow (in a technical sense), and it makes sense (to me) that it should be with someone who loves you before the intimacy.

Being "in this world, not of this world" is extremely difficult, but worth it. You're only 32 years old--just entering the prime of your life--so you will have opportunity to meet a lot of potential mates. Just keep your eyes open, and you'll know him when you meet him.

You're doing the right thing.
WallyH

Silverfoxkit
Sep 2, 2009, 02:25 PM
You should NEVER EVER give up your beliefs for what other people or "friends" may think. It is not their bodies or decision to make for you and they should have the respect to not mock you in such a belief. If they do not respect you then it may be time to look for a new group of friends.

Yes you absolutely can find someone out there who is willing to wait for you. If any man is not then its him you need to lose and not your morals and values.

Any man that would not respect a woman's decision to wait until marriage isn't even worth thinking twice about.

Many churches where I live even have singles nights and such where people of the same beliefs can get together and meet. You may want to try and find something like this to help you come into contact with a man of the same beliefs as yourself.

talaniman
Sep 6, 2009, 10:02 AM
Don't let friends come between you and what you believe. Its just not their business. Obviously they believe differently from you.

Live your own life your way.

roxypox
Sep 6, 2009, 04:57 PM
This is your choice and it's a personal one! Like Tal says, don't let your friends come between you and your beliefs! I also agree with Willy, if you do it just to do it... you will most likely feel regret, also seeing as this has been a decision you have made, to wait... to debute with someone who loves you and someone you love... I see nothing wrong with that (i.e. I gather that you would marry someone who loves you and you love them ;))

I hope this was helpful

Roxy

Catsmine
Sep 6, 2009, 06:18 PM
My deepest respect to you for your integrity. You hear so much about losing it at 15 in the choir loft that when someone has remained true to their beliefs it is worth congratulating.

Obviously I think you're doing the right thing. When you do find your mate, do him the favor of knowing the theory of lovemaking if not the technique. While you're looking and studying, your friends will seem more and more silly as they talk about it.

little_n_lost
Sep 6, 2009, 06:32 PM
Hello there and way to go for sticking to your principles so far! I found my love at 15 and said from the start 1. I'm not having sex until I'm of legal age and 2. I will only have sex with you if we love each other and that doesn't mean you can lie to get me into bed!

Thankfully I have a genuine decent guy who respected my wishes and principles and we finally did it... not in a romnitc way like most people imagine but hey no one is perfect!

Stick by what you believe as there are guys out there like mine who really do want a full time relationship and not just sex. It may take some trial and error but you'll get there and you'll know when the time is right for you so don't rush just because he's ready, from my experiences guys are always ready. You may regret your first time even if it is with "Mr. Right" I know I sure did! We both agreed that we should have taken even more time to get to know each other first. Sex isn't everything. I was the last of my friends to lose my virginity and I seem to be the least promiscuous out of the lot! I've only had 3 boyfriends and I found the one and I'm his first so were very lucky. Good luck with your search for love and take care XxX

I wish
Sep 8, 2009, 10:37 AM
Do whatever makes you feel comfortable. Just take suggestions from others into consideration, but it doesn't mean you have to follow them. Stick by your values, morals and beliefs.

Do what YOU THINK makes you happy or NOT what others think will make you happy.

talaniman
Sep 8, 2009, 03:52 PM
Other people have a hard time managing their own affairs, let alone yours.

Romefalls19
Sep 8, 2009, 05:12 PM
You've went 32 years without giving in to your friends, why start now? Guys appreciate a girl with morals. Don't give in, continue down the path that YOU want to travel.