My boyfriend and I have been together for 3yrs. When he met me, he knew I was bisexual & he was OK with it at first, now he doesn't want me to be involved with women in a sexual manner. He thinks that if I want to have sex with another woman then, he's just not enough for me. That's really not the case, I just enjoy having sex with women and have a certain yearning to do it. Help Me?

Ever hear of a word called Fidelity? Apparently he believes in it.


How would you feel if he said he loves you but wants to sleep with other women too? What's the difference here?

Please believe me when I say that I am not being smart. Just curios... Why would you want to sleep with other women if you have a boyfriend though? Don't you think you should be committed to him now?

Bisexuality is NOT a free card to have sex with people outside of your relationship.

Bisexuality just means that you're willing to HAVE that relationship with either sex.

It comes down to this: You're either willing to be ONLY with your boyfriend, or you're not. If you're not, then you're cheating on him. Period.

If he's not okay with it, and you "need" it, then you're just selfish, and should break it off with the guy and let him find someone who is more compatible.

He sounds like a reasonable adult,,
He accepts you as a bisexual however you sleeping with other women is cheating, sorry I don't care what sex they are or he is or you are, if you're sleeping with someone, anyone, outside of your relationship it's cheating

You are cheating on your boyfriend, choose to continue your bisexuality and remain single or be faithful to your partner. What you are doing is not fair to him or the relationship.

Cheating is cheating, whether with a man OR a woman.
If you can't stay faithful, let him go find someone that can.

Basically what you're saying to him when you say you want to go out and have sex with other people is he ISN'T enough for you.

Therefore, a crushed ego and suspicions are understandable on his part, and your belief that he should be okay with it is completely disconcerting.

If you want women so bad, break up with him so he go for someone who doesn't completely care about themselves and actually takes his role in her life seriously.

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I love men, can I ask my husband if I can sleep with other men and still be with him? I don't think he'll go for it.

Somehow you've convinced yourself that being with another woman doesn't make you unfaithful, but it does. The fact that he was okay with it before is mind boggling. He's not okay with it now.

You've put 3 years into this relationship, isn't it time to be faithful to just him?

If you can't keep your pants on then let him go, have your fun and let him find someone who will give him the commitment he deserves.

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Wow what an a$$hole HE is, how dare he not want you to sleep with other women? What's his problem?

Sheesh.

Wake up woman, I'm sure you can work it out why he may not like it...

I guess I see it as,

I like women, but my girlfriend would have a serious problem with me sleeping with other women.

If I asked why,?

So your sexual position is no different, you are not at a stage where you want to be faithful or you want a more open relationship where both are free to have sex with others,

he does not want this type of relationship. So you find someone who holds the sames values as you

Well, I have to say that if my husband claimed to be bi-sexual and then asked me if it was OK for him to sleep with other guys, I'd be saying - hell no!

Your BF may have been OK with you being Bi, but you don't say if he was OK with you sleeping with other people outside the relationship. There is a difference, as I'm sure you're aware.

In any case he has clearly changed his mind, and you need to respect that.

If you can't accept and respect his wishes then you have a choice, but I suspect you can't have your cake and eat it too, as they say in the classics.

Have you offered the option of him watching or making it into a threesome?

Just a thought...

Sarah

Have you offered the option of him watching or making it into a threesome?

Just a thought...

Sarah

He has watched at a point in our relationship. And like I said he was fine with it then. And FYI I'm not saying that I have cheated on him with anyone, but I'm also not saying that I haven't thought about it. I know my boundaries. I know he is a good man and I wouldn't risk that for anything or anyone in the world. I love him. I just wanted to know the opinion of others.

Well factor into the equation an escalation of feeling and love for you.

When you love someone, it is hurtful to watch them or know that they desire anyone other then yourself.

While he may have been OK with it while you were dating, his increase of feelings means he wants a faithful relationship with you.

Well factor into the equation an escalation of feeling and love for you.

When you love someone, it is hurtful to watch them or know that they desire anyone other then yourself.

While he may have been ok with it while you were dating, his increase of feelings means he wants a faithful relationship with you.

Thanks for your input. Very helpful in how I look at it now.

If being with other women is important to you and he isn't okay with an open relationship I'm not sure he's the guy for you. You have to know what you're willing to give up when you're with someone. Is women one of them? You can also explain to him that having sex with other women in no way decreases your love for him, it may in fact make your sex life with him better because you are happier. If you make it known that you won't love him any less by being with someone else it might help him, or give him a little extra special sex on top of the regular stuff.

Open, this is a really old thread and the OP hasn't been back since July.

Please don't post on old threads, it bumps them to the top of the list and really, they don't need to be bumped unless the OP has something more to add.

Thanks.

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