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imation
Oct 24, 2006, 10:43 PM
OK, so this isn't not another question about me wanting to have sex with my girfriend of recently 6 months. And its also not a questions of
'does it mean she doesn't love me if she doesn't want me?"
Basically what I want to know is... what can I do to make her horny. Not because I want to have sex or do any of that kind of stuff... just horny. Not to act on this feeling.. just feel it. Understand me?
We've been happily together now quite a while, when we make out its well, making out, what else can one say about it really? We haven't done anything 'downstairs' if you catch my meaning, and that's the way id like it to stay. We have gone as far as touching her boobs and her bum, rubbing her ;) with my knee or foot. And I have touched the inside of her thighs with me hands and what not...
This is the extend of it so far, and as I said... I don't want to go any furthur just yet, and neither does she so we're all good.
I want to know what I can do to turn her on, so that she gets really into making out...
Any advice would be welcome...
Thanks

AKaeTrue
Oct 24, 2006, 11:18 PM
I'm always a bit disturbed by this type of question.
Let me ask you... While making out, Is she not "turned on"? Is she not "into it"? Is she just making out with you in a "totally lethargic" way?
It's apparent that "making out" is appealing to more and more young people these days. Even if sex is not involved, your girlfriend may not have the emotional development required to truly show this "passion" you're aiming for.
If you feel she's not "getting into it" enough, then you should really consider backing off a bit and slowing it down. You can't force or persuade feelings of arousal that aren't there yet, and you certainly won't get there any faster than mother nature allows.
If you truly care for this girl and are a gentleman, you should let time determine the answer to your question.

talaniman
Oct 25, 2006, 09:03 AM
As a father I suggest you talk to her father and get some insight in to how it feels to be a horney little bastard. I'm sure he can give you the advice and direction you need.

talaniman
Oct 26, 2006, 05:04 AM
so where exaclt in my post did it mention I was a horny little bastard? And where the hell do you get off insulting me like that?
Do you have nothing better to do than find peoples questions that you can humiliate them through and take advantage of the situation to make yourself look good? Well?
That reply was totally uncalled for and frankly id like an apology. For one thing I am not a 'horny little bastard' as your so determined to say, secondly I have the upmost respect for my girlfriend and considering you have no idea who I am as a person(obviously where these insults are coming from) I would quite like it if you never EVER, reply to another of my questions, I feel that whatever help you may give to someone else, isn't the kind of help I'm looking for.
Thank you.
sincerely
Imation

I answered as a father, that's what I am, and if you didn't come off in your post as a horny L>B> then I wouldn't have said it. If I don't know who you are then that's your problem to address. May I add that your defensive stance shows a hidden agenda, that notwithstanding all this respect you speak of, I am not comfortable with it. Can you honestly expect a father to give you advice about how to turn his daughter on so he may get pleasure from her?? My answer stands and you should be glad I gave you honest advice. Better from me than a pissed off father. And while your fuming consider this, anybody of your age looking to turn on a female for pleasure is a horny little bastard. Sorry if your humiliated or insulted by the truth but get over it.

Krs
Oct 26, 2006, 05:26 AM
this is the extend of it so far, and as i said... i dont want to go any furthur just yet, and neither does she so we're all good.
i want to know what i can do to turn her on, so that she gets really into making out....
any advice would be welcome...
thanks


Well I don't truly understand what the problem is then. As you said above you don't want it to go any further and neither does she..
So, what's the problem?

She is horny for you otherwise she wouldn't be making out with you, she wudnt be kissing you and letting you touch her.

When its meant to be, it will be!
Take it slow, there's no rush.

talaniman
Oct 26, 2006, 05:43 AM
Confession-1969 June, Got kicked out of g/f house by her PO'd mother, who caught us in the basement, she said get out you horny little bastard!! That pretty much ended that relationship...

valinors_sorrow
Oct 26, 2006, 06:34 AM
I'm with AkaeTrue, Krs and Tal -- wise words from all three! That you say there is a problem at all suggests to me the context to support mututal arousal just isn't there.

Translation: too soon or something essential missing from the rest of your relationship.
Solution: Less kissing, more growing.