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ShadowRunner
Jul 26, 2009, 10:01 AM
Hey Everyone,
So here is my issue.
I met this girl last weekend at a store.
I went up to her and we were both attracted to one another. We exchanged numbers and ending up making plans 3 days later.
I am 26 she is 21.
So far we hung out 3 times already... Dinner, Movie, and she brought her friends over because they wanted to meet me. She seems like she has morals... we didn't kiss on the first date and she seems to be honest. I told her Thursday I am leaving out of the country for 5 days for work. She asked.. well can I talk to you? When you are coming home? Things like that...
She said she def. wanted to see me Friday or Saturday and I was looking forward to seeing her. She calls and texts me everyday... Well Friday night she was with her gfs just hanging out doing nothing. So I thought... Ok... I'll see her Saturday before I leave on Sunday. She calls me 3 times on Saturday and we talk. She said she wanted to see before I leave... She said she was going with her dad shopping and she'll call me back. She calls back at 9pm... So I was thinking to myself... ok... we're going to make plans now or she's going to come over... She just says "Well I"m sorry I couldn't get to see you before you leave". Just like that... she made no effort or anything. She said she was tired and going to go to bed. So am I looking too much into it? Or should I be alarmed?
Thanks.

MissRissa
Jul 26, 2009, 05:01 PM
Nothing sounds suspicious to me. Maybe she really was tired and didn't feel like going anywhere. Don't think too much of it, you guys hardly know each other. But as far as I can see, no red flags. Hope this helped! :)

danielnoahsmommy
Jul 26, 2009, 05:05 PM
She sounds like a nice girl. It was late and she was tired.

Torrid13
Jul 26, 2009, 05:11 PM
I don't think her behavior was suspicious, but I do think it was rude. Like getting your hopes up ("Oh, I really want to see you before you go!") and then not pulling through with them.

Since you have only known each other like a week, I wouldn't be too alarmed. However, if your relationship continues to progress, and she keeps making plans without pulling through, I would be worried. It would be telling of her priorities and selfishness.

Maybe she was really exhausted from spending the day with her dad. You never know. But still, rude to me for calling so late.

Anyway, just calm down and see how your relationship progresses. Maybe she'll make it up to you when you get back! You never know. :)

paigerwaiger94
Jul 26, 2009, 05:12 PM
I wouldn't think about it too much. She probably had a lot to do that day, and couldn't get around to it. When you get back, make plans, and if she blows those off, get rid of her.

s_cianci
Jul 26, 2009, 05:26 PM
I think you're looking too much into it. I wouldn't get alarmed. And a word of advice ; don't try to do too much too fast or you will creep her out and lose her before you even have a chance to get started. She has a life and you should also ; take things slow and easy.

danielnoahsmommy
Jul 26, 2009, 05:41 PM
1st off you just met her!
Secondly she owes you nothing! You had no definite plans... she did call you... you could have called her.

Back off and chill... call her when you get back into town!

ShadowRunner
Jul 27, 2009, 02:40 PM
Hey,
Thanks for all the input and advice everyone.
I got off an 8 hour flight earlier this morning. I checked my phone and I had 3 text message and 1 voicemail from her. The texts were
1)Hey*
2)Are you mad at me*
3)Dont you want to talk to me*

Then her voice message said "Hey I haven't heard from you. Are you mad? Call or text me when you get this.

I told her I was going to be on a plane. So I text her when I got off... we text back and forth for a little bit. I asked her how her weekend was and she hasn't responded. That was 5 hours ago. I don't get that?

N0help4u
Jul 27, 2009, 09:36 PM
She may just be playing hard to get and wants you to call her more and show an effort or I don't think she would have left all those messages. She may have felt that she didn't want to wait on you and then you not have plans to see her so she made other plans.
As the others said wait until you get back and call to ask her out again.
Don't read too much into things.