I've been in relationship for some months and I really feel the need to complete it by having baby. It seems wrong I know, but I'm thinking its just maternal instinct kicking in. I don't want to go through the labor pains really but everything else I want to do wholeheartedly. I can because I'm not financially independent and am still in school what should I do?

You first wait until a more reasonable time.
Also you should never just go getting pregnant it takes two to decide to have a baby to make it work in the best interest of the baby. Not to mention there are too many dead beat dads running around that didn't even want the result of their ''having fun''

In the meantime see if there is anybody who will let you babysit and help care for their baby because often teens and young adults are bent on wanting a baby until they have one and find out the reality of what a full time job it really is

Adopt a dog from a shelter. If you can deal with one for at least three years and be a fantastic pet owner with a sweet, well-behaved, healthy dog, you'll be just about ready to be a parent.

A few months is not even a relationship, if it was three years then maybe.

Next at 19 your bio clock is not even fully running.

Two parents with college degrees struggle to provide for a baby. A single parent with limited education and fewer job opportunities has often insurmountable problems to solve, such as the cost of raising a baby.

Add illness, emergency room visits, diapers, formula, food shelter and clothing, and it is a tough go.

If you are determined to have a baby, you should be informed.

Check this out:

TeenHealthFX - Answers - The Cost Of Raising A Baby (http://www.teenhealthfx.com/answers/Sexuality/43024.html)

I am almost 45, my husband is 43. WE are struggling to raise our children. We have college degrees, and I get paid a pretty penny for the work I do.

"Some months" is not long enough to know if this is the person you want to be tied to for the rest of your life. Yes, forever, whether you marry or not.

This economy is too bad to be having children just on a whim. You have a long time ahead of you to decide when to have children.

The best years of your life are approaching for you.You will have the freedom to enjoy your life without school restrictions and parental control.Don't you want to enjoy these precious years? You can't get them back once their gone.

You need to think about experiencing life to the fullest so that when the time comes to settle down with a life partner ,you can say,I had fun and I know a little about life and NOW I can fully commit to having a child and dedicating my time and energy to parenting.

I have no regrets because I did the things I wanted to do.I am happy with my career and I am fulfilled personally.I have the life experience that will help me to be a good mother and I have no regrets.

You may have the feeling of wanting a baby and that is not unusual but you must look at the bigger picture and understand that while it is a beautiful life enriching experience,it is also difficult ,time consuming ,expensive and there is no turning back when things get tough and believe me they will.

It takes maturity and strength and many other qualities to be a good parent and not many 19 yr.olds have those assets yet.

Enjoy your life first.Have fun while you are young and free.It passes so quickly.These are the best years,take advantage of them :)

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Wanting something and being ready for something are two different things.

I want a Jag. Am I ready for one? No. It's too fast, I can't afford it, the insurance alone would put me in the whole. What about repairs, maintenance, etc. etc. etc.

No, a baby isn't like a car, it's a lot more responsibility, and you can't trade it in for a new one if the first one doesn't work out.

Wait. That's all I can say.

You'll be just as eager to have a child when you've completed college, started making good money, have a home, a savings account and a husband.

Good luck.

First of all, above posters are right. At 16... I was in a relationship that went for 2.5 years... that ended.

At 19, I was in a relationship that lasted 3.5 years... that ended.

Could you imagine if a few months into the relationship (that went VERY well for that long), we had a kid... then we realized things weren't working out?

Also, I have friends that got married after high school and had kids. The rest of us went to college, while they raised their kids, had a full time job, and tried to get their bachelor's/associate's degrees during evening classes at community colleges. They're constantly exhausted, constantly struggling to pay the bills, etc.

I'm only 23... so 19 wasn't that far off... follow the advices given here: this is the time of your life. Enjoy it while you can. There is a time and a place for having children... and right now, is just not it.

Like another poster said, BABYSIT! Babysit as much as you can. Check into being an AuPair (which is when you are with a family 24/7 and your duties are to tend to the children's everey need. But bear in mind, an AuPair gets a day off, a parent does not (unless you can afford it, and at 19 that doesn't sound likely). Another plus to going this route is that you might find that you simply don't want kids anymore after dealing with the constant whining, demands, tantrums, etc... ) It can't hurt to at least give it a try. If you guys are so in love, he will still be there waiting for you no matter how long you are away being an AuPair... then again, if he's gone when you come back, take it as a blessing that you didn't have kids with this guy!