Okay, I admit I have asked and had answered a similar question on here but I am struggling with how to get over someone who has gotten over you. It is so hard to think you have so much love with someone and then they walk out of your life without a word, without anything. It is such a heartbreak...

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As others have said, you're finally free. There's nothing to be sad about. This guy doesn't deserve you whatsoever.

You deserve so much better. Keep yourself busy and meet new people. Spend more time with family and friends. Don't allow yourself to think about him for even a second.

Oh that is so much easier said then done. I do okay during the day but night time and early morning when I wake up to find him gone it kills. How do you just walk out of someone's life after 3 years without a word? You go from talking everyday a few times a day to silence?? I just can't understand.

When you start to have these thoughts, try to remind yourself of all the bad things he did. Remind yourself of everything you hate about him to squash those feelings of missing him. Remind yourself that you would NEVER do what he did to another person, which proves what kind of guy he really is. And remind yourself that you deserve someone WAY better than what he was giving you.

It will get better over time, just try to stay strong and post on this forum if you need to vent :)

I understand, it's very tough to get over someone without some sort of closure. But there's no point wondering about that anymore, because if he talked to you, there's nothing that he could say to make this better. On the contrary, if you heard from him, it might make it even worse because it will only confuse you more.

Think about it this way, you were together for 3 years, but his apparent sudden change of feelings came to you as a surprise. He did not handle it well at all by leaving you hanging. As it turns out, you didn't know him as well as you thought. It's like he's a completely different person. The person you were in love with doesn't exist, as harsh as that may sound.

I won't disagree with you. It is definitely easier said than done. But try to take baby steps. You can't expect to get over him overnight. Focus on getting over him through slow and steedy progress.

Thank you. I feel like I'm being a pesty baby but I have never had this pain before and just utter disbelief that someone who said they loved me could be so cruel. I'm 33 years old and I am not naïve or immature I know life is not fair and not everyone is kindhearted but I thought I knew this man. I'm shocked and I think what hurts the most is having to admit what kind of man he really is.

Well now you know what kind of man he REALLY is... a venomous snake. Although I guess a snake isn't a man... you get my drift though.

It hurts I know... but you need to stop seeking answers to your questions. I did that with my ex and it drove me nuts. Finding the answers won't do you any good, just take the facts at hand: he obviously doesn't care about you, otherwise he would've broken things off a little differently... he probably cheated on you too.

I know it's hard but you have to stay strong and remind yourself that you DESERVE BETTER ;)

CLB: This is life. These times where we wonder how we will ever be normal, ever be sane and ever be love again, they come and go. Every time they occur, we become a better person. The life experience of losing, being torn down only to be rebuilt into something better.

You are a beautiful person with so much to offer. This didn't work out because someone better is out there for you. Even if you don't believe it or know it, we do... you will come out of this and you will be liberated to find someone who truly appreciates the wonderful person you are.

What an unfortunate waste of three years of your life, you must be devastated.

I think we have all been with a cheater and I know it can truly cut deep when they up and leave you, essentially for someone else.

You can't let this reflect on your ego. He wasn't good enough for you and there are great men out there. Men that wouldn't up and run, men that are faithful and true. Find what you can do that makes you happy. Too much time dwelling can only make this process more painful. You are not alone. I understand how you feel, the first step is to vent, let go of the anger and move on to worrying about you.

You do deserve better. Now you have a great opportunity.

It's true: it will get better, and you will find better. And I know, maybe it doesn't feel like it, even though you know it.

But I figure, whenever I think about it, either things will get better, like they did for everybody on this site and everybody I know, or for some reason I will just be some weird curious anomaly. I guess it just seems too weird to me that for some reason I wouldn't follow that general path too, especially when there are so many similarities with everyone else.

Yes, and not that I like revelling in others misery but it is nice to know I'm not alone and that I am not the only person this has happened to. I do know I was good to him and I am a good person but it is hard not to wonder what it is I did wrong or why I wasn't good enough for him to love and stay with.

You will wonder that for a while, then you will pick yourself up, dust off and move on.
You can wonder all day long, it will only help the depression. It's hard not to feel the blow, to try and trace your mistake.
But it's his character that is flawed, not yours.
Vent anytime, it will help you move on.