My boyfriend and I are planning on marrying each other in two years, after we've both graduated from college. We are both virgins, but have stimulated each other manually a number of times. However, he recently cheated on me and feels so guilty that he doesn't want to be physical with me AT ALL anymore... not even "making out." He says he wants to wait until we're married. To me, I feel like I was hurt, and now I'm being punished for hurting, and I don't understand it. I have talked to him about it, have told him how by rejecting me and pushing me away whenever I try to initiate anything he makes me feel unwanted... but he won't budge, even though I have told him again and again that I have forgiven him. He's not trying to be mean about it, he just says it's what he feels he has to do. But I miss being able to show him I love him in physical ways, and miss the same from him. I want to be able to respect his space, but also feel that I need more than just a peck on the cheek from time to time. How can I help him find the redemption he needs without sacrificing all of my physical desires? I refuse to accept that it will be two more years before I can passionately kiss the man I love.

Wake up please, he cheated on you!

He is not a virgin anymore, and you are, and you were both waiting to lose your virginity together, he broke the golden rule.

What makes you think he is not going to cheat on you again..
I believe my saying :- ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER, no matter how guilty he makes out to be.

I agree with Krs He cheated once and he will probably cheat again. It's better you found out now than after you are married. If he is still what you want then maybe couple counseling.

He may be playing the wounded party here just so you will push him so far to be physical that he has to give in and in doing so he gets you to have intercourse with him. Some men are evil people.

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