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wazy
Jul 20, 2009, 10:15 PM
I ve bin dating ma 1st boyfriend 4 2 years but now m again dating the other one 4 about 5 months now... they both seem to like me and I love them all to.I really don't know what to do...

mudweiser
Jul 20, 2009, 10:21 PM
How old are you?

Are you boyfriends aware that you are polyamorous?

I can tell you now, this is not going to end good.

Sarah

Torrid13
Jul 20, 2009, 10:21 PM
You don't love them. You love yourself.

Get out of both relationships so they find someone who won't cheat on them.

mudweiser
Jul 20, 2009, 10:34 PM
You don't love them. You love yourself.

Get out of both relationships so they find someone who won't cheat on them.

I agree Torrid.

However there are some people out there that are indeed polyamorous... perhaps she is one of them? There really is no "cheating" when being polyamorous, and if neither of the boyfriends share this belief then this is cheating to them and it is unfair.

She should tell them BOTH about this and if one of them stays well in my opinion he's a fool.

I suggest that the OP should be alone and learn more about relationship and their responsibilities before trying to have one, poly or not, lying to your mate is not the right way to go.

Sarah

Torrid13
Jul 20, 2009, 10:41 PM
I agree Torrid.

However there are some people out there that are indeed polyamorous...perhaps she is one of them? There really is no "cheating" when being polyamorous, and if neither of the boyfriends share this belief then this is cheating to them and it is unfair.

She should tell them BOTH about this and if one of them stays well in my opinion he's a fool.

I suggest that the OP should be alone and learn more about relationship and their responsibilities before trying to have one, poly or not, lying to your mate is not the right way to go.

Sarah


She wrote this same question in the same category, except with much better grammar and more details. The two guys don't know about each other, and one wants her to be his girlfriend "really bad," while the other believes they are an "item." She went on to ask if she should leave her boyfriend for the other guy.

I don't know much about "polyamorous" besides the song by Breaking Benjamin, but I am pretty sure she's aware of what she's doing, and a user at that. Not to mention fickle.

Lying is for losers. BAH!

Torrid13
Jul 20, 2009, 10:54 PM
Oh Mudweiser-- you're making me hungry!