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jam609
Jul 23, 2009, 10:27 AM
Step-Daughter left one day after an argument we had. She quit her job she was not going to school, so we were on her. She was lying to us for months about school and work, not helping around the house etc... So she leaves comes back a couple timesto get something's. But now we want everything out. It has been close to 5 months now and when I texted her to get her things she freaks out. She doesn't have room for her things where she is now... blah blah! I told her that is not my problem. I gave her a 3 weeks to get her things if the yare not out by mid August can I bag it up and get rid of it. (dresser, Bed, and CLOTHES) we live in NJ.

N0help4u
Jul 23, 2009, 10:35 AM
I am sure you can bag/box them up now so they aren't taking up as much room. I know I have lived places that I couldn't fit all my stuff and I have lost house fulls of stuff over nobody willing to help me store my stuff. That is probably why she is freaking out about it.

I don't know you may have to give her a written notice with so many days before you actually get rid of the stuff.

jam609
Jul 23, 2009, 10:38 AM
I could box them but I too have no where to store it and why is it my responsibility to pack and store... I will no longer be part of her problem she lives/loves to be enabled. I will no longer enable. Its not my problem she left! I will try the written notice.

jam609
Jul 23, 2009, 10:39 AM
And I forgot to say we are remodling a bit because we are puttign house up for sale so am I expected to pack and move her stuff too? This is crazy!

N0help4u
Jul 23, 2009, 11:07 AM
You have given her sufficient time so yeah do the written notice and then I don't see how you would be responsible for her stuff after 5 months.

450donn
Jul 23, 2009, 04:01 PM
Rather harsh, but give her a phone call and simply tell her that the stuff is going to the salvation army in 5 days unless she makes arrangements to get it before then. In five days call them and have it picked up.