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passion2020
Jul 20, 2009, 04:32 PM
I did adoption and now my son is now 1 years old. I feel that NO I know that I made a big Mistake and I want him back. I felt I was threatened from one side of my family I had no back up from them. It was do this or else.
I left them soon after then I went home to my mother side of the family they pleaded and begged me to get him back now that I know I had the support I will give it all to get him back.

I never told the birth father, He has NO knowledge in having a son or having anything to do about the adoption. I how do I go about telling him. When I do can He be a big help in getting my son back.

If I knew all about this I would have did this in the first place I wish I could go back and change everything.

Please help me please Even if you know something or someone that may be able to help thank thank thank you :o:o:o:o:

N0help4u
Jul 20, 2009, 04:34 PM
IF you were coerced and you can prove it beyond a reasonable doubt you MIGHT be able to do something about it but chances may be slim to none.
They would probably lie and say that you are just changing your story now.

stevetcg
Jul 20, 2009, 04:35 PM
You're rights have been terminated... it is next to impossible to get them back. Adoption is permanent.

The child's father MAY have a case since you violated his rights by lying (i.e. Perjury... a felony, which you can still be charged for) on court documents. This, however, will not affect YOUR rights to your child.

Edit: THEIR child...

danielnoahsmommy
Jul 20, 2009, 04:35 PM
It's been a year. Your son has been adopted. He has new family. I hate to sound harsh but you are only thinking of yourself! Keep him in your heart but move on with your life.

YoungHyperLink
Jul 20, 2009, 04:39 PM
I have several cousins who are adopted, and know personally the trauma that the adoptive family goes through because of changes of mind like yours.

I understand how heartwrenching this must be for you, but my advice is, now that you have done it, think that it was for the best, and think about being a mother in the future, or maybe even adopting yourself. Adoption is a complicated and arduous legal procedure, and the family who adopted your son has gone through a lot to do so. Think how hard it would be for them, and for your son, to give up a child they've nurtured and loved for maybe a year now!

If it's hard for you, by now it would be even harder for them. Maybe you can learn from your mistakes and look forward to being a parent again soon.

Synnen
Jul 20, 2009, 06:52 PM
The ONLY way most adoptions can be overturned is if the biological parents were coerced---and can prove it.

You'd need a GOOD lawyer, a LOT of money, and a heart of stone to do it, though.

stinawords
Jul 20, 2009, 09:45 PM
Adoptions are final. That is why there is that waiting period when ever an adoption is going through that the bio parents can change their mind (I believe it is three days to a week but not 100%). It is not your child it is their child.