My best friend and I have been friends for 12 years. About 2 months ago she threw me a baby shower and I invited all my friends and family. It was a super nice shower and she went all out, everyone had a great time. Well 2 weeks later my aunt (who didn't go to the shower my best friends threw) had a surprise shower for me. She invited basically everyone who was at my first shower plus a few more people BUT my best friend was not invited. Now she is not talking to me. Is it my fault? She said my family told her there was going to be another shower but did not invite her. She is always nice to my family so I don't know why she was not invited. Should she be mad? My boyfriend says she should just get over it. I don't know what to do.Advice please!

If it was me I would be prettty mad, you boyf is a guy and guys minds work differently to girls so he prob doesn't get it anyway. Why woildnt your best friend be invited to your baby shower anyway? Whoever did the inviting needs to straighten things out because she isn't going to make the first move

I agree with your boyfriend. It certainly isn't your fault that your aunt did not invite your friend. And, as you say it was a "surprise" shower so you didn't know about it in advance where you could forewarn your aunt to remember to include your friend. Maybe you could talk with your aunt and let her know how upset your friend is and how it's affected your friendship. There might be a logical explanation as to why your friend wasn't included.

I fully understand how slighted your friend must feel. Why wuold your aunt not invite her? Did you ask her, knowing she was your best friend. She was kind enough to throw you the shower your best friend. I would try to straighten it out with your friends and tell her you understand her being mad, and that you also feel bad about it. That, hopefully it won't sever your friendship.

I can understand why she feels hurt but no your families lack of communication is not your fault. She needs to get over it.
Is she going to be your maid of honor?

I would do something to make up for it like take her out for a nice dinner or something and tell her that you weren't in charge of who was invited and if you had known you would have made it a special point to invite her.

How can your aunt know not to invite your best friend?

How can your aunt know not to invite your best friend??


I do not undersatand your reply. Of course my best friend should have been invited.

I do not undersatand your reply. Of course my bestfriend should have been invited.

So then me being you, I'd contact my aunt and ask her what was up with her decision not to invite my best friend.

I think your aunt should apologize to your best friend.

Not your fault, it's your Aunts. If you friend wants to be mad at someone she should be mad at your Aunt.