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Youtoldmeso
Aug 16, 2009, 08:49 AM
My husband an I have been married less than a yr. He has two children from previous relationships (mothers are involved w/ kids) and I have one (father never been involved-i have full custody due to his no show @ court). My husband has begun to show signs of abuse towards me. I have takn photos of the brusies left behind from his vicious attacks. My question to you is... if I fill for annulment/divorce will he have legal responsibilities to take care of my son financially via child support ( even if I have an order for his biologically father to pay child support that has gone on three yrs with no financial support from him)? I have have no money it all goes into our household, will he have to pay me allimony?

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stevetcg
Aug 16, 2009, 08:54 AM
He will not owe child support for your child. It is possible that he might be ordered to pay temporary spousal support, depending on where you live and your current financial and living arrangements.

Have you reported the abuse to the police yet? THAT is your first step.

N0help4u
Aug 16, 2009, 08:57 AM
I think he would have had to have adopted them.
I think you have to have been married so many years to get alimony

Do you have anywhere you can go?

You REALLY NEED to get out ---yesterday wasn't soon enough!

You might be able to get a Temporary Protection from Abuse and keep him out of the house.
Another poster here said his girlfriend pulled that on him and he can't get back in his own house.
That might help until you can file divorce and all
You have your kid to think of here.

stinawords
Aug 16, 2009, 09:06 AM
No, he won't have to pay child support because it isn't his child. If you haven't even been married for a full year you aren't likely to get spousal support either. You said you don't have money because it goes into the household does that mean that you are working and are paying bills with it or that he dosen't give you any money because he is paying all the bills? Believe it or not that does make a rather large difference.

s_cianci
Aug 16, 2009, 09:16 AM
He will have no responsibility to provide financially for your son. That is the responsibility of the bio father, even if he's not adhering to the support order. As for alimony, you'd have to check the laws of your particular jurisdiction. The main compelling factors would be the length of your marriage (and less than 1 year isn't a long time) and the differences in your individual incomes.

N0help4u
Aug 16, 2009, 09:19 AM
You need to keep going back to court and get the order for the biological dad enforced.
Either get a PFA or get out of the house and don't turn back
File for divorce

Is the house his or yours or renting?

cdad
Aug 16, 2009, 10:40 AM
My husband an I have been married less than a yr. He has two children from previous relationships (mothers are involved w/ kids) and I have one (father never been involved-i have full custody due to his no show @ court). My husband has begun to show signs of abuse towards me. I have takn photos of the brusies left behind from his vicious attacks. My question to you is...if I fill for annulment/divorce will he have legal responsibilites to take care of my son financially via child support ( even if I have an order for his biologically father to pay child support that has gone on three yrs with no financial support from him)? I have have no money it all goes into our household, will he have to pay me allimony?

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When its this far along there is no excuse. ( quote ) husband has begun to show signs of abuse towards me. ( end quote ).

He isn't just showing signs of abuse he is actually abusing you.. PERIOD. Don't sugar coat it. You need out if its reached this point. Many states do not allow annulment after 6 months. As far as alimoney goes you have been married a very short time so it may or may not be a question. Don't plan on it. Call your local shelter and do it right away. DO NOT enable him to go any further. Protect yourself and your child / children.