So to make a long story short.. I am now a single SAHM with no income living with my son's father. I didn't go back to work because with child care my income would be pretty much useless. But now after being together 5 years, 1 engaged he decides he wants to be single and move 45 minutes away. "But I'm more than welcome to stay with him till I get back on my feet." Well I'm not wanting to but I want my son to be near his father, but at the same time I don't want to live with someone who wants to be single but wants to start seeing his brother's gf's friend who just graduated HS! (we're 23!)... but I'm tired of him saying " I want to do stuff again" me too but I'm busy raising OUR son while he decides what he wants. "he still loves me but he wants to get out there" but he goes back in forth with whether he wants us to be together & it's killing me that he's hot one second & cold the next.. I still love him and want this family but I'm tired...

So should I move with him for our son... or get my own place ASAP and figure out the details later? BTW our son is almost 8 months..

Sorry engaged 2 years Aug 7th... well would have been

I have always been of the opinion that an unhappy parent in any situation is not a good idea. Moving yourself into his house for the sake of the child would make you miserable and the child would suffer regardless.

Start a new, better life for yourself and let him worry about that fact that he has to drive 45 minutes to see his child. If he is going to be a responsible father that is the choice he needs to make, but it shouldn't mean it has to make life miserable for you.

Don't move with him.

I hope you decide to worry about your own life, and happiness, as well as that of your son, and let him do his own thing. Don't forget the child support.

You can't make him be a good father, but you have to be a good mother.