Hi. I am 20 years old and me and my girlfriend were talking about orgasims and I didn't know what it was so can someone please tell me what it is?

An orgasm (sexual climax) is the peak conclusion of the plateau phase of the sexual response cycle, characterized by an intense sensation of pleasure.[1] Experienced by both males and females, orgasm is controlled by the involuntary, or autonomic, limbic nervous system, and is accompanied by quick cycles of muscle contraction in the lower pelvic muscles, which surround the primary sexual organs and the anus. Orgasms are often associated with other involuntary actions, including muscular spasms in multiple areas of the body, a general euphoric sensation and, frequently, body movements and vocalizations are expressed.

Achieving orgasm
In men, the most common way of achieving orgasm is by the stimulation of the penis; while in women it is the stimulation of the clitoris. Such stimulation can be achieved from a variety of activities. In men, sufficient stimulation can be achieved during vaginal or anal sexual intercourse, oral sex (fellatio), or by masturbation. This is usually accompanied by ejaculation. In women, orgasm may be achieved during vaginal sexual intercourse, oral sex (cunnilingus), masturbation, or other non-penetrative sex, and may be by the use of a sensual vibrator or an erotic electrostimulation, besides other activities. Orgasm may also be achieved by stimulation of the nipples, uterus, or other erogenous zones. In addition to physical stimulation, orgasm can be achieved from psychological arousal alone, such as during dreaming (which may be a nocturnal emission).

Important in sexual stimulation are internal glands, called the Skene's glands in women and the prostate in men, two homologous structures. In common use, the term G-spot refers to these areas.

The stimulation can come from receptive intercourse, fingering, fisting, or penetration with a dildo or other sex toy.


Orgasm control
Orgasm control by self or by a partner managing the physical stimulation and sensation connected with the emotional and physiologic excitement levels. Through the practice of masturbation, an individual can learn to develop control of their own body's orgasmic response and timing. In partnered stimulation, either partner can control their own orgasmic response and timing. With mutual agreement, either partner can similarly learn to control or enhance their partners orgasmic response and timing. Partner stimulation orgasm techniques referred to as mutual masturbation, expanded orgasm, extended orgasm or orgasm control can be learned and practiced for either partner to refine their control of the orgasmic response of the other. Partners mutually choose which is in control or in response to the other. By learning and practice of the shared orgasmic response between partners, orgasm control can be expanded. This technique is known as expanded orgasm, a method of both controlling, enhancing, and extending the orgasmic response of either partner. Orgasm control is often most effectively practiced first by self masturbation, then by non-simultaneous mutual masturbation techniques shared with a partner as described with expanded orgasm. Practiced learned orgasmic partner responses learned this way can improve both orgasm control and orgasm expansiveness in any sexual interaction.


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Orgasm - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Orgasm)

You are 20, and you've never had an orgasm? Why is that? Or you just aren't familiar with that word?
I get confused!

I'm more confused that at a claimed 20 she doesn't know what one is... less that she hasn't actually had one yet.