I really need some help. Basically, I live at home with my mum, dad, siblings and dad's mother. Every now and again my dad's sister comes with her 21 year old daughter and overstays her welcome, she causes arguments and fights and has my made my mums life hell for 17 years. Me and my sister are on my mums side and try our best to support her, but she's had enough, my dad's sister and mother always blame her for things and argue with her. They also fill my dads head in with things against her, my dad doesn't realise that he's being brainwashed, he wouldn't go against his own mother. My mum finally wants to put a stop to this all, so she's going to speak to my dad and make him choose, he either stays with his mum, sister and niece or he stays with his wife and kids, if my dad chooses his mom etc.. My mum said she's going to move to manchester where her family lives and take us with her- us kids are happy to go. Can someone please answer and give me some advice on how I can support my mum and how we should make our father realise the truth and if my mums doing the right thing by making my dad choose. And can someone also give me some advice on how my mum should act when my dad's side of the family causes troubles and argues and lies- should she ignore them and get on with what she's doing or get invloved and fight too ( my dad has told her many times to stay out when they argue ) x

I think your mom should stay out of their arguments, I know I do, when my wife, and her siblings have conflicts.

Some families like to argue anyway and that's just them.