rosis66
Jul 1, 2009, 08:06 AM
I have been dating my girlfriend for over 5 years. We started dating in college, then did a long-distance relationship for a bit before I pursued a career opportunity in another city to be closer to her. Things have been great since I moved up here over the last two years. However, in the last month or so, things have been weird between us. She seemed very distant when we talked on the phone, and I was becoming concerned. However, when we were together in person everything was okay.
Recently, her grandmom passed away after a long sickness. It was expected and she seemed to be handling it well. I attended the funeral but she seemed to be taking no comfort in me being there and was very distant. Finally, a few days later I asked her what's going on. She said she's been feeling depressed lately about her life and that she is scared of all the changes we are both going through (she's buying a house, my job is very hectic and I may be going back to grad school). She asked for some time and for me to give her space. I asked her if this is the end, she said she doesn't know. She said she loves me and this is not about meeting other people or being single. I do not believe that there is anyone else in the picture, and I've done some things I'm not so proud of to verify that. She promised she would call me when she's ready to talk. After we hung up, her brother, who I am very close to, called me to tell me that he heard what happened. He said she called him and was crying and was very upset. He said he believes everything will work out and that she really loves me, and that she is just going through a rough time right now.
Should I be moving on? I have given everything I can to this relationship, and I know that this is not the time to be trying to win her back. This has happened before and I swept her off her feet and won her back, but this time I feel like it should be her turn to make the effort, not me. I have not called or talked to her in 5 days. I am really confused and need to her some advice. I don't feel like it's over, but I don't know if I can fix things anymore. What should I do?
Recently, her grandmom passed away after a long sickness. It was expected and she seemed to be handling it well. I attended the funeral but she seemed to be taking no comfort in me being there and was very distant. Finally, a few days later I asked her what's going on. She said she's been feeling depressed lately about her life and that she is scared of all the changes we are both going through (she's buying a house, my job is very hectic and I may be going back to grad school). She asked for some time and for me to give her space. I asked her if this is the end, she said she doesn't know. She said she loves me and this is not about meeting other people or being single. I do not believe that there is anyone else in the picture, and I've done some things I'm not so proud of to verify that. She promised she would call me when she's ready to talk. After we hung up, her brother, who I am very close to, called me to tell me that he heard what happened. He said she called him and was crying and was very upset. He said he believes everything will work out and that she really loves me, and that she is just going through a rough time right now.
Should I be moving on? I have given everything I can to this relationship, and I know that this is not the time to be trying to win her back. This has happened before and I swept her off her feet and won her back, but this time I feel like it should be her turn to make the effort, not me. I have not called or talked to her in 5 days. I am really confused and need to her some advice. I don't feel like it's over, but I don't know if I can fix things anymore. What should I do?