Well this is my first post and I have been sitting reading a lot of stuff about cronic lying and some of the mental and emotional health issues that come with it.

Well were to start this may be long because I feel lying for the best part of 18 years is majorly serious, I always wanted answers but was to "big" to try and gain answers why. Im a young guy of only 18 and from the age of about 7 or 8 I found myself lying, I can remember it was about silly things at first for instance lying to my mum or dad about things I've done in the day or hadn't, never thought anything of it especially as a kid, carried on pretty much everyday would be a new lie.. and then I grew up and went to secondary school, now the lies got worse, they wasn't about things I've wanted to do during the day they were to do with me lying to make myself seem big for instance I once told someone I could do something they said they could but I said id done it better or faster, then lies about possesions I wanted but my parents could never afford. Then I moved schools, to a richer school then my last and all the kids had money so then I lied more, and became a person who people knew who bullted all the time, which started mental things off, the lies would carry on for years, one lie starting another, the another to cover the first.. thinking of it the first lie I ever told was when I was 6 years old and in year 2 or 3 and I said to a class a shark bit of my head, funny now, but it still comes back to me 12 years later, I know now I'm rambling on, but I don't know what to do.. my main problem is I lie because I want people to like me for something I have or something I own or for things I can do.. but I lie making them do the oppersite, and what's worse is at 18 the pressure of the lies built so much I left my family and moved to a different country because I couldn't handle being around people who thought of me as a lier, so I left my parents and family and now live with a stranger I've known for about 2 months, and its just playing on my mind everyday because I don't mean to lie, but its like I lie without even realise about it, and what's worse is I don't care if I do it, I do now but before I didn't care if it got me others in trouble or people hurt id do it because I just did basically, I know it's a stupid question to ask.. but I just someone can give me answers, because I'm 18 and for the best part like I said before all I've done is lie..

Any help or stories would really help..

Jordan

Hi Jordan, Welcome to the site! I wish you luck, and feel for you leaving your family. Try this link:

DailyStrength Groups - Liars Anonymous (http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/liars-anonymous)

Keep coming back.

Chronic lying is something that usually starts at an age of around 5 to 10. Children feel inferior to others and think that by telling a lie it will make them seem to be more important. The problem with this is that 99% of the time people can tell you are lying and it makes you look even more inferior.

Most kids grow out of being compelled to lie just for the reason that they see it does not work. And it is the same now. Answer a question for me, do you feel like anyone believes you? Probably not. And one reason they don't believe you is that you have lied so much that they know 99% of what you say is a lie, another is because after years of lying a person gets to the point they are not good at lying anymore.

Next time you find yourself in a situation that you are going to tell a lie, stop and ask yourself, do I really need to tell a lie, also is anyone going to believe what I say. And will it impress any one. And to replace you desire to lie just say something about what someone else has said. It will always impreses them to think that you are really listing to them.

Most of the time id say 90% of the time no.. But then there are some exceptions I feel they do and then I lie more because I feel once someone thinks I'm smart or clever it makes me look good.. and what's true in someway about what you said is about the lying with time you tend to not be so good at it anymore, but the truth is I still am, I still lie and get away with it.. but I don't want that anymore, if I'm with someone or when I meet new people if there telling me something I don't want to be like when you finish talking the first thing I'm going to do is lie to impress you, I just feel a after something has come out..